Received Wedding Invitation As "& Guest"

That happened to me last year, too, but it was for a friend of DH's that I had only met a few times. I was pretty offended, especially since I wrote my name on the RSVP and then our escort card said "and guest", too. If it were family, I'd be even more offended.

If you interact with this person regularly, I would be seriously offended. However, if you only see them a few times a year, I wouldn't be offended at all.

Eh I wouldn't be. I would be offended if they hadn't invited you at all.

I agree with Megan.

Yeah, I would feel offended as well. But honestly, just let it go. It's not worth causing a stink over. FH cousin (we are friends on Facebook and see each other ~5 times a year) addressed my bridal shower invite to Tiffany (FHs last name) and I was like what? You can't take the time to look up my last name on Facebook??? And then she sent her wedding invitation to FH and Tiffany (his last name again). Ugh people. So I totally get why you're upset, and I would be too, but I would just let it go. People are dumb and let's leave it at that

My own nephew sent me an STD with "and Guest." NotFroofy and I have been married for five years now. I sent him a Facebook message giving him my wife's name for the invitation, but otherwise put it down to cluelessness.

There's about 5 people on FH list who's significant other we've never met. Some have been dating for years. Some married. We just.... Never met them for whatever reason. We don't remember all of their names so they're going down as "& guest". We've made efforts to meet everyone, and not everyone has been willing to grace us with their presence. So yea.... They're going to be nameless.

I would be offended/annoyed but not enough not to go. @AlexisM082 it's really not that hard to find out their names, it's rude of you not to make the small effort to do so.

I agree with Megan and ImtheOne on this. It would have been nice for them to address it to you specifically as well but not a requirement. They may just be clueless or doing all plus ones/significant others who aren't married yet as "& Guest". It is easy for people to get so caught up in the big picture of their wedding that they miss some of the details.

Putting & guest is certainly a breach on etiquette, they should have taken the time to make sure they had your name right. With that said, I wouldn't dwell on it, especially since they probably didn't know any better.

What can I say..... FH and I are kinda assholes lol. We're good with that.

I forgot the name of the girlfriend of one of DH's friends. DH forgot too. Well he thought he remembered, but when they rsvp'd back with a different name, the penny dropped that we had addressed it to her sister. I was SO embarrassed!

Try to let it go, people do weird sh*t when they are planning a wedding!

There were some invites that I put one person's name and the "and family". Does that make me rude sure, but I can garuntee that fail/bm didn't care that I didn't put fsil, fsil bf, and family on the invite

Addressing is complicated. I just spent the day addressing invitations. I'm sure I made some mistakes. But I did have this situation come up. I have never met one of FH'S Ushers ' s girlfriend. They live together and have a child together. FH did not know how to spell her first name and didn't know her last name. So I sent the friend a message and got the needed info. If I was her and saw our invitation come in the mail, I would be a little offended, but since the bride doesn't know me, I wouldn't let it upset me too much. Thinking about this, I tried to make the extra effort to get her name.

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I did a lot of "and guest" for coworkers, I have not a clue what their husbands names are, I never have met them! Nobody seemed offended, or at least did not tell me. I would be if they did not invite you at all.

Same happened to me last summer, and we've been together for ten years!! I was super hurt. But then, as I mentioned in a post last week, we just got their thank you card from the wedding (in August) so it's clear that they are just clueless.

Meh. There are worse things in the world.

@alexis, for those guests who are married you should do a Mr and Mrs Lastnamehere. At least you will have that covered, even if she didn't take his name. In that case it is better than guest. But what do I know?