Postponing wedding?

Hi! We’re planning on still having it. (In Missouri.) Our venue thinks things will be pretty opened back up by then. We have about 200 invited but if we have to cut our guest list then that’s fine with us.. we’d rather still get married and make it a special day despite all this craziness!

We're in VA and the plan (for right now) is send invites in end of June with additional insert. I posted that this morning for others to take a look at.


The RSVP date is 7/31 - if we see too few "yes" like none of our family and friends, then postpone. If I see too many "yes" I honestly would also feel uncomfortable and may push it since it'll be too crowded. We'll also be tracking availability of testing and maybe recommending that individuals test negative in the week before coming - who knows if that's even feasible though.
So right now, we're on and haven't made a major change. I hope you reach a decision you and your partner are comfortable with.

Hi! I’m sorry you’re also in limbo. 🥺 We’re in CA (LA county) and we’re waiting until the first week of June or until our coordinator and/or venue calls it for us. We have a soft hold for next September. So far they’ve canceled all weddings through July but August weddings and our September wedding are still scheduled. In the meantime I’ve been talking to my closest friends and family about how comfortable they’d be attending a September wedding. I’m also super concerned about the “second wave.” It’s craziness.

We were supposed to be 9/19/20 in CT and decided two weeks ago to postpone to next September. We have 140 guests invited and we’re not willing to downsize and cut people out, so we pushed it. Our guests would be coming from New York and Massachusetts which are really bad and we just couldn’t take the chance that we would be putting our guests in danger.

We moved our wedding from June to September and don’t have any plans of postponing it any more than that. If we have too we will do if the government says we can’t have mass gatherings. We are getting married in Southern NJ. Right now we are up to gatherings of 25 people so hopefully by September 20th we will be able to have the wedding. We have 160 people on the guest list and everyone is looking forward to it.

Me FH and I are on Long Island, NY and dont plan on postponing. We're Aug 30th and according to Cuomo, we're set to open next week on Wed. Sure we may have restrictions on the number of guests, but putting our life on hold just to have a big party doesnt seem right to us. I want to marry the love of my life, regardless of some big celebration. So no matter what happens, we're getting married on Aug 30th, weather its 10 people or the 160 people we sent save the dates to. Hopefully by the end of Aug we'll be wayyy past where we were when the pandemic first started and restrictions will be lighter. Praying for all us brides going through this right now. Its hard for people to understand who arent actually personally experiencing it. Fingers crossed....

Being upstate, you are probably in a slightly better position than those of us by NYC.

That said, there will still likely be restrictions - probably masks, and maybe numbers, but with an outdoor venue, you may have some wiggle room.

Like others, I advise an insert and keep updates on your website. Keep an eye on the curve, and hold tight until at least July.

Good luck!

I wish there was a mechanism for people to anonymously post if they held their event, where it was (state, indoor/outdoor) and if any guests later (within 2 weeks) contracted Covid. I feel like it might put it into better perspective for people on the fence, but there is probably a lot of stigma.


I know I can't prevent any one of my guests from contracting it in their daily lives, but my stomach is in knots about being the reason/ event that someone becomes sick and possibly dies. How would I ever be able to look at my wedding photos?

Cuomo is opening up upstate NY, I think you should be okay!

View Quoted Comment That's what I was saying yesterday as well. My grandma is 85 years old and I can't really imagine the day without her and I would feel absolutely awful if she ended up getting it from our wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yes we are slowly opening back up. I'm mainly concerned about the restrictions at that time. I have a lot of people traveling to our wedding as well from out of state so that concerns me as well.

View Quoted Comment I don't know if your venue plan is outdoors, but this link below was really helpful to me in better understanding transmission rates and indoor vs outdoor.


It's given me a lot to think about in terms of what a "safe" indoor wedding might look like. Honestly I'm leaning on the hope that we can require testing (regardless of age, symptoms, etc) be done within the week before and request masks when not actively eating. Some of this professor's research/ spread examples in exclosed spaces were eye opening.
Make the best decision you can.
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View Quoted Comment Rightfully so; we planned a designation wedding to Jamaica on 10/10/2020 and two weeks ago postponed it to 10/09/2021. Mainly because of travel and exposure (especially international).


Since you are local; you may want to scale down your guests? I dunno how you feel about that

Hi Felicity! The June-September date restriction really makes things more complicated!!

I would definitely try to think through how you'd feel if there were still certain restrictions in place (out of state guests or high risk individuals not feeling comfortable attending, limiting guest size to under 50, social distancing measures at the reception like tables spaced 6' apart and no dancing). Also here are a few other discussions you should definitely check out with Sept NY couples:

September brides- Ny!!

Any September brides in Wny?!

Long Island, Ny, September Bride during Covid19

Hi Felicity, Western PA bride here with a rescheduled wedding date from June to August 14th. I think you are actually in a sweet spot, end of summer and before a possible resurgence, outdoor space works in your favor. It can’t hurt to call your venue and ask how many other weddings they have scheduled and if you can place a soft hold for date next summer as you monitor the situation.