Poll: How many mom's are offended by kid free weddings?

I don't have kids, but I REALLY think that once I'm a mom, even if a wedding is not kid free I still won't bring them... I think its ridiculous when moms are offended by kid free weddings.

ETA: I agree with @Spazzytazi that "enjoy the evening off" isn't really necessary.

Just a comment, don't send that with the invitation. You aren't supposed to indicate who isn't invited, just who is. The place to put something like that is a wedding website. Additionally, that comment can potentially leave you open for arguments: "what if I don't want a night off, and everybody loves little Bobby!"

I recommend saying something to the effect of "due to several constraints, we unfortunately cannot host any children at the wedding. Thank you for your understanding"

There's nothing inherently wrong with a kid free wedding, but that wording implies that parents don't like being with their own children. That's a rude presumption.

Not rude.

I'm not a mom but my wedding will be kid free as well. I have on my invitation "while children are a joy and a blessing, our wedding ceremony and reception are adults only*. If I was a mom I also would not be offended and would find a babysitter. My wedding is 6-11:30. Most kids would be asleep if not cranky by the end of the night. The only two kids there will be my flower girl and ring bearer.

My Mom's family has been hosting kid-free weddings, since she was a kid (the late 1960s). My parents' wedding and my dad's sister's wedding were both kid-free (late 1970s). My Mother attended her cousin's wedding, when I was a few weeks old, and my sister and I stayed with our next door neighbors.

Our wedding was 21 and up, with the exception of my honorary little sister (16.5), who was a bridesmaid. I'll be attending my brother in laws wedding, when my baby is 2.5 months old (I'm B/F and I pump) ; the baby will not be attending. Hubby and I will both be in the bridal party of a friend's wedding in 5 months; the baby will not be attending.

Only one couple that I know has ever considered it rude: my aunt and uncle. The didn't even RSVP to my wedding invitation, or acknowledge that it occurred, by sending a congratulatory e-mail. (P.S. The family has a nanny). Before that, for the last family wedding we attended, no kids were invited, and they brought theirs anyway. The MOB asked the caterer to make up platters of chicken tenders and fries. My aunt stated loudly that her kids eat adult food (they were then 7 and 10, the same ages as the groom's nieces, who weren't there) and the family went up to the buffet. The uneaten/wasted platters were cleared away.

No, kid free weddings are not rude. Parents with a narcissistic sense of entitlement are.

P.S. We invited 250 and 225 attended. One couple drove a full day each way, to attend, and managed to sort-out childcare. One friend of my MILs called her and said she was sorry they couldn't attend, but they didn't have a babysitter. They did have a save the date, 10 months before the wedding, so PHOOEY!

We're also doing kid free. We don't have kids but so far, all of our friends are stoked and fine with it. You could ease up on the wording. Although most people on here will say you should just put who the invite is to, this causes anxiety to me because there will be someone that assumes it also meant their kid. I'd rather say adults only and deal with not having perfect etiquette.

I was concerned about putting it in the invitations but I'm also worried about those who don't look at the website or get subtle hints.

I was the mother of the bride and I was VERY happy that the wedding was kid free. It not offensive to have an adults only wedding.

I think its rude you're having kids in the wedding and they're not invited to party...

Chassity and OP, it isn't kind to put it on the invitation. It goes against etiquette. Yes, some people will not get subtle hints and many will not read the website. I recently received my cousins RSVP where I indicated 2 seats were reserved for her and her husband. She crossed it out, wrote 4, and added her children's names. I've been trying to reach her for a couple of days to have the not so fun conversation where I tell them no kids.

Mother of 3 and I am not offended by kid free weddings. My boys recently turned one and are very rambunctious, as most boys are. We recently received an invitation from DH's administrative assistant and she included our boys and our daughter on the Save-The-Date. We will not be bringing them with us, but it was very generous of her to extend the invitation

Also, we are having an adult only ceremony and reception and our little ones will be present for the ceremony and early part of the reception. That is not rude.

We are not including children in our wedding, other than the wedding party. However, you do not pit that on the actual invitation.

My kids won't be around to long, I know they will be exhausted. I wouldn't be offended of a no kids wedding though. I'd enjoy not having to chase after my toddler.

As a mother of a 3 year old, and a 4 month old I can see both sides to this.

Would I be offended if children were not allowed at a wedding I was invited to, No.

Upon getting a wedding invitation I always assume it is kids free until/unless it is stated otherwise. (On the RSVP card just write out : 2 attending with a place to mark yes or no)

Would I choose not to go to a kid free wedding? Now that depends on several things. How far away is the wedding? Who is actually getting married? And will I still be breast feeding the baby?

You may have people decline on going, but that is their choice. If people don't understand and question you, just give them the truth.

Edit to add: definitely leave the explanation out of the actual invite, it's unnecessary and tacky.

I am a mother and every wedding I've ever been invited to has been adult only.. And I wouldn't bring my kids to a wedding anyway. Our wedding only our sons and flower girl will be in attendance and my grandmother is taking them back to the hotel at some point during reception when they get tired as it will be a long day for them. I'm assuming most parents totally understand.

I'm not a mom yet so I can't speak from that perspective however I'm planning on doing the same thing - no kids. I probably wouldn't include that in the invitation maybe on a website. Id also leave out the part that implies theyndont like their kids, it comes off as mean/distatseful. The reality is that there will most likely be alcohol, weddings are for adults not kids plus most of the time you have to pay per head. Totally reasonable to say no kids, I'm sure most parents would be happy to leave them at home. Best of luck!

We had a kids free wedding with exception of our two nieces and nephew. It was great, so many of the parents had a great time. We addressed the envelopes to Mr. And Mrs. And on the RSVP card had a number of people invited. It's pretty clear and appropriate etiquette for adults only. People were pretty respectful until my SIL started telling ppl they could bring their kids, cuz she didn't agree with us. I had to do damage control and then politely let hr know we are NOT having kids at the wedding and if ppl have questions and she doesn't feel comfortable saying no to them directly them to me or my husband. (Sometimes being an adult sucks lol but girl had to suck it up and be mature lol ) When I asked my niece how she liked the wedding she very frankly said, "I thought it was boring." I knew I made the right decision.

I wouldn't put that on the invitation but include your wedding website on the invite. On your website you can write something cute like this will be an adults only wedding (hello, date night!) we hope everyone will be able to attend....

I have a 5 year old & am not offended at all at adult receptions. I've been offended or bothered when the invitation was for me only & not a plus one.