Poll: How many mom's are offended by kid free weddings?

I'm having a kid free wedding also. My niece, my flower girl will leave once the reception starts. I have already warned guest that the reception will be kid free and I haven't heard any arguments yet. If you don't like it then you don't have to come.

One of my FH's friends put it on the invite. Want to know how many kids were kept at home? None. The guests are going to do what they want even if you put it on the invite.

I have zero issues with people having kid free weddings. We're not, but I understand it. I do think it's kind of inconsiderate when a bride expects a breastfeeding mom (I'm talking with a baby under 8 months,) to "get a sitter" or otherwise be away from baby, when it could be detrimental to their milk supply.

I'm having a 'kid friendly/ free wedding' by inviting the children but having all of them in a separate room at the same venue so parents can stay updated and check up on their kids as often as they'd like. I'm obviously hiring a few babysitters as there is about 40ish kids (big close knit family = big wedding) but a few of the older kids (about 13years and up) have jumped at the idea of getting $20 to help out with the littler kids.

Not only is our wedding a kid free zone...we also included it on our invitations! Space is limited and alcohol will be served...not to mention it's a 6 pm ceremony! Regardless of what's considered polite or correct etiquette policies, it's important for you to personalize your wedding to suit your needs and wants...traditions are really overrated...

To anyone thinking of including this in their invite, it's rude. You never point out who isn't invited. @Donna your friend had a right to be offended. @Jaunita etiquette is not the same as tradition.

Also, if someone is in the wedding, I think it's rude to then exclude them from the reception. If you want a child-free wedding/reception, then don't put children in your wedding.

I am a mother of a 1yr old boy and I received an invitation from my cousin that stated "NO KIDS" I truly felt offended there was no need to address that in the invitation the RSVP says for 2 ppl I clearly understand its for my husband and I. We are not attending the wedding bcuz it's out of state and all the ppl I trust with my baby will be at the wedding. I do feel very offended that it was written in capital letters there was no need for all that.

I am not a parent, but I don't think it's rude. I would be careful on how you word it in your invitation though as others suggested. I am getting married next year and I will have kids attend because that's the type of crowd I have. My fiance has alot of little cousins, and so do I. I had several people tell me no don't do it, but I'm still allowing kids because you never know they might not come or they might if they can't get a baby sitter. I'm not bothered by what anyone else thinks. What matters is what my finance and I want. It makes us happy if they attend. Honestly If they can't come it's not the end of the world. I will be on cloud 9 when I marry my fiance. So I would say do whatever you feel is right just careful on how you word it. Congrats and I hope it all works for you!

I am a mom, my FH and I have 3 girls between us (8, 4, and 4) and we will be having a kid free wedding. Our children will be there fore the ceremony and dinner and then leaving with a sitter.

Also even if my daughter was invited to a wedding I would not bring her. Some things are better left to the grown ups.

Two of my friends who have small children actually used the words, "Great! It'll be a night off for us!" when the topic of us having a kid-free wedding came up. I can see how that specific wording might be offensive to some, though. I definitely would not put this information on the wedding invitation and I would word it differently if you put it on your wedding website or spread it via word of mouth.

@Norcal322 it's not rude to have kids in the ceremony but ask that no guest be children, the wedding party is the exception to any rule.

We are having a ring bearer, age 4, (who leaves after the ceremony) but our reception is 21+. I do agree with the comments of not including this info on the invitation though. It could set a negative overtone for anyone overly sensitive about their little bundles of joy. If you are including a direction card or any other separate form of information, I would put it on that. We are using our website, word of mouth, and of course the inevitable, uncomfortable phone call for those who don't see the names on the invite as a big enough clue.

Good luck! Keep us updated!

I'm planning to have a mostly kids free wedding (except those in the wedding party), and the reason is purely numbers. If I open it up to children, my numbers will be unmanageable. I've already started telling people via mouth that children won't be invited, most have either been excited or said they'll sort out a babysitter. I think if i had a friend with a new baby I'd let them decide whether they wanted to bring them or not, but that has to do with my reason which is numbers, and a breast feeding baby doesn't eat food, if you're worried about disruption that's different, but be understanding if they don't come. I agree with others though that it doesn't need to be in the invitation, but will put it on the website.

I've been invited to kid free weddings - wasn't offended. I've been invited to a kid friendly wedding, where the bride and groom did not have a close relationship w/ my kids so didn't invite them - wasn't offended. I've been invited to a wedding where my kids WERE invited, and others (including some in the bridal party)'s kids weren't invited, and those people were a tiny bit offended. So, just keep in consistent, whatever you decide.

As I mom I'm not offended by kid free weddings. The only reason I could see being offended was if we show up to the wedding and find that you specifically excluded members of our family and invited other children.

I have 7 children and my children will be at the ceremony. However, we will be having an adult only reception. I just directly addressed the envelopes Mr. and Mrs. Blank and lightly spread the kids-free reception word of mouth. I don't think you need to over explain after all its your day.

We only did immediate family children and it worked out fine. Don't put it on your invitation. Yes, some people might RSVP for their children even though they weren't named on the invitation. If that happens you have an awkward phone call to make but it's not the end of the world.

For the poster who asked if it's rude to invite some children and not others: technically, you can invite whoever you want (but you should split up a family--if you invite some siblings you should invite others). But by inviting some children and not others, you're asking for drama. It's always easier to invite in "circles" and have clear lines. So wedding party's children, sibling's children, etc. could be invited, but coworker's children don't have to be. Some people may disagree with me on that one, but if we're looking at it from a technical etiquette standpoint, you can invite some kids and not others.

The days when our parents got married were way diff than now. Today its becoming more and more common to have child free events. Im doing a no kids wedding as well. I think your wording is a little tough lol i didn't know how to word my invitations until a beautiful WW lady helped me out so ill spread that to you We put on our invites "Although children are a blessing, please respect our wishes for an adults only ceremony and reception" and i thought it was sweet because it shows YES children ARE wonderful....but not here lol

I have been wondering the same thing and would love opinions on if kids free weddings are still okay if people will be traveling on average 1-2 hours to attend. I figure most people will stay at the hotel, and obviously it's harder to find an overnight sitter, but I want everyone to be able to party! Plan B is hire a sitter or two to have a kiddie spot in the extra room if they get tired

I'm not offended that there are kid free weddings. But in my opinion I think it's more fun. I love watching the little kids dance and have fun. I'm having 20 kids at my wedding all under the age of 8....yeup! Lol.

If you're having an evening formal wedding I don't think kids should be invited. My nieces and nephews are hellions. At my wedding, my eldest nephew, the only one invited, was jumping off chairs, getting in every. Single. Picture. And running through the tables. At another wedding I went to, my inlaws allowed my 1 year old niece to walk up to the bride and groom during the toasts. A different nephew tore apart the centerpieces. Someone else's toddler cried throughout the entire ceremony and didn't take the baby far enough away to be out of earshot. I'm not a kid hater, I just don't understand people who want to bring small children to formal events. Maybe I'm in the minority since my relatives are poor parents.