Long Island, Ny, September Bride during Covid19

Im in the situation as you. Im also supposed to get married on Lond Island August 30th. My venue is asking that we hold off on doing anything right now. I continuously go back and forth with canceling or seeing what happens. The waiting and not knowing whats going to happen is driving me nuts! My fiance and I decided that by mid June, we will have to put our foot down and decide, are we having it at the venue or are we canceling. We def wont postpone out date. We will be asking them what their plan is for re-opening and what our wedding will look like- ie: guest count allowed, masks or no masks, etc... then based on those answers- we'll decide. This just all sucks so much. Spending so much time on the one and only wedding of your life and a pandemic appears leaving so much u certainty.

View Quoted Comment Yes it’s quite frustrating. I feel for you and agree. What will you do if they tell you you can’t have a crowd of more than 50? Or even 100? And are we social distancing on the dance floor?. I’m fine if those are the rules because I understand the seriousness of what’s going on in the world right now. But this is why I feel that the venues should tell us well in advance so we don’t continue to plan and pay for things for the wedding and stress any longer. There’s too much stress now as it is. is your wedding venue in Nassau County or Suffolk County? My venue is in Suffolk county.

View Quoted Comment Mine's in suffolk aswell, specifically Bellport. And I agree, it would be helpful if they provided some answers now.. According to them, they are waiting to see what the restrictions from the government will be since they havent said anything either. Smh. I think I would cancel if its 50 people, to me thats pointless. My family alone make up more then 50. At 100 I might be able to manage cutting some out, though id feel terrible since we've sent out save the dates to everyone before all this happened. I have no idea what social distancing on the dance floor would be, im almost afraid to ask. I havent made any more payments, though they did send a reminder a few weeks back for the payment i was supposed to make a week ago. They're crazy if they think im making payments while they're shut down...plus im afraid if i do cancel I wont get the money back. So.....yah Im holding off on everything until mid June.

View Quoted Comment We’re holding off until mid June also. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Thanks. You too!

Did you reach out to them? We're getting married in Suffolk county too, and I had to reach out to our venue about changing our date. I feel like most venues aren't reaching out until they absolutely have to because they don't want to lose the date. As far as social distancing rules, I unfortunately don't think the venues will really know until LI enters phase 1. After that, the timeline and guidelines might be more clear or predictive.

It's awful that they don't have anything on their website. Can you call and question them just on that? As in, "Hey, just working on my planning, wanted to see how you're handling the extra sanitation concerns!" ... kind of force them to give you information.

I do think September is going to be limited in size for those of us in the NYC metro area, and also masks will be, at the very least, recommended.

That said, I can't imagine most places touching September until they have to... which might be next month.

Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Yes we’ll call in a few weeks. Yes it’s very strange about the website. I agree most places won’t touch September until next month. Good luck to you as well!

View Quoted Comment Yes I agree. Hopefully phase 1 is around the corner. Good luck to you!

Our venue is also in LI. They didn’t have any information anywhere about the COVID situation or contact us. However when I emailed and called my venue, I got responses quickly. My wedding was scheduled for late Aug but we decided just recently to postpone our wedding to April next year. We made this decision because Long Island doesn’t seem like they will reopen venues soon to host parties for larger crowds, worried about our guest feeling uncomfortable, and we didn’t finish booking our vendors due to COVID. Also just in case if there is another second wave in the fall/winter, hopefully we’ll be okay by spring. I think by spring NY will be more adjusted on how to work around the COVID situation.


We decided not to wait it out and postpone right away once NY got extended to June because we wanted to keep our scheduled Sat evening wedding and a date closer to the beginning of the year. Most importantly we were worried our venue not having the dates available for us. It sucks having to wait another year but I do feel a sense of relief. My guest are no longer asking what’s going on with the wedding and if we’re still having it in Aug. We plan to get married legally this year but our big celebration with friends and family will be in April.
Def frustrating times for us future brides. Wishing all of us the best of luck.

View Quoted Comment Best of luck to you as well!

Hey August 1st Bride on Long Island here!!!
I’m sure many of us are in this ongoing battle between cancelling, postponing or continuing with the wedding. I have reached out to my venue numerous of times and they haven’t been very supportive (compared to my 3 friends venues who have been very supportive and understanding). My venue asked for us to hold off on making any decision on postponing as of now - and if we decide to postpone we would have to pay a 5% fee & then postponing into 2021 (which will have to be the option because 2020 is booked) is another increase in pricing!!! Outrageous if you ask me since we’re in a pandemic. Because of all of this we have made the decision to send out our invitations for August 1st and keep our fingers crossed. Many will say it’s not realistic or I am out of my mind, I am a nurse working through this & I understand the concerns. I just feel that if guests don’t want to attend because they are not comfortable I am totally fine with that. I do believe we will be “open” to hold the wedding - but I believe there will be some limitations (number of guests or how many guests at each table). Fingers crossed for all us Brides!

View Quoted Comment Hey Samantha!


I’m in the same situation as you - August 1st bride and we’re either having the wedding or cancelling - not postponing. I think because of that i’m a bit upset thinking about not having my friends/family there to celebrate, not wearing my dress, etc.. We’ve been trying to think of a “plan B” if we do decide to cancel, like where we can still have a small intimate ceremony (we have our own officiant) and whatnot.. Do you plan to still get “married” that day even if you cancel the wedding? I’m trying to get all options that people have thought of, this is such a difficult time. Hoping for the best for all of us ❤️

View Quoted Comment Its disappointing that they are charging more for a new date especially during a pandemic. It’s such a tough call. Your day will be amazing. Best of luck to you and I hope you have a fabulous day!!!!! We called our venue and they were more than happy to rebook us for 2021. They gave me 10 available Saturday’s. We’re think we are going with June 19.

View Quoted Comment Hi Brandi!
We def plan to still get married that day. Its even more important to us bc Aug 30th is my fiances grandmothers birthday. The thought of not having all family and friends there def sucks. But i keep reminding myself that whats most important is getting to marry my best friemd and start our lives, post marriage and post pandemic... We have come up with a plan B but it's still up in the air. We thought about holding a ceremony here on LI with our officiant and photographer we already hired in our parents backyard. I would still wear my dress and him his tux, but instead of catering a large event, we'd have a few beers, bbq, and dance along with alexa. We would then rent an airbnb upstate that can hold like 10-15 people and spend the following couple of days up the there with our immediate family members as a way to celebrate. It may not be the wedding we always thought we'd have, but it still sounds pretty awesome to us. Really hoping and praying everything works out somehow.