Prenup

FH and I talked about it. I brought it up--he's 16 years older than I am and makes about three times what I do, so I wanted to discuss if it was something he wanted. He didn't, at all. Vehement "no" on his part. I didn't feel strongly about it either way. We're Catholic, and the church frowns on prenups in most circumstances, so it was nice that we didn't need to have that conversation with our priest.

I've never known anyone who got divorced who had one. This is an interesting discussion though, and I'm fascinated to learn more about others' experiences.

Does he have his own business? Own a lot of properties? Have a lot of money? If he's acquired these things and assets prior to meeting and marrying you then it's understandable why he might want one.

FH and I are currently in the process of having our prenup written. Technically it is a "marriage contract," not anything like the typical hollywood prenup you think of where it says if you're married X-years you get Y-money. We are doing this because I will be inheriting a large portion of the family business, and FH has known this from just about day one, this is more protecting my families assets in the case of a divorce really and truly. If neither of you are comfortable with it and neither wants it, don't worry about it. But, if one of you wants it and the other is unsure, I think it would do a great deal of help to speak with an Estate attorney in your area to get the full view of all of the protection this sort of legal document can provide to the both of you...it isn't always one-sided.

Someone has been listening to too much Kanye. I quote his Golddigger lyrics about prenup: "It's something that you need to have because when she leave yo ass, she gon' leave with half"

I'm pro prenup. Reason being, if one of you or both of you comes into the marriage with assets, if the worst happens, you still leave with those assets. It's more of an insurance thing that you hope to never have to use. I see no harm in protecting ones self from the unknowns of the future.

Prenups have a terrible reputation because people instantly assume the couple don't trust each other or they plan to divorce. So. Not. The. Case.

It works like car insurance. You buy a car, you get insurance! You never plan to actually use it, right? Well there's always the "just in case." Sometimes, you don't know if there's a bad driver, or maybe you don't pay attention, or something goes wrong with the car. You get into an accident, but insurance saves the day! All is covered appropriately and fairly. You go on about your way and so does the other driver.

Same thing, but people don't like viewing that way. You just don't know if you or your SO will change or have a life event that just pulls you apart. It's best to have the prenup to cover both your butts if things got hectic and being an adult didn't happen.

My advice is, what could it possibly hurt? Best case scenario, you forget about it and never have to use it. If you do, then at least you're covered. It's not to be offensive in any way! FH and I agreed on one. I understand he just wants the insurance even though he never wants to use it.

Have a chat with you FH and address your concerns. He'll understand and hopefully you come to an agreement!

We are in the process of getting our prenup done now. I think they can make a lot of sense depending on your circumstances. In my case, I own a home and have a lot more in savings than my FH. Our prenup says that each of us keeps our premarital assets separately, so my home equity and savings are protected. FH was very accepting of the prenup and understands why I want it.

Don't immediately say no to the prenup. Ask you FH why he wants it and really try to understand his reasons. If you decide to go forward, each of you should use a different lawyer to make sure you are protected.

Do either of you currently have significant personal or business assets, or expect to inherit significant assets? If so, then please get one. Of course you don't plan a marriage expecting divorce but that's no reason to be careless with your assets. They get a bad rep but they're really just designed to protect both parties.

I asked my fiance to sign a prenup. The purpose is not to prepare for our divorce, but as an estate planning device to protect our children and the surviving spouse in the situation of an unexpected early death.

Our state law by default provides that all of a spouse's assets go to the surviving spouse upon death. There's also a certain % that cannot be overridden by a will but can be overridden by a pre-nup.

I wanted to override the default so that at my assets are placed in trust for my children and for FI's health, maintenance, or support. This means that in the situation where I die, and FI remarries and dies without a will, our children will not be disinherited by operation of law. This also means that if FI remarries, a part of his assets (my "half" of the assets) are unreachable by his future spouse and can only be spent for the benefit of him and our children.

He wasn't okay with it at first, but once I explained that the money will still be available to him for HIS benefit and that of our children, just not some future Mrs., he thought that was fair and got over it.

We did a prenup. I've been divorced. He has a lot of debt. Neither of us has a lot of money and we make the same, but I have a decent 401K and his isn't as big. And not to be rude, but when my mother died, I will inherit a small sum plus her jewelry and if something happened after that, he shouldn't get that. Thats all it says. Anything we come into we go out with, anything we accumulate we split equally and anything from family stays in the family. He has pre paid legal through work, they drew it up, an attorney across the hall from my office looked at it and we signed.

I think it's sensible to have a prenup especially if one of the partners really wants one. I also see it like an insurance policy just in case.

I am all for it and FH has agreed to whatever I want. Neither of us has many assets at the moment but I'll be inheriting a lot of properties and investments and I don't want him having access to that should we divorce. I'm all for what's mine is yours but having a prenup is just smart.

I would just sign it to protect your assets. I think not signing one, personally is kind of illogical. But to each their own. It won't make your marriage less in anyway, if that is what you are worried about.

A prenup? Touchy issue. If one party comes to table with a few million dollars in the bank, I understand it. If two parties come to the table each having a few million dollars in the bank, I endorse it. Statistics are statistics, and as much as we don't really want to talk about them on a wedding forum, it's still one out of two marriages that fail.

A prenup? Touchy issue. If one party comes to table with a few million dollars in the bank, I understand it. If two parties come to the table each having a few million dollars in the bank, I endorse it. Statistics are statistics, and as much as we don't really want to talk about them on a wedding forum, it's still one out of two marriages that fail.

Pro prenup-been divorced, have reasonable assets for my age, FH has less. Ex took more than his fair share leaving the marriage but I didn't have a prenup. I want my kids to keep what I inherited from my parents as this has been this way through even my parents marriage. All gets passed to the kids. FH was hurt at first, but then realized it wasn't about him, it was about what you have when you walk in the marriage. He stands to inherit a few bucks too and I don't want them. Ours is in the process of being written now.

The only one I know with one has been married for 10 years. I think prenups can be fair or unfair, you cannot lump them all together. Having a prenup will get you talking about money. For example, FH may have children from a first marriage and is committed to paying for their college. That is good to know. If you get divorced, the state gets to divide what happens with your money, many peeople may think they do not want the state involved, they want to decide what works for them.

We're not doing one. But neither of us make very much or own anything important. I don't know anyone that has one either.

We talked about it. Mainly because I wanted to make sure my kids are taken care of. I worked hard for my pension and want to keep it.

It's not really worth it unless one of you has significant assets/debt that the other doesn't.