Postponed wedding date #2

Ooof!

Is there no way to expedite?

It’s upsetting for sure. But this can also be saving you a lot of future grief. I’ve been divorced twice and both times I knew I was divorced because I held the papers signed by the judged in my hands, that’s the on way to know be sure.
If he didn’t want to have this difficult conversation with you, this is pretty good information for you to have about how he handles hard stuff.

Oh no 😢 can you push your wedding back a few months while you wait for the divorce to be finalized?

Dawn I’m so sorry!! Can you proceed with the wedding and rectify the technically afterwards? The marriage certificate may have a later date on it for technical reasons, but that’s small potatoes all considering.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this! When will it be finalized?

View Quoted Comment I agree with Samantha. This can save you future heartache.

Agree with Katie. Can you still have the wedding on the 14th and fix paperwork after?

That does sound really disappointing. I hope you can reschedule without too big a financial impact.

Yikes! I am so, so sorry. Of course you're disappointed, and honestly, you can even be mad to a certain extent. The best advice I can offer is to start the rescheduling process ASAP. Call your venue, DJ, florist, whoever, and tell them what happened, and ask them what else they have available. It'll be a chore, for sure; trust me, we had to do it all after postponing due to the pandemic. I also know it'll be disappointing not to get married on Valentine's Day as you wanted; I had to forfeit getting married a week before my birthday and being on my honeymoon ON my birthday. However, the sooner you act now, the sooner you can get things rolling again. I would start with the venue first and gather up their available dates for the time frame you have in mind. Find out when exactly your FH's divorce will in fact be final, and then go from there. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Yes. We have postponed til we can set a new date. He received papers in the mail back in 2012. He assumed they were the final documents and didn't open, but filed away. He didn't think he would remarry so didn't give them a second thought. He thought it was a done deal. I think he's more upset than I am. We are a team, and will support each other.

View Quoted Comment We can't, technically, he's still married!

View Quoted Comment I get it! My husband and I went through something similar so I completely understand. Goodluck with everything

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Yeah, it's so odd that people are suggesting that! Marriage in the US is a legal process. You can't just pretend and fudge the paperwork. You are doing the right thing by postponing until you know for sure you have the green light to proceed.