PLEASE READ: How do I tell my MoH that I don't want her anymore??

If she's really trash talking your FS, I would use that as a reason. Tell her that you don't want someone standing up there with you who isn't supportive of the wedding.

I learned after the fact it is better to go with who you feel will better represent you. Don't hesitate to make changes you will be much happier in the long run.

I would wait until closer to your date to make a final decision. What if you decide to change back again? What if the first MOH ticks you off again and you want the second choice back? You may end up hurting both ladies by the change ups. I would lay off wedding duties and concentrate on the friendships. You have plenty of time to sort it out.

I would recommend sitting down with her and having a conversation about how she is making you and your bridal party feel. Do not get confrontational about it, but simply be honest with your feelings.

If she's bad mouthing your fiance and the rest of the bridal party, then she needs to leave. And if I were you, I'd be very honest with her as to why she's being 86'd because that girl needs an attitude check.

Plus, keeping her in could cost you other wedding party members if she's bad enough that they can't stand to be around her anymore.

Hmm, you had a falling out with your first MOH. Then you had a falling out with a second MOH. Have you asked yourself if the stress of wedding planning might be contributing to these fall-outs?

I agree with Amy. you have some time till the wedding, i'm not saying what she did wasn't wrong, but you have time to find people to replace her and if she wants to continue to be like this you can tell her to suck something inappropriate.

I agree with Amy and Jessica...you have well over a year...wait until things get closer to make any decisions.

To Fun Bride T: The fight with the first MoH was not about the wedding. It was actually about another friend of ours. The second MoH was a normal friend until she decided it gave her clearance to treat everyone else like dirt. I've had multiple talks with her about the behavior and nothing changes. I'm pretty tired of hearing her badmouth my fiance and the other girls when she's the one being negative.

I agree with the girls..wait a little while until it gets closer to the wedding. I have a MOH who has beyond zero interest in anything wedding related, and I honestly feel like telling her that I'd rather have someone next to me who is going to make faces everytime someone brings up the wedding, because I stopeed talking about it all together to her. For some reason weddings, instead of making people happy, for some it brings the worse in them.

Skip the bridal party and skip the drama

Sounds like you have a dramatic group of friends...i would dump all of them

She sounds like the type your going to have to be blunt with. Somethings you just should not have to tell people to do. Telling a MOH that she needs to be helpful with the wedding is like telling a 35 year old they need to flush the toilet! You just shouldn't have to. Be honest. "Look, I asked you to be an important part in my wedding because your an important part in my life, and i thought you'd be a really big help. So far you are hurting more than helping. We've discussed you attitude already at that has not worked so I can't have you in my wedding." I can't stand FH bashing from outsiders! Would you like me to call and tell her her MOH membership has been revoked! LOL!! I'm pissed off for you. : ) Good luck.

I would tell her you do not want her in your wedding due to her attitude. But do not pick a replacement right away. Just slow the process down and wait a bit. Tell the other two girls that were supposed to be MOH that you would like to slow everything down and make a decision later this year. That way you can decide at that point who you are closer to without hurting anyone's feelings.