Plus 1's??

@Che: Thank God I'm not friends with anyone like you.

MNA- comes in and rocks the thread as always!!

Im not even touching the bad advice from Che. OP, plus ones are not necessary, especially since it seems most of your single guests know each other. However, I would leave yourself some wiggle room in the guestlist (which clearly Che did not), since some of your friends may be in relationships by the time you send out your invites.

The term live-in girlfriend/boyfriend as a way to blow them off always confused me. Like...they live together. That's a pretty serious commitment in my eyes.

Che is being incredibly selfish, but I bet by the time their wedding rolls around several bridal party members will have been kicked out for something, and there will be room on the guest list for your niece's girlfriend.

We are not giving our single friends plus ones

@Holly: you made me laugh out loud at work!

We gave every single person 18+ the option of bringing a guest but most of them are coming solo. Fiancé and I are one of the last of our friends to get married and we both have gone to weddings solo and agreed that most of the time that sucked so we offered everyone the option of brining a guest.

I think it's polite to give everyone a plus 1. Remember not everyone will bring a plus 1, but I think it's the nice thing to do.

My brother and his ex girlfriend broke up two weeks before my sisters wedding last year. As my brother asked her to please not show up being that their break up was extremely messy( He had to call the police to get his stuff out the house. She was throwing it out the window and changed the locks.) My sister already printed out her seating chart and escort cards. We all warned my sister that she may want to have a talk with my brothers ex to see if she was attending so she could take precautions. My sister thought there was no way she would show after the facebook and public drama. Guess what. His Ex showed up anyway. Which made everyone super uncomfortable as she was telling everyone the reason they broke up. How my brother cheated on her. She caught him at the beach using track my iphone and chased him until he pulled into the police station parking lot. Just super awkward and weird. She was crying most of the reception and not to mention super zooted. One time she came out the bathroom and her whole boob was about to fall out her spaghetti strap dress. She followed my brother around all evening begging him to talk to her. My brother ended up getting pissed and leaving early. It completely ruined the reception. All everyone talks about still instead of how beautiful the wedding and reception was or how lovely my sister's dress looked; is the way my brother's X acted. (My sister(spoiled brat) blew her budget unnecessarily in hopes that everyone would be talking about her dazzling dress. Petty as I may sound HAHA that's what she gets!

Good discussion: in this instance would it have been okay to uninvite her. If a single person and their plus 1 break up is the plus 1 still invited?

Generally I think the plus 1 in that case (single, which is why there was a +1, then dating for a month, then broke up) the plus one would know not to come. I broke up with an ex a few weeks before his bff's wedding, and obviously didn't go. She and I were on good terms, mostly, but her relationship with my ex was causing trouble in our relationship. And probably half the reason we broke up.

We are giving almost everyone a plus one because we can afford it. Our guest list is pretty small and our venue is pretty huge so we need the people. I think the only people who aren't getting plus ones at this time are a couple of cousins. (Which if they are in a relationship at the time of the wedding and we can we will extend the invite to their SO)

However there are two people who are in relationships who's SO is not getting invited. My cousin who's GF is very rude and called my Aunt a bitch. And our friend who's ex girlfriends have been either violent or emotionally abusive, or one girl even came to our house, and stole from someone purse when she came inside to go to the bathroom...we don't know the new girl, bit don't really trust his judgement in girls.

If they are single they do not need a plus one. Especially if you are inviting a large group of people that will know each other.

Melanie, not everyone can afford to do that. Weddings in my city cost about $200 per person.

@alwaysms thank you for the advice! I planned on leaving wiggle room! Our biggest problem is trimming our list down at the moment!!

@delfina nope I can't invite a Grammer teacher either Im using my phone when I try to correct things I get a black screen so who cares (only you!)

Hope yall enjoyed saying she needs a plus 1 now here more info on my niece...

She my brother in laws niece not my blood ...her relationship is not approved of by her parents so what should I do with that issue? This same niece offered to do everyone's hair I didn't ask she said plz plz & then put a price on it and talked about me when I told her I wasn't paying her I'll have a professional do it (and I was going to give her something for doing it but it was her attitude towards it then talking about me not knowing the person was talking to me on the phone and I could hear her) the list of BS goes on so I'm not willing to invite this 1 person who name I still don't know

I also care about grammar, if we're counting.

If your niece is an adult (18+) then it doesn't matter whether "her parents approve" or not, she's in a relationship and it is rude to exclude her significant other. The hair situation is irrelevant to whether or not to invite her SO.

For a teenager, no, I would not give them an automatic +1, even if they are in a relationship.

@Che Actually as of now, at least 14 people agree that grammar is important.

And I don't give a fuck if her parents approve of her relationship. Tons of LGBT people are in relationships their parents don't approve of. That doesn't make the relationship invalid. Nor does it matter that she's not your blood. If she's your guest, you owe her the respect for her relationship involved in inviting her SO. Also, this whatever business with the hair? If you're pissed at her, don't invite HER. Don't punish someone by devaluing their relationship.

Right now, here's the situation through your niece's eyes. Lots of people will be there, celebrating love with their partners. She has to eat dinner with weird Uncle Ed, because he's the only other person who came alone. People will constantly be asking her if she's there alone, and many will assume her relationship isn't that serious because she couldn't even be bothered to bring her partner to a family wedding. There is a night of dancing, but she can't dance with the woman she loves. For all the slow dances, she gets to be the sad little lesbian whose family doesn't value her relationship enough to let her bring her partner. Everyone will be talking about love and commitment, and there will be a conspicuous absence of the woman she loves. All evening, she will constantly be reminded that her family does not value her relationship or see it as legit.

Pay for one more dinner and prevent this from happening.

@Che, aahh so the real reason you arent inviting her gf has surfaced. She is a guest and her relationship should be respected even if her parents are homophobic. And you allowing someone elses hate/disapproval to dictate your actions makes you just as bad. Eta: Also, grammar does matter. Most of my posts are written from my phone, that is no excuse.

@Che: Oh, so your parents are paying? If not, what difference does it make whether they "approve" of the relationship? It's still spectacularly shitty not to invite her girlfriend. If you're going to be that monumentally rude (and you made it very clear that since she's not blood you don't really think of your niece as "family,") why even bother inviting her at all? Because she's willing to work for you at a discounted rate? So much classlessness going on here.

Since you asked, grammar is extremely important. There have been several of your posts I have had to literally interpret because they've been so garbled, on this thread and others. Autocorrect doesn't help grammar, so the best bet is to actually learn how to speak properly, rather than rely on electronic methods of correcting your atrocious writing.

Thank you everyone for the advice! We will definitely be leaving some wiggle room just in case some single friends do get into relationships.