People RSVPing with their kids! ADVICE!

It can be so difficult when it comes to this, we didn't want all of our friends/cousins to bring their kids because then it would have been more birthday party like, we will have 7 kids in attendance, 2 in the WP 2 nursing newborns and 3 nieces/nephews but we are close to them! I think if you don't want them there you need to call and tell them your sorry for the confusion however you were hoping the only children there would be the ones in the WP. I wouldn't just add my daughter to a rsvp cars, we went to 4 weddings last year and I never even thought of bringing her to 3/4 of them, the 4th was family and overnight OOT but i brought my sister along to watch her in the hotel room

I agree with Reenski. If you start making exception for others NOT in the wedding party, you'll not know when to end the exceptions.

If you wanted the kids, you would have invited the kids. You call them and tell them due to space and style, the only children who are invited are the ones in the BP. They are the ones who are being rude, not you. But I do agree; either all or nothing.

I have to agree with Tabatha as well. For me, when I got married and had kids, we viewed ourselves as a whole unit. Things addressed to us, they usually included the kids. If I got an invite that said Mr. And Mrs. Kasey, I would think the kids are included.

I think the best way to avoid this fiasco is the have "Adult Only Reception" printed on your invites. It is clear, direct, and straight to the point. No confusion there.

I think this is a great job for a bridesmaid or someone's mother. Have them say, "Best wanted me to call and say she's so sorry, but there won't be children at the reception. I'd be happy to give you information on some great babysitters." Having a third person make the call eliminates arguing.

Just say 'its an adult reception'... people should realize kids in the BP are pretty much automatically included... So RUDE!

I think they just didn't realize it was adults only. So I don't think it was rude, just misunderstood. We have to remember that most people these days do not follow etiquette rules and the only reason all of US do is because we're brides and most of it I've had to look up.

Just like people say husbands or couples that have been dating for a while are social units, I would say kids are too. If something was addressed to FH and I, and we had kids, I would assume they were included too if it did not say "adults only"

Be polite, call them, apologize for the misunderstanding, and tell them it's for adults only.