Private Facebook group for wedding guests?

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Personally I think it's a good idea. FHS family has a secret fb group and do this for all of the weddings and events. As long as people who aren't invited are not included I think it's fine.

I don't know about the etiquette, but I know there are girls on here who have done it. You could also post something similar on your website.

Also, your role in this would be putting it together. You are the bride, not the camp counselor.

My sister did this to gather everyone's contact information. I honestly just ignored it. If anything it tells people who you did invite so they can coordinate without hurting anyone's feelings. I just don't think I would personally use it. I would just contact the person I wanted to ake, not talk about it in front of the entire guest list.

Why can't the people that are interested coordinate it themselves? As a bride, you will drive yourself crazy trying to discuss/help coordinate the accommodations and travel plans of your guests.

Yeah, they can handle it themselves, especially if that is a common thing for you guys. If you do, it will just give you more things to come here and complain about

When did world cease to be able to adult with out Facebook groups.

People have been hosting weddings for years. Without social media. Facebook and even without email.

Let it be. So trying so hard.

Yes, please stop trying so hard. These are adults you are talking too. just weird.

"Oh lets share a room at Sci Fi's wedding?"

" I wasn't invited"

"Ok never mind, ill ask Bob".

Emmy, save the snark. I'm hardly on here anymore except to comment on other people's posts. You only need to be verbally slapped so many times before you stop sticking your face in the line of fire. This was just one problem I couldn't google a definitive answer for.

What I'm trying to save are the hurt feelings of Joe asking Tom to room with him, then finding out Tom wasn't invited. Or, having to field all the messages of "Hey, is Tom invited to the wedding, I wanted to ask if he wanted to go in on a room together." I'm not playing camp counselor, I'm just setting it up, inviting the people invited to the wedding, and letting it run itself. I don't need to coordinate travel plans, they can do that, they'll just know who to do it with. It's that, or including a copy of the guest list with their invitations (joke).

So, since most of you don't think it's a horrible idea, and of most those of you who do I don't care what you think anyway, I'll let you know how it goes.

This kind of thing should happen outside of the bride, if it happens--much like the shower, it should happen FOR you, without you actually having involvement.

There are many reasons for this...

1) so the bride doesn't have one more thing to worry about;

2) so the bride isn't aware of any drama that pops up because Cousin Albert offered to share a room with Aunt Cecelia but NOT Aunt Amelia; and

3) PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY. If it turns out to be a disaster or someone has hurt feelings you can just say "Oh I'm sorry, I wasn't aware of that. My mother/sister/now-ex-best-friend planned that. I had no idea."

OK here we go again. Why ask if you aren't going to listen to advice? Send out your FB message.

No one thinks your wedding is as big of a deal as you do. Assuming feelings will be hurt is a little self centered.

I agree with AMW... I can see your point that you don't want Sue asking Lily only for Lily to find out she wasn't invited.

So you would just say on the FB Page "The people here are the only ones invited, please don't reach out to anyone else in X group as we didn't invite them." ??? This is what confuses me

I'm going to ask a question than do whatever I wanted to do to begin with.

Your friends and family can handle these details. These situations were taken care and handled without problem long before Facebook showed up and will continue to be handled after Facebook becomes irrelevant

I agree with those who think that this is probably a waste of your time. It may also give the appearance that you are coordinating the hotel room sharing and extra activities, which will create more problems for you than you wanted. They are adults and can figure it out. Answering a few questions such as "is so-and-so invited?" is going to be way easier.

I have groups of friends (hs friends, college friends, etc) and they will talk amongst themselves to figure stuff out. I'm sure people can figure it out on their own, or may ask you point blank, is so and so invited?

I feel like the fb group might be complicated/lead to issues that you don't need to be dealing with

I actually don't think it's a terrible idea (but I'm more lenient than most on these boards, haha), and you are trying to make things easier on your guests. That said it does sound like it would be unnecessary and possibly more stress on you. How many of your guests are OOT/will definitely need a hotel?

I'll probably drop texts to those invited letting them know that people x y and z will also be there if they are interested in going in for a room, but even if I didn't people could make the decision to either reach out to friends they know are attending or decide to room by themselves.

Emmy didn't even give you any snark to begin with...you need to calm down.

You seem really intent on biting off more than you can chew. I would not even worry about this. They can figure it out themselves.

Stop telling people how to respond to you. Seriously. If you don't like it, stop posting. You're snide comments get you nowhere and you come off sounding extremely entitled.