RANT!!! Little sister wants to get married before me.

I would be pissed as hell. Although my sister is older and has been with her boyfriend for a decent amount of time, she knew I was going to be engage before her and is respectfully waiting till my time is over to have hers, even though she is two years older than me. Personally I really wouldn't be mad if she got engaged now, but I would be SUPERRRRR pissed if her date was two weeks from mine. That shit wouldn't fly for one second with me.

That blows. And I'd being seeing red too, but being an outsider to this, I say let it happen. Let the train wreck occur. I think your family will see through the thin and cheaply made veil that she has created. What I foresee happening is that IF there is family that has to travel far, they'll choose yours. Your sister will be mad and what can you say? Shrug your shoulders and say, "I planned mine first, they already booked the travel to come."

I say look up how much it is to get a divorce in your state/county. The prefilled paperwork and maybe a check for that amount should be your gift to her.

Claudia, your post got me literally "laughing out loud." That got me feeling so much better.

After reading all the great supporting and helpful comments I am just going to happily plan my wedding and not worry about hers. If she gets mad because I can't help her with anything when she realizes wedding planning is much harder than she thought. That's her fault. I am just going to enjoy my wedding while hers may go down in flames. or it may not. Maybe she will have one. who knows. All I know for sure is my wedding is going to be beautiful and I will NOT let her get to me and ruin it.

I would be pissed but let it be.. Im sure you have put in more in order to make your wedding happen.. Please keep us posted with this one!

I would be really upset too. I think the best way is for you two to talk about it without pushing her away.... It sounds like she jumping into something she isn't prepared for. Maybe suggest premarital classes if she is religious? Im not very religious but it opened up my eyes abd my FH to alot of realities to what marriage truly is. I would highly recommend it To any couple

Amen to what Tina said.

Yikes, I'd be mad too!

I think the best thing to do is continue to support her but also inform her you won't be able to help as the date nears since you have your day to worry about!

June is not far off and she might find she needs to back up the date to properly plan and save.

Quick - make all the necessary dates for stuff NOW - bridal showers, YOUR bachelorette party, etc. That way you can have it set already and if she wants to do something on one of your weekends, you can tell her that you're already having yours then.

You can be mad. It's certainly worth being mad over.

But don't waste your energy. This problem will solve itself. No one is giving her money to pay for it. She can't afford her own wedding. It's 2 weeks before yours and if no one is that supportive, guess whose wedding your family will choose to attend? That's right: yours. I wouldn't even worry about it. Tell her congratulations and just keep planning yours.

I'm with Erica on this one. Plus since your wedding is near a holiday, I think it's okay to send out Save the Dates soon (people will want the information in case they need to travel, they would probably be more likely to come to your wedding as it's a long weekend). Aside from that, I would tell her that you wish her luck but because you will be busy with your own wedding, you won't be able to offer much assistance with her wedding. Were you planning on having her in your wedding? You may want to discuss how her upcoming wedding will affect her ability to help with tasks typically performed by the wedding party.

I do not envy your upcoming holidays. Have you already announced your engagement to the family? If not, I'd let them know now so that when she announces it, they can also go "Huh?"

If your parents aren't going to give her any money, you guys will have issues in the future (because she'll probably make little digs), but you can always point out (even if it's not true) that it's difficult to pay for two weddings in one year and you called it first.

As someone who is close to my sisters, I would super annoyed because I know that I would not be much help to them if they tried to get married 2 weeks before me and I would really want to help out. That being said, maybe you should explain to her that you are happy for her but if she waited a little bit, or got married like 2 month earlier (she won't be able to, but you can always suggest it to show your support) that you would be able to help out a lot more. Plus, explain to her that you were looking forward to having her around when you are stressed so close to your wedding and if she is on her honeymoon (if she plans to go on one) then she will not be around at all.

Lastly, I would explain the financial burden of being married and on her own. Maybe make her attend a financial type class or workshop with you (always a good thing to go to) so that she realizes that her lack of job and his min wage job will probably not get them her dream wedding, but will also make married life ha

I had a similar situation with my sister.....I am 7 years older but she was engaged first, and even though I wanted to get married before her so I can start a family (as I am 32), I respected her and waited and was married 3 months after her. Its a tough situation and I hope you two can come up with some sort of compromise!

I'd be mad too, but like you said, she's a hormonal 18 year old.

there's not much you can do. she's making a mistake in my book, and odds are she'll figure that out one way or another.

I'm sorry this is happening. Jealousy can make people to make some big mistakes I think.

All the other nonsense aside, all I am going to say is don't change your date.

It seems as though she may be trying to get a rise out of you so don't give her that. Just smile and act like you're happy for them because in reality it's most likely not going to happen anyway just continue planning your wedding as usual

I would love to just sit and talk to her like many have suggested. However, it does no good because she is so focused on herself and what she wants. So I guess, like many have said, all I can do is let her do her thing, while I do mine. There is no competition (at least on my part.) But I know regardless of how hard she tries, my wedding will be 10x better than hers and I refuse to let her take that away from me. Her wedding is just a disaster waiting to happen.

So next time she tries to bring me down or try to sabotage my wedding plans, I will just daydream about myself roasting s'mores over her wedding that will most likely be going down in flames and ignore her.

I am probably the only one here but I wouldn't care (about the date) won't stop me from getting married. I would just continue on personally. Honestly, I don't think because I was proposed to first OR I am older I should get my wedding first and have no clue where that falls into tradition but all in all she is grown she made a choice, you enjoy your wedding and focus on that. Why let it both you? Those who love you will come I don't see it as a sabotage personally. Even if she as trying sometimes you really see peoples true colors during wedding planning always best to know who is in your corner sooner vs later. IMO.

Also and I'm being serious - keep your ideas and dresses and colors to yourself. Don't tell her any wedding information about your day. She seem competitive so while you aren't, I would keep that a secret from her or you may end up seeing is 2 weeks before your date.

QUICK hide your invites, vases, envelopes, dress, shoes, veil and everything else, dont let her borrow any of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!