Pre-marital counseling?

We are doing counseling...fiancee was resistant at first but now he really looks forward to it. I have to say, it has been the best thing we have ever done as a couple. I highly recommend doing it in person, not online. It might take more than one try to get the right counselor for you, but when you click with a person they are able to get you both to open up on levels you didn't think were even missing. Its been amazing.

We did marital counseling and it was extremely beneficial. The course we took spoke more about things that would have a negative affect on our relationship and offered ways on how to communicate with one another to one resolution that is best suited for our relationship. The topics our officiant concentrated on were money, children, careers, in-laws & family and infidelity.

Doing it. Tell FH its proactive instead of reactive. Nothing to do with whether or not you have problems.

We haven't done it yet. But we've discussed doing it. After the holiday we will be looking into it.

Our officiant requires it. I would do it anyway. These are professionals who explore topics ypu may never even have thought of. Tell your FH that it will only make your relationship stronger.

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My advice is dont push him to hard. Lots of guys resist counseling in any shape or form. My fiance refuses and I use it as leverage form time to time, mostly when he wants to pout about something that happened instead of talk

Also make sure that the counselor you see fits you both.My parents went to a lady who treated my dad like he was very abusive and treated him like he was the "problem" even though they both have there faults and my dad is not at all a "wife beater" There are so many out there dont settle for someone who make you or him uncomfortable

Hi I'm a therapist Do it! And do it in person, not online. You will not get any benefit out of online counseling. About six sessions with a psychotherapist will give you a good pre-marital program (most practices actually have a sort of curriculum they can use with you). I can help you find affordable counseling in your area (and so can psychologytoday.com). If your FH has questions or hesitations send him my way, I'm happy to talk to him about it!

We were in the same boat as you! We are so busy, and DH thought it would be a waste because we have a great relationship. I found a pre-marital workshop through a local non-denominational church that was a Friday evening and Saturday morning/afternoon. It was great for us because we don't have the time to dedicate to weeks of classes. It was very worth-while- a lot of it was things we already know or do but just was a good reminder or validation that we're doing it right. At the end, my DH said he was glad we did it so that just goes to show!

I thought it was something my FH would turn his nose up to but he was all for it! I'm so glad because we are currently in the process and we both just love it! We knew we were already in pretty good shape communication and trust wise however we thought it would be a good learning opportunity about ourselves and each other. It truly has been an eye opener. Letting us get our thoughts and feelings heard while also listening to the other person and getting a better understanding of what they need. Also, it dives into topics you may have not really discussed with your FH. I really recommend it. A pastor is conducting it for us even though neither of us are really religious and we think he's just wonderful. I don't know if we'd be as serious about it if we just did it online without a mediator.

FH and I are doing premarital counseling with our minister who is performing the ceremony. I definitely recommend it. We have a good relationship as well but it's been a good experience getting to know even more about each other (I don't think you ever really stop learning about your partner). We've had 2 of 4 sessions so far. They last about 1.5-2 hours. We've been meeting our minister at a local pub. Both FH and I are enjoying the classes.

We completed ours through our church. FH went along with it because Texas waives a large portion of your marriage license fee. After it was over he said he was really glad to have done it.

FMIL has highly suggested it. His grandfather is marrying us and has offered, but I think we may need an objective, neutral person who can provide us with some sound, modern day advice.

From what I've been told, its a really good idea.

We are planning on doing it. It is not just for couples that have problems, but to prepare and discuss things that may/will come up in marriage. My sister and a co-worker did it before they got married. Neither couple was having problems, however they enjoyed it and said they got to talk about things that they wouldn't have thought of on their own.

We did pre marital counseling. It wasn't exactly by choice thought, we are catholic and the church requires you go through counseling with your priest. It actually turned out to be very beneficial and is a good way to get some important conversation started about future expectations and what your marriage will be like.

I highly recommend pre-marital counseling. I told my then FH that it was important to me. He agreed, no problem. He's glad we did it. It got us talking about things we had not discussed before marriage.

Yes - please do it (and do it in person if you can). We found a licensed therapist who specialized in it as opposed to going through a church. It is being proactive and even if you have been together for a while (as we have), it is likely that you will learn new things. We did 6 sessions total and got a significant discount on our marriage license for completing it.

We are doing it. Have him look at it as an investment. You are only putting positive help into an already great relationship.

We are doing counseling with our Officiant (my childhood and current pastor). He highly recommends it because he says he covers things that COULD BE potential issues in the marriage and let's us work them out ahead of time. (I.e who we spend what holidays with, how much money to spend on what items, how to deal with nosy in-laws, what kind of parenting style we agree with, etcetera...) so I think it's a good idea because you want to iron out any and all potential wrinkles if you can.

We are going it through our church. Its very beneficial. "How does FH prefer to be shown love? Physical, Words, or Gifts?" That really got us thinking about how we really know each other.

I wish we had done it. As it happens, we are looking into some therapists now. If I had known how the first months of our marriage were going to go, it would have been a premarital requirement.