Personal Attendants

Well I am glad to know I am at least not crazy! Haha! Where at in MN?

I live in WI/MN and I have heard of personal attendants and I will NOT be asking anyone to fill that role. I feel like it's reserved for people who aren't good enough to be bridesmaids. That's just my opinion, though. But if someone wants to be a personal attendant, then I guess that's a different story.

ETA: Italics are hard

Is asking someone to be a PA offensive?

In my opinion, no. However, the gods over at the knot have spoken so I guess we're wrong

Do you have one?

I actually have three. One is my go-between for the DOC. She's a wedding planner herself and will be able to answer any question she has. The other one will assist my BP and our mothers. The third one will be there with me as I'm getting ready. My attendants are also involved in the wedding planning process. I have 7 month old twins, work full time and marrying my oldest child (LOL) I couldn't possibly plan a wedding without their help. I don't overburden them, but after the whole invitation situation, I do go to them first.

I really dont think I would be offended if someone asked. I'd be so happy to help (no matter what my title or responsibilities were). BUT i could see how someone wouldn't respond well to such a request.

I asked a friend to help me out on the day. She and her husband had just moved to Scotland from Australia (I got married in northern England) and they were flat broke so I offered to cover their accommodation at our wedding venue. I got to have my friends at my wedding and they didn't feel they were being offered charity. She was a point of contact for vendors - in briefing notes to them I referred to her as 'bride's representative'.

I only had a MOH, no bridesmaids, so it was brilliant to have someone I trusted implicitly helping out where needed.

I had some cash payments to make to vendors on the day that she took care of (I gave her the money obviously) and she supervised the set up of the ceremony and reception rooms and the arrival of the cake and flowers while I was getting ready. After that there wasn't much - my MUA helped with my dress and train and whatnot, so my friend was already seated for the ceremony. After that, she helped me put some pins back in my hair - but that's not something we discussed, that's just something one friend would do for another. And that was about it for the day.

Im in Eagan, Athena. You?

Now Virginia, but I grew up in Illinois, but all of our family and now my sisters are up there so I spend a lot of time up there! My sisters went to The U and now live in Minneapolis, and I actually have an Aunt and Uncle in Eagan