Really just need to vent... Spent $10,000 on a 25 person wedding

You are a stone's throw away from us, count us in if you want! We love Vegas! It's good that the venue will upgrade for you, but that doesn't fill the void and ease the pain of the declines. That is why it is never good to be excited/relieved when people decline because you have another guest in mind that you care more for. I am seeing such a rate of declines on this board. Is it the summer season? Maybe it is vacation time and people already have travel plans and reservations. Hopefully the guests who declined will send a gift/card to show they are celebrating from afar.

Okay. Here's what you do. Cancel Vegas. change to NYC. Come to Central Park and have your wedding reception on a fab rooftop in the city with 25 of your closest friends. I'm available; I'll come and do it, and you'll have a fab time!

Oh honey...if we were close enough I would grab FH and we would bring something smashing off your registry. Hopefully they will upgrade you to the teeth and you can fully be present and enjoy the loved ones that surround you.

That is just awful, I'm sorry hon.

That is a large number of ppl not coming, was it a destination wedding or are you originally from there? If you cancel you wont get anything back correct with it being under month?

I LIVE IN VEGAS!!! What venue did you choose for your reception?

I COMPLETELY can relate. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I too am getting married in Vegas. If your wedding was around the time mine is I would def crash it! haha

We were expecting 60 people to show up but now one of our friends can't make it and it's creating a domino effect. We're still thinking 40 will at least come but oh well- more cake for me!

Where are you having your reception? PM me and we can talk.

On our local site, they do a "seat filler" list. an amount for the gift is agreed upon prior to all weddings. When you find out you are short for your minimum, you let everyone know that you need "seat fillers" Each guest brings the set gift (the last couple of years it has been $50pp-- about 1/2 to 1/3 of the average cost per plate around here).

FW thought it would be weird to go but i really really want to go to a wedding before ours! to see what i am forgetting!

The only one i could go to ended up cancelling her wedding last minute

I'm so sorry the hear about those buttholes. I guess with one month to go; it's too late to invite your colleagues from work? this really suck

It looks like your numbers are coming up. Your true WW friends are offering to come and bring a gift too! Even a bride on her honeymoon.

We would show up but I will be two weeks after surgery. I love to take off on the spur of the moment.

Wendy C. Basically described my wedding. Small is fun. I promise, you will still be overwhelmed with how many people you have to go around talking to and thanking, and you will still be busy as crap all night with events/activities/dancing etc. You will have FUN! I had people ask how I got so few people to come (Tons cancelled last minute on me too and there were empty seats everywhere). We still had a blast, there was tons of food and alcohol for everyone, and they thought it was really swanky because there was such an abundance of drink and food. And you know what, I bet yours will be the same! I also spent around that price, and even though I was upset about the extra cost at the time I dont even think about it now because it was a beautiful wedding and everyone loved it. ;-) Try to relax. I highly suggest NOT checking your phone before the ceremony- not even once. You dont want to think about who is coming and who isnt. It is going to be great, I promise!

That is terrible. I fear this happening to us : (

I'm so sorry. Thoe people suck!

I would go too!

I am so sorry. I know your feelings are hurt and the money just pisses you off. Why people can't just say I am not coming is beyond me.

I wish i was close to you I would come and bring you nice gift too.

{{hugs}}

I totally feel for you. Luckily, I sent out invites early enough to find out this was going to happen to me before I had booked anything that needed a deposit. (note to self: cancel the reception venue before they take one!)

When my invites went out, people didn't even bother to RSVP no. I got back 2 RSVP cards, one for yes to the reception from a local family member we see regularly, and one from an out of town family member saying they wouldn't make it, both on my side. Then the grapevine started trickling things down. My side of the family didn't want to travel anywhere (even to us) because it's my second wedding. His side found everything a joke because we wanted the wedding to be in Puerto Rico, and I guess that meant the local reception was out for them, too.

I was livid. So I wrote everyone off and we're eloping. I wish you'd found out early enough to have made other plans. I know it hurts, but just remember you still have him.

Why are people not coming? There has to be a reason.

If you are absolutely SURE they aren't coming, you can always invite more people...Coworkers, associates, neighbors, the cashier at the grocery store, the little old lady with the 15 cats...

I'm just saying that if you already paid for 60, make sure that at least 50 show up by sending out another round of invites...(they don't have to be formal invites, you could put something out to a select few on fb)

What a let down!! So sorry!

I really, really am sorry. I had a lot of bridal party drama with my wedding but the reception and everything / planning went better. I can't imagine being out that money!

I was not kidding. Send me the when, where, and registry info, and we are there.

Oh no! I'm so sorry! I feel like that is going to happen to me too. I say invite a B list if the vendors will not work with you. :-(

That really sucks! Maybe you can pack up the extra food and send it to a homeless shelter or something afterwards. Good karma for years!