Private Facebook group for wedding guests?

I don't think it's a bad idea, but I think you should have someone else organize it! Guest accommodations/travel plans (outside of putting suggestions on a website or setting up a room block) is definitely not something that will make planning more simple for you!

I wonder how people managed to plan and attend weddings before social media...

I don't think is a bad idea since my cousin did something like this for her wedding a few years ago. It was helpful but Most of the OOT could not attend.

Isn't "Tom" eventually going to find out he isn't invited anyway? What difference does it make whether the people who aren't invited find out at the planning stage or when they see you (and your mutual friends) post photos on social media the day of?

I agree with previous posters - you are just giving yourself another headache (or several) to deal with.

I don't see the problem with particularly for lots of out of town visitors

Make it a secret group not just a private one and make sure all post on the page and people joining have to be approved by an admin (and only make yourself and one other very close person an admin).

I made one and had no problems.

I just made an event... That other "hosts" could invite people to (like FH, mom, etc) and it's helped tremendously. It's just like having a website that you don't tell EVERYONE about.

I think it's overkill, unnecessary, and more clutter to your friend's FB pages. This isn't a club they're joining; it's an invitation. Adults have been figuring it out for years, without hotel blocks, STD's and shuttles.

Hand up for a horrible idea. And more stuff for you to do, which, apparently, you're going to do anyway.

I don't think it's a terrible idea and I totally get your intentions, but it does seem like extra work for you. If you're up for it then I say go for it.

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I don't see an issue with this...other than it's unnecessary work for you...but I will say that I don't know if I'd want to see some people that I thought as a guest I might room with making plans potentially without me. Does that make sense? It's one thing if Sally texts Alice and they decide to share a room, but it's a little odd for everyone to hash it out in front of each other in a public forum. (That's my slightly critical thought.)

I can say all of my OOT friends dealt with this stuff on their own. There were a couple people that had asked me for someone else's number in my friend group that they'd met a bunch of times but hadn't exchanged info and that's as far as I went with helping them plan stuff.

Also you can't stop people from being chatty and someone realizing their not invited that way so I'd cross that worry off your list too. They're not invited for a reason and they'll find out anyways that their friends are going and not them.

I'm just confused. So you don't want people you're not inviting to find out? Won't you getting married without them being there sorta give that away?

Holy crap, there are a lot of snarky responses on here. Wow. If there's one thing I cannot stand, it's the self-righteousness of people behind a keyboard. And the OP even put "a simple 'Not a good idea' will suffice". It's like you can't post a question these days without quickly dodging behind a pillow as guard.

Anyway, I found this post because I am considering a FB group myself -- similar premise, but less about travel plans and more about the social aspect. We have a pretty casual, low-key wedding. We recently moved, and have literally no friends in our new neck of the woods as we both have been working long hours since the move. Beyond that, all of our friends are pretty scattered out coast-to-coast anyway, with a couple of "hubs". I am considering the FB group as a way to not only remind people of the wedding before the invites officially arrive (and post save-the-dates). Also as a way to let people mingle and amp up the energy for the day-of. If people want to coordinate travel/lodging, that's totally fine too.

After visiting this page, I am left still totally clueless about whether this would be seen as tacky or kind of novel.

I'm going to start by saying I sort of agree that these FB groups for events seem silly. No one really uses them... I've never seen anyone who's invited to join actually actively use the group to share much of anything. THAT BEIF SAID... while they may seem trite they can serve a purpose guys and to just dismiss using them for a wedding out of hand seems incredibly stuffy, like in an overly snobby accent ' to create a FB group for your wedding would reduce the overall dignity of the event'... Give me a break!? Its a cheap, easy, effective way to send a digital save the date/invite to the guests who use the platform (which in my circle is like everyone, even the really old folks have gotten on board). It offers an easy way to communicate changes to the event's schedule or location as soon as you know about it. As the bride I wouldn't bet on the group being a big hit, like I've never seen people invited blow up the group wall with new posts, comments, questions, so the idea that this group will somehow become a huge time suck for her to me is really is laughable. I myself was considering making one, looking online for advice, then saw this page full of snobby sounding former, current, or future bridezillas looking down their nose at the practice. I have to say it galvanized me in favor of it. Get over yourself guys... In 6 months no one is going to remember say whether you made a FB group for your event, much less let it mar their memory of your wedding.

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From reading the replies on the thread the idea of a facebook page is at best unnecessary and at worst tacky/super stressful.

I completely agree that this is just 'eh'. I would never use it and fully believe that adults have been planning events before the internet with no issues. Also, if someone asked me if I wanted to share a room at a wedding and I wasn't invited, I'd just go 'No, I wasn't invited'. I'd find out eventually, not that big a deal.