Prenup

I think they are fine as long as you are both agreeable to the terms.

I think they are fine as long as you are both agreeable to the terms.

@Karen. Huh? Everything on this forum is just opinion, not fact. I always provide a disclaimer that I am offering my judgment and not legal advice since that would get me in trouble. My personal judgment, as someone who has seen many a prenup, is that this would strike me as very shady. The details are between OP and her FH of course. His terms may be fair, which is what I said at the end. I sense that you did not really read my comment.

I was pro prenup, but when I went and talked to a lawyer about it, I decided that it wasn't for us. I have a lot of assets and make a lot more than my fiancé, but a prenup only covers you for the state in which the prenup was drafted. So, if you move out of that state or internationally during your relationship, your prenup may or may not be valid. It's up to the state to determine if they'll honor it.

Plus, I live in a state that considers all assets that I have before marriage as mine forever (community property). Only those things that we acquire together could be considered as "ours" and up for being split which I think is the right thing to do anyway.

Thank you everyone for your help!

We discussed getting one as we are both older. We contacted a lawyer who told us that basically what you have before you marry is and always will be yours (for example, I purchased the house we now live in and have made all payments on the house - the house will be mine even after we are married and if we get divorced. It was mine before we married). The only thing that would be disputed is what you purchase or acquire after you are married - unless we wanted to define how we would split what we acquire during the marriage then he said we didn't need one. This may only be the law in Texas...

ETA - Texas is a community property state, just as FutureMrsG mentioned!

We are. We both have property and assets. I do not want any confusion or misunderstandings down the line. As an attorney I've seen divorce bring the WORST out of people (nature of the industry) so I am slightly biased.

We both are coming into the realationship with assets but have discussed what will happened to them in case of a divorce and are leaving it at that.

Not for us. We don't need and don't want it.

This my advice if future rich in laws push it on you. Don't sign that shit!!!!!! Controlling ass rich parents. Look what money did to them.. Plus they first generation rich they never had to sign that crap. You want that same tainted ass money to do the same thing to your marriage???? Trust me I signed a prenup 8 years ago regret doing what my in-laws forced everyday since. It would be a blessing if my money controlling MIL gave us the option of no prenup = no trust money for my wife. The fu$$ if I care I make more than enough for my family and if she don't like that she could happily stepped aside and found some other chump to sign on the dotted line and proceed to plot ways with lawyers wills and trusts to keep her Daddy's money away from me and only in the hands of people related to her Daddy by blood. Prenup sound good when you are naive, in love and you want to do everything you can to impress your new RICH in laws. However it only takes a few years of supporting your family 100% off your income and than Wifey cops a new car all cash in her name only because, "we have a prenup, this was bought with my trust money." Really after we lived 100% off my income our whole marriage this is how you gonna play me? A family car in your name only? So you don't work our whole marriage but dip into the trust for a significant asset in your name. Meanwhile I been busting my butt for you and our kid paying rent, bills, vacations and I got zero assets to show for it. You tell anyone that wants a prenup that they don't want marriage. They are more concerned with maintaining control over all their trust or assets than they are with maintaining control over a healthy marriage. Tell them to go find someone to cohabitate with that way they don't have to guard their assets, hire lawyers, plot against their spouse (I mean get "insurance" insurance that cost thousands upon thousands of dollars to write up, requires lawyers, notaries, hundreds of initials on a book of documents that the victim with no assets entering a relationship does not understand and causes bad blood between families before the wedding even begins) they can walk away with all their precious, loving money when things go south.