Really just need to vent... Spent $10,000 on a 25 person wedding

Is your venue Wedgewood? I think I remember you saying that on a other post bc that's where we booked. I am so scared that this will happen to us. We did our contract for 50 people (the minimum) and figured we could add more of needed but really hope we at least get the 50.

I agree with the other ladies, maybe try to invite some other people? And in the end, even if you can't get more guests, just remember the inportant part is your marriage.

I've invited b's and c's. It looks to me like we gave too much credit to the people around us.

I called the venue - in tears just now and she said nothing can be done as all money has been paid to the vendors and that was their contract with them. Understandable. But upsetting.

She said do not worry everything will be magical. She also said she will make sure every upgrade possible will be done for us.

@Alejandra - no we didn't go with Wedgewood.

It's soooo disappointing, I know. Get the tears and frustration out now. Your wedding is going to be amazing regardless.

I know this feeling as well. We were heartbroken over people who we never thought would let us down.. who did. We had 31 people... and paid for 79. We spent over 22k on the wedding. Most of the people who didn't show, didnt even care enough to let us know... It ends up being our parents, brothers and sisters and their spouses, and a few sets of friends... and that was it.

@ soon to b Mrs B don't worry. I know easier said than done. But sometimes the smaller more intimate weddings are the best. everything WILL be MAGICAL. They will upgrade, you will have plenty of good food, drinks you will get to really spend time with your guests it will be more personal and amazing. you'll see. Also some Bs and Cs may show up as well. There's still hope, you still have a couple of weeks. fingers crossed for ya.

I'm so sorry! i would be devastated. i'm so scared this is going to happen to us with having so many OOT guests... :/

I am so sorry. This is my biggest fear! It's one reason I picked something where if we did end up with 25 it won't hurt us (actually it would save us a ton!) but of course only if they tell us a head of time they are not coming. I had a bday party myself and my daugther last month. We invited over 30 people 4 came I was pretty upset (had a great party though either way).

I would be hurt and mad all at the same time. I'm so sorry.

@FutureMrs.MacC. - Wow. I am so so so sorry. Quiet the shock right? I honestly don't ever want to see these people again. Did you still have a good wedding?

Thank you everyone. My amazing FH has been my best supporter cause of course me being the woman am a lot more emotional than he about this. I am so lucky and so blessed to have someone like him in my life. I have am amazing mom and brother, and god mother and amazing future family who will be there for us and I am so grateful for that. I am being positive this will be magical and it will be one of the best times of our lives - close tight and intimate. Thank you so much. ALL SMILES

Oh no I would be beyond devastated. I've had it happen on more than one occasion. Most recently it was my baby shower. Fh invited 10 "close" friends of mine .... 3 showed up. One flew in from TEXAS!!! I was so pissed. you are right, its a huge shock. ::hugs:: I am sure everything will be amazing. Can't wait for the pics

I'll be in Vegas that day for our honeymoon!! If you need to boost up you're count just let us know! :-)

I'm am so sorry as well. I'm glad your venue said they will upgrade what they can. Even though it will be fewer people than you originally thought, it will be those that TRULY love and care for you - and that will be special.

I'm going through some similar feelings right now. A lot of people I really totally thought would be there have declined. Thankfully it's not causing too much of a money difference, but I'm sad at all the people that can't make it.

When and where is it? I'll show up with my kids (if they're allowed) and bring a kickass gift from your registry.

Wow, I'm sorry this happened to you guys. I guess you know who your true friends are now.

I would be pissed too, but look on the bright side...you can upgrade some things and really have a fantastic time for the those who are coming, the people who truly love and support you and FH.

Did people have actual excuses or lame ones? That's just really strange that so many said no....

That really sucks. Really it does. I can't believe people would do that. Thwy have no idea how back breaking a wedding is, how special they should feel if they are invited to a budget wedding, yet they can't be bothered.

I'm just wondering though, howcome your venue made you sign a contract for 60 people/ pay for 60 people without even getting the final RSVP's in? My venue made me pay a deposit for the venue, but I only have to pay the full amount once I have all my RSVP's in, at least two weeks before the wedding.

Regardless, that is pretty dam crappy. Are they close friends/ family?

I am so touched by those here who have offered to join you for your celebration. Not often do those of us here get to meet in person. It is really a misfortune that this has happened but I think the heart and soul of your beautiful wedding will remain the focus. I know this is going to happen to us also. I am from different state and even close family members that I thought for sure would come have said no they cant afford the travel or can't take the time off. We notified 11 months in advance but I guess priorities are just that. Different for each of us. I say enjoy your day and those who do attend will have the honor of an intimate and fun time.

One way to look at it is, you now have a $400/person wedding budget. You can be as fancy and luxurious as you want to be!

Wow that sucks...

I don't understand how people can do that to each other.

Seriously though, I will be in Vegas from midnight on the 8th to midnight on the 12th.

IMO - Cry it all out now, then put it behind you, and have the time of your life in vegas. It will be magical and wonderful, and you will be married to the love of your life, surrounded by the people who do truly support and love you.