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RANT!!! Little sister wants to get married before me.

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Staci, on November 25, 2013 at 1:39 AM

So my little sister who is 18 just recently got engaged last month. I have been happy for her and supporting her in every way I know how because no one else in the family is. They are all irritated that she is only 18, jobless, and has only been with her FH for 13 months. The whole family also thinks she should respectfully wait for me to get married as I was engaged first and am also the oldest daughter in the family. (They are very much into tradition.) She just now came down stairs all excited that her and her FH have chosen a date. She decided she wants it on June 22nd. TWO weeks before my wedding. I am absolutely P***ED. I have no idea what to even say to her. All I could do was walk away. How do I approach her about this? Is it wrong that I want to scream at her and tell her she needs to change the date? Should I just cool down, wait, and then tell her that she needs to change it? Or should I just let it be? Ugh I am SO MAD.

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VIP July 2014
Staci · on November 26, 2013 at 12:49 AM
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From this point I have decided to keep everything private from her. She won't even get to know the venue until i have no choice but to tell her.
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Champion October 2009
2d Bride · on November 26, 2013 at 1:08 AM
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If you approach her at all on this, I'd suggest emphasizing the inconvenience to family members who will be coming from out of town--and may not be able to afford two trips in two weeks. But seriously, I think the date of her wedding is the least of the issues. She's getting married when she is 18, jobless, has only known the guy for 13 months, and has her whole family against her. I'd be the bigger person--she's going to be facing enough problems in her life.
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Master June 2014
DlovesD · on November 26, 2013 at 4:59 AM
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Because she's your little sister and she is being a brat I would say "listen you can't have your wedding that date, it's too close together for our friends and family to have to swing financially."

They'll be broken up way before that anyways.
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VIP September 2014
FutureMrsNoel · on November 26, 2013 at 7:13 AM
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From a close friends experience be happy! I mean revengeful happy! Gotta think of it this way, your family is helping with your wedding, and supporting your wedding. They do not support hers, and are not helping her. Therefore her wedding day will most likely be a disaster or the time frame leading up to it will be. You and your family will not have time to partake in any events for her wedding simply because your wedding is more important right now. Unfortunately she will learn the hard way, 18 may be the number to sympolize an adult but it certaintly doesn't make your mind click to that setting! She has some serious learning to do. Enjoy your wedding planning, be a "nice" sister about her wedding but explain to her that this is interfering with your wedding so don't expect the bells and whistles when it comes to attention!
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Expert June 2013
Megan · on November 26, 2013 at 7:38 AM
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I don't care what anyone has to say. I would've punched my sister in her throat. Point blank!
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Master November 2013
T. · on November 26, 2013 at 7:46 AM
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Wow, I was just writing back to you on my own post this morning about this situation, and up this thread pops right under mine! When you get a chance, I left you a little note on my last thread. Please read, I hope it makes you feel better.

All my love! xoxo
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