Quitting as bridesmaid

That's a tricky situation but I think at this point you should talk to the bride. Maybe try talking to the other girls and go to her as a group to talk to her. I know I would want to know if there was turmoil among my girls and something that was threatening them taking part in my wedding so I could get a handle on the situation. Good luck!!

You must speak to the bride and tell her your honest opinion.

Have the bride decide what she truly wants and you can decide how to handle her reaction.

As a bride, I would truly want to know what's going on before you quit. Remember your friend picked you to be by her side, not her mother.

But is her wedding on 8/20/16? If so, it might be too close to stress her out now. It's 10 days away!

ETA: just saw that the shower was on 8/20. When is the wedding??

Go talk to your friend! She can handle her mother. Tell your friend you want to stand up with her on that day, but due to the mothers antics you can't participate in the other events. Don't just bail on the poor girl unless you are willing to end your relationship.

I have been in this situation only the bride new because the mother did it in front of her. I straight up told the mother I was in the wedding for the Bride not her. Go to the shower, put a smile on your face. At the end of all of this you are there for the bride. Say whatever you feel like to the mother who cares about her feelings. let the bride know what is going on. If she is anything like my friend was she won't do a damn thing about it but at least she will know. Don't just quit.

You friend needs to stand up to her mom about this, it isn't right that she's (the mother) is putting you through this. Like the other ladies have suggested, I would speak with your friend, tell her how this is making you feel and what the ultimate outcome will be if this continues (you leaving the bridal party, and possibly creating a window for the other bridal party members to leave too).

I think you need to talk to your friend. Give her a chance to stand up for you. This could change or end a friendship without a chance to make it work. I respect you don't want to upset the bride but there is a line and if she is unable to tell her mother to back off then if might be better to ask if you can attend as a guest. Sorry you are going through this. My best wishes.

Definitely talk to the bride.

And, because it's that time of month for me, I can't help but feel quitting would make the MOB feel like she "won" And give her more fuel for the fire ("see, I told you those girls were no good"). To which I would still participate, make the bride more informed, kill the mob with kindness and hopefully really irritate her in the end, lol. But that's me...

Realistically, the bride really wants you there and I think she would be hurt if you just bounced without trying to find a resolution with her first.

1. Talk to the bride.

2. Wth, stand up to the mother! I'm all for respecting your elders but you're an adult and she needs to respect and treat you as such. No ma'am!!!

I'd want my bridesmaid to talk to me in the likely chance she doesn't know what all is going on. If she doesn't seem to care, then just tell her that you have too much going on right now to be involved in a lot of excess drama and hope that you will still be able to attend the wedding.

Honestly, I would have a conversation with the bride about what is happening. She needs to know her mom is acting crazy. You don't want her to think you are leaving her wedding party for no reason. Explain the situation so you have a clear conscience.

I would hate it if my bridesmaid quit because of my mother and never talked to me about it. She's your friend, talk to her, she definitely needs to know this.

Tell the bride her mom is hijacking everything

I would talk to the bride first.

Don't quit on your friend. I would talk to the bride but choose your words carefully because that's still her mom. You don't want to lose your friendship because of her mom's pettiness! I hope it works out for you!

I would talk to the bride first. If my bridesmaid just up and quit I would feel some type of way and our friendship would probably never be the same.

I would definitely talk to your friend first! It doesn't have to be an exhaustive list of "and then your mom did this, and then she said that" - it can be as simple as "hey - just wanted to give you a heads up that your mom has cancelled everything I've planned and is planning it instead. I feel pretty uncomfortable in this situation but want to be there for and celebrate with you, I think I'm going to take more of a backseat when it comes to planning anything"

I would be honest with your friend the bride. Tell her that her mom is verbally harassing and abusing you DAILY and also recruiting her friends as well, and you just can't take it anymore. That is absolutely unacceptable.

U can't quit an not tell ur friend... ur a bridesmaid bc u love ur friend, and she loves u.

I would tell the bride about all of this. Ask her if she wants you in the wedding. If so let t be known you will have no more discussions with her mother. Do not engage with her at all. Let her know if she harasses you that you'll file charges. Seriously. I know that may seem extreme but she's being abusive towards you. Don't talk to her any more. Just the bride.

Good luck!