Proposal with no E.ring...Can you wait until your wedding day?

I aagree! A ring doesn't make the marriage!

Eh.. FH asked if I would marry him before (not as a real proposal but as a real question) and I said yes but I told him we weren't engaged until he got a ring and I didn't get too far into planning our wedding without it. BUT he didn't propose to me with an engagement ring, he proposed to me with the ring he bought for our first year anniversary (the one I told him I wanted to be proposed to and was bummed when he didn't propose with it that year...).

He actually had put a payment down on a diamond e-ring before proposing, which I didn't know about and I was just as happy to accept the ring he'd already given me The E-ring is GORGEOUS though. He did well

I agree that the ring does not make the marriage. However, it's nice to have something, anything really to indicate you are engaged. I didn't care if FH gave me a ring out of a gumball machine, I just wanted something on my finger to show the world I was his!

NotFroofy and I agreed that we didn't want engagement rings. The first rings to symbolize our commitment were our wedding rings (which were plain gold bands with no stones). Both of us figured we were able to say we were engaged if the occasion demanded it without needing to show proof in the form of a ring.

I didn't need the ring when we got engaged and he also didn't have one, unfortunately at the time of the proposal we weren't the most financially stable people but a year later we a finally getting ahead and it feels good, I love the engagement ring that he did eventually get me and reproposed with and now I cannot wait for our wedding

I don't have my ering yet. FH proposed without a ring. In Aug I picked my ering and he's putting deposit little by little. He said I should get my ering between March to May. I still say we are engaged but he said once he re propose that will be our new engagement date. am so excited. So far I have everything I want for my wedding so by the time he propose all I want to do is enjoy being engaged and just saving

I got an e.ring with my proposal, it was a gift from his mom, who's finger is two sizes smaller then mine. She had also already had it re sized and the band was too stretched to up size it again. We got the band rebuilt, but it took a month! I was itching to get it back the whole time.

So I know it can be odd to have someone ask to see your ring, and you don't have one to show. But I still told everyone that I was engaged, And it added another level of excitement to it, bc when I finally did get my ring back, I was able to go back and show everyone.

With that being said, I love the symbolism behind my ring, I'm glad I have it. But it's not a requirement of being engaged, if something happened and I didn't have the ring anymore, I would miss it, but still be planning a wedding.

On a slightly different note, my FSIL and her wife bought each other rings while they were engaged, she lost hers and went on planning the wedding without a ring, as they couldn't afford a new one...

As the wedding started to get closer there was still no ring, until one day while she was unpacking Christmas decorations it was sitting at the top of a box, as if it had been waiting all the while, was her ring. She screamed so loud that her wife (then fiance) came running into the room bc she though something was wrong. So she went without a ring for almost a year and was just as happy.

He asked me without a ring. I said yes, and picked out my own rings later. He wanted to do a "real" proposal so we had a redo on the beach.

My fh asked me to marry him (a few days ago actually) without a ring. The ring doesn't matter. I picked out my ring and it's just being resized. I do feel a little weird with everyone knowing we're engaged but I have nothing to show, but it's not important. I can't wait to have my ring! It'll be ready Christmas Eve!

The fact is that we are in strained financial times. So, I have nothing against a couple that wants to go to the courthouse or just get wedding bands. If you don't have it, the rings can wait.

Overspending is what got America into the mess that it's in now.

Though it's nice to have the symbol on your finger, the real emphasis should be on the willingness to say and act on those vows.

I agree Yardiegirl, I don't think you need a ring to be engaged, I will be honest in saying that I prefer that the proposal come with ring. Now with that being said, I didn't want my FH going in debt to get me one, so I told him to get me what he could afford. He bought a very simple wedding set and then an extra band later because I wanted a wider look and he didn't break the bank and paid cash up front. I'm so glad he kept it within his means.

FH is just way too traditional to not give me a ring. We went ring shopping together, he picked one out and I liked it, then he not so sneakily went back and put a down-payment on it. If it wasn't just for the ring, we would have been engaged long ago, it was something he wanted to do and he is always saying "I would have got you a more expensive one, you know," to which I reply "I don't care how much you spent on it! I love it, it's my ring!" It's about the sentiment behind it to me, not being a huge, expensive thing. I also told him years ago I wanted my engagement ring paid for by the money he saved from quitting smoking, and it was. Now if only he could help me pay for this wedding the same way...

I'm walking around with my promise ring. Basically all my famil and friends knows we are engaged and whats to see my ering. I cant wait to show my ering off. Ughh It's driving me nuts.

My FH friend he got the ering when they got married. He was still paing off his wife's ering till their wedding day. I understand why it took that long 6K ring. Mines it's taking 10 months to have it. I told him I don't need him to propose but he wants to cause the way we got engaged was all talk. He would like to do it the way it supposed to.

I'm with Judith- My FH is way too traditional to propose without a ring. I went ring shopping with my mom & then she went with my FH to make sure he picked out a really pretty ring

I guess if I were in that situation I wouldn't think it was a real engagement until I had an e-ring but that is just me. I wouldn't consider it a real proposal because my FH is a huge joker and would feel like he was just doing it to be funny. That's just me though.

I am engaged and without a ring. I have my hurt set on a pink 1 crt diamond in a pave setting with white diamonds surrounding. For those of you that don't know open another browser, now google 1crt pink diamond price. Right that is why I don't have a ring just yet, he loves me so much and wants me to have what I want and is trying to get it from Dubai.. I'll be honest if I can get it I want it but if not then Im okay with that too. If the ring presence of the ring or lack there of will keep you from saying yes, what is your foundation of marriage made of?

We talked about getting married and it was our plan to do so prior to me moving abroad to Germany. FH and I decided we'd look for rings on our next trip back to the states, we visited my family and he asked my mother's permission to ask me (my Dad & brother have both passed away), while we were vacationing in San Diego we looked at rings and opted to design one and have it custom made together, he picked up the ring when I didn't know about it and proposed at the end of our trip. We told people we planned to get married before we ever bought the ring, and there was a time when I wasn't sure I'd get a ring and I would have still married him. I'm marrying tomorrow in a German ceremony, without the wedding dress or my family but I couldn't be happier and we are still planning a wedding for 2013 with family in the US.

I didn't get mine right away and I had no problem with it. I just got it on Christmas so I waited about 7 months for it.