Presents for Future In-laws?

A gift? They have not offered any help with anything to do with the wedding. His mother is only excited because his brother who lives in MS is coming and his sister who lives in CA are coming. His mother also would not book a mani/pedi or her hair appointment with me, my mom, and my BMs. His mother has even made mention that they are only staying for dinner at the reception since we are having dancing and a full open bar and both of those things make her and 'Pastor' uneasy. I feel like they really don't even care.

Welcome to WW Elisabeth. You dont' have to purchase the in laws a gift , only if you want to. With your situation, I think it may be a good gesture to start the bonding process with your FMIL. It is possible that she cares, maybe she just isnt overly excited since this is her son's second marriage. Only she knows. Give her some time, hopefully she will come around.

I thank you for your kind words, Kimberly...I see that you are the week before me...are you getting the excited/nervous feeling yet or is it just me? :-)

You are very welcome. I am so excited , can't wait until that day gets here. I purchased my FMIL wedding day attire. I also ordered her this necklace It is inexpensive but it could be a nice little gesture. They are made from scrabble tiles and the seller has them in other colors and designs as well. If you are interested I will look her up and post the link for you.

That is beautiful! :-) I am using hot pink and light pink as my "pop" colors among black and white...this is perfect. Thank you

I would consider getting them a lovely framed photo for their hallway .

My understanding with uber religious is adultery is one if the few legitimate reasons for divorce so hopefully they come to terms with it over time. If they really liked first wife it could take a while. It's unfortunate they don't plan to stay, my fils aren't staying for brunch the next day and my feelings are hurt so I imagine them not staying for the dinner smarts a bit more .

I like the idea of a framed photo!

First off WELCOME! my opinion is his mom and dad will be in your life for a very long time! try to make the best of it. thats all you can do!

i think the picture frame idea or maybe even write her a letter saying how thankful you are that she raised such an amazing man, and how excited you are to spend the rest of your life with him? some thing little like that...

I hope it works out! and good luck!

These are all wonderful ideas, ladies. I appreciate your kind words and understanding.

I love the idea of a framed photo since every time I walk down the hall there is a space where the other picture was :-)

I agree with Kimberly, that some type of gift would be a kind gesture on your behalf as your families all become one.

I've seen some lovely embroidered handkerchiefs on Etsy, with cute sayings like "Thank you for raising your son to become the man of my dreams" and things like that. I'm considering something like this for my FMIL.

Welcome to WW!!! wow did his ex-wife know my hubbys ex-wife? She did the same thing to him while he was in Korea! WOW... however my inlaws couldnt wait to take her pictures down, they like me WAY better than her, lol.. i wonder why. As for a gift, I would get them something.... for many reasons.. for raising a wonderful son.. who serves his country, for his honor and integrity, etc...ask him what they like.. my inlaws are hard for me to buy for...heck my parents are too! lol GL

Sabrina, they probably did know each other...lol They barely even saw her. He would usually go to family functions alone because she was "too tired" or "didn't feel good". I make a point to go to everything I can. I travel a lot for work. (I am a federal law enforcement officer) but do try to go to what I can even if it means getting off a plane, going home, and getting a shower then driving an hour and a half to their house. I am not sure why they don't like me. I am everything she never was...I think you and the other ladies are correct. We should get them something...a little something at least...

I'm getting my FMIL a gift bag with a photo album, yankee candle, and flowers. I want her to feel special. All together its only costing about $45 but she would be happy with anything. My best advice is to always be courtous and respectful your in-laws will accept you as time passes. If/when you have children the bond will strengthen. good luck!!!!

Josie, are you getting her one of those wedding day scented candles? that one smells yummy. I like the idea of a gift bag...maybe I will make a gift bag with a photo frame, a candle, and the necklace Kimberly L showed me above.

You ladies have been so helpful...:-)

Women who cheat on their men in the military make me sickkk! You would think his parents would be more understanding of the divorce. I agree with the ladies above though, that it might be a nice gesture to warm them up to you more. Good luck with the FMIL! As far as specific suggestions, I have no idea because I am still unsure what to get mine

I agree, Brittany. She had the nerve to tell him the affairs were his fault for "leaving" her. :-/ Whatever! Good luck with your gift hunting...:-)

You could also make an album for them on Snapfish or another photo site. You can get a nice, hardcover bound book and tell them how great it will look on their coffee table Put a nice big picture of FH and his mom in there somewhere, and I'm sure she'll love it.

Kimber, that is a great idea...I know my mom would love that...