Plus 1's??

Everyone with an SO gets invited as a social unit, so you've done good there! I think it is unnecessary to give plus 1's to everyone, especially if you're all a large friend group and they will know several people at the wedding.

You don't need to give a plus 1 to all of your single guests. However, I do think you should give a 1 to any single member of the wedding party. They may or may not bring a date but it's nice to give them the option.

Also, keep in mind with your wedding over a year away, some single friends could enter into relationships between now and your wedding. If that happens, no matter how short the relationship they should be both invited by name.

We gave plus ones to married couples and those in serious relationships. We didn't have it in our budget or venue space to give everyone a plus 1. With that said, nobody had an issue with it and everyone had an absolute blast.

@natalie how did you determine whose relationships were serious?

@Natalie: Wow. So how do you get to decide what is serious and what isn't. DF and I were just as engaged two weeks into our relationship as we are now, almost 6 years later. Would we have not been serious enough for you then?

No. When a couple is together, they are a social unit. It is rude to break up that social unity no matter how serious you *think* they are or are not.

Also, inviting spouses and significant others is not giving them a plus one. It's being a decent host and human being. Spouses/SOs are NOT plus ones. So gross.

Everyone doesn't get a +1. If they just started dating the person no...if they don't have a gf or bf no. My niece now have a live in gf she's not getting a +1 idc they weren't together when I wrote my list and there's no room/money for her gf... If your friends don't want to come because they don't have a +1 that's one less fake friend

Che that is rude as heck! Your nieces GF is her SO, NOT a +1.

@Che: That is incredibly rude. If a person is in a relationship, their significant other should be on the invitation BY NAME, no matter how long they've been together. This is not a plus one. This is common courtesy/decency in hosting.

Holy crap what is with all the one star etiquette-less posters tonight, giving horrible advice?!

"That's one less fake friend." Yeah, for them, not you.

Your guest list will have to slightly change as you get closer to the date. Everyone who is married or in a relationship gets a plus one. People in the wedding party should get a plus one. Single people do not have to have a plus one, but relationship status's can change and some single people could be engaged by your wedding.

I know it's not in everyone's budget or venue space, but I am giving all of my guests plus ones regardless of the etiquette. I know some won't use it, but I feel they should still be offered to bring a friend if they want.

I not fake I'm real! When I wrote my guest list there they didn't have a +1 there's no room to add one now I'm not paying for another person I don't know. Idk your budget but I know mine and mine is 150 friends & family and if a person doesn't understand don't come it my day and I'm not stressing over that. I should pay 70 dollars for her new gf and what if I add this person and they break up before my wedding lol NO! Married yes! Dating 2 months NO!

@Che: Yeah, that's a pretty crappy attitude to have toward people who are supposed to be your "nearest and dearest." Then again, you probably believe that "It's your day, so what you want!" Don't you?

Of course. Tonight seems to be the night for entitlement to appear.

If I give everyone a plus 1 then I will need to cut family for people I don't know ...that's cool to not invite family so you can invite a stranger?

What's not cool is basically telling your friend their relationship doesn't matter to you. What's not cool is splitting up a social unit so you can send out one more invitation and get one more gift. It's also a mark of someone with poor etiquette, and a poor host.

Actually I already know my niece will not be giving a gift so that's not it...

Yes it's my day so if I want my family there instead of a

Stranger I believe I have that right...

@Che I cut 50 members of my family (cousins, aunt, uncles) off my guest list to make room for people I've never met, because they are good friends of my FH. He's never met some of their gfs, but they're on the guest list anyways because I'm not an asshole.

@Che: I have the right to cut off my own arm at any time. It doesn't mean it's the brightest or best choice for me to make.

The moment you invite even ONE person to your wedding, it becomes about your guests, not you. Time to grow up. Welcome to reality. Your welcome packet got lost in the mail.

If you TRULY want a wedding that is all about you, elope.

We also cut our list to get it down to a affordable amount. Adding a plus 1 doesn't work out. If she wants to be at the wedding she'll come if she can't go 5 hours without he SO then don't come if no one understand a +1 is not in my budget so be it. When I gave every one a +1 I left out alot of important people for strangers I would like to have people I know and love help me to celebrate my day instead of telling my loves one I couldn't invite them but when they look at pictures they see strangers

I'm not too sure what I will have to do either. I have some work girlfriends that I would love to be at my wedding. Most are single and some have boyfriends. I can't afford everyone to have a plus one. Do you guys think it would be rude to not give plus ones to the single ones and plus ones to the girls with boyfriends?

Okay, let's start with the beginning here. A SIGNIFICANT OTHER, no matter how recent, IS NOT A PLUS ONE. They are a significant other. A plus one is what you extend to a TRULY SINGLE guest. Nobody here has said anything about not giving SINGLE guests a PLUS ONE.

Regardless of what you may think, it is STILL rude to split a social unit. That means inviting EVERYONE'S significant other, BY NAME. This is not giving them a plus one. It is being a decent human being and treating them like you actually give a care about them.

By not inviting their significant other, regardless of how long they've been together, you are telling your friend that their feelings don't matter and that you're inviting them for the gift.

It is rude. Whether you choose to be rude to your guests is up to you, but at least now you can't claim ignorance, it's all on you and that sense of entitlement.