Personal assistant(s) for the day of?

My MOH did this at someone else's wedding, and though she was irritated that she wasnt a bridesmaid (since they had been friends for a long time) was glad to have been included...But I worry that this would make my group get a little out of control, as I currently have 6 bridesmaids also...that's a lot of girls in one room!!!

The best way to find out if they wouldnt/would like it, is ask I know my cousin (10) wouldnt mind doing that. She lovessss to be involved and help!!!! And thats great if you included them to help with the venue. I'll bet they'll be sooo excited I know that basically everyone around me will kinda be a personal assistant. Everyone i know is excited about helping out SOOO....good luck. Run it by them, and see what they think. Never hurts to ask them!!

My mohs and bms will be my personal assistants for the day (whether they like it or not lol) you are already including them by having them do a reading, you shouldnt feel obligated to have them as personal assistants. but its your day and if you think they will make your day more special by being there then do it. but it should be your decision.

Maybe you could tell your aunt, the things you need done that day, and have her go with them.

That way theyre helping: just not up underneath your feet and crowding the room

That's a good point I'll certainly run it by them, I worry my aunt just secretly wants them out of her hair for the day LOL, but if it was their idea and they just dont want to ask to help, I'd love to have them share it with me.

I'd also love for them to help setup...I guess it seems kind of over controlling, but I really want to be there to help setup so that it looks like what I have in my mind...I'm so glad we get the place so early!

Haha thats not controlling! im going to be there too! its your wedding, you just wanna see it come together, and make it look perfect! Not walk down the aisle and stop halfway wondering who the hell decorated the place!!! haha that would be bad!

I would come up with a better title than personal assistant...I'm getting visions of 2 girls being run ragged by a bridezilla! No offense to you, I'm sure you would never do that to them. But the title sounds a bit demeaning. Just make sure you have very specific instructions for them and even print out a schedule and list of tasks for them and don't expect too much!

Even though it's technically work, I think a lot of girls do enjoy being a personal assistant to the bride. My aunt, my brother's gf and my sister's best friend all volunteered to be "wedding slaves" and were a huge help for me getting ready. They weren't listed in the program or anything, it was kind of spontaneous, but we all had a lot of fun. Just make sure they are people that you want to have near you when you are freaking out at the last minute!

Veryyy true celebrations. Too demanding of them could look bridezilla. Yea...keep it simple! So if something (hope not) goes differently of what you asked them, you dont get TOO upset! lol

I think the term "lady in waiting" (Thank David Tutera ^_^ ) is more appropriate. I'm thinking of doing this with my FH's sister. She's drama all the time, and really don't want that in my wedding party. Since she went to cosmetology school, I'll have her do my hair/make up, and help me get purrty for MY day

Celebrations...I didnt figure we'd call it "personal assistant" but I used that term for lack of better words, I dont mean it to sound like I'd put them hard at work, just give them a small list of things that they'd pick and think they'd like to help out with that day so they could be involved. Which, anything anyone else is willing to help with is a great relief!

I plan to have my best friend be my lady in waiting. i purposely didn't make her a BM for this very reason. i am only having 1 MOH & 1BM and typically BMs are busy getting themselves together so I wanted someone fully devoted to helping me out. not to mention to keep me calm and to run interference as some people think nothing of bothering the bride the morning of her wedding.

Im having my SIL do that but that sounds like a great idea for your two cousins. I think its a wonderful way to make them feel included and important, that age at a wedding is kind of a bummer because there isnt a whole lot they can participate in because of their age.

I agree with getting a professional. There are plenty of certified bridal consultants that do "the day of" preparations and directing. On a personal note, I had one of my really good friends at my wedding handle directing of pictures and it didn't go over so well. Pictures were done outside so I couldn't direct anything from inside. I later found out that she was drinking quite a bit before the wedding started and I didn't know it. Thank god I had my cousin there, she did all of the directing!!

Dawn

I am going to ask my FSIL to do this for me. I would rather have someone that I know and who knows me and my expecations for the day and for each part of the wedding. =)

I think you should call it lady in waiting. But if you are worried already about there being too many ppl in the room, you're going to have to set up security or something because ppl will be going in and out of the room. I think it would be nice for them to help set up and/or collect extra favors at the end of the night.

NO. My mom and BMs will help me pee and put on my veil. Asking someone to be a personal assistant is asking them to be unpaid help without the so-called benefits of being honored as a BM.

Really, the only "jobs" people should do are ushers, readers and members of the wedding party.

Hmmm well my friend didn't hesitate when i asked her to be with me the morning of my wedding and help me get dressed etc. I plan to name her in my program as my lady in waiting and will also have a special gift for her and thank her publicly at the reception b/c she has been a HUGE help to me. she's done everyhing with me as far as planning and she's not even in my wedding party. i think the "jobs" you ask people to do are determined by the relationships you have with them.

From the photographer's viewpoint ~ We ask the bride on every wedding to have some kind of personal assistant to help with pictures. Most B & G give us a list of shots they want and we have absolutely no idea who these people are and/or what they look like. It helps the formal pictures run smoothly and faster if there is someone to go fetch missing people. This kind of task could fall to the bride's personal attendant(s) and yet not make them feel like they're "doing a job"??? Just a thought.