People really ask for a plus one????!!!!!

We gave everyone a plus one too. I provided an answer to the , "can I bring an additional guest?" question on the wedding website as well as "are children invited". My family has NO IDEA about wedding etiquette, so I had to provide "gentle reminders". They can't play by the rules if they don't know what they are.

I have been worried that this will happen to me next year My RSVP cards have a "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor" part and I hope that people can understand what the number on that line means LOL

We invited couples that were married, living together, or long-term/we were friends with both of them. Nobody got a random plus one.

I know some people feel like they are owed a plus one, but we planned an intimate party and did not want randoms there. The idea of going down the aisle being stared at by a bunch of strangers gave me the heebie-jeebies. Single guests had a great time hanging out with each other. Not once did I see anyone simpering at their table because there was a slow song playing. That time was used for hitting the bar or mingling. Generally speaking, adults can entertain themselves if they have food and drink.

We had a few people request plus-ones, but they were nice about it. "Hey, I've been seeing this person and it's getting serious, mind if I bring a date?" In those cases, we added that person to a B-list and in most cases were able to extend an invite once the RSVPs were in.

I had a friend TELL ME she was bringing a plus one. She's had been dating him for 2 weeks. I was perturbed that she didn't even ask. In most cases, it wouldn't be a big deal. But when you have a guest list of 40 people, adding one is a significant change in percentage. It's also kind of weird that he will be the only person that we don't love/didn't grow up with/hasn't influenced our lives. We haven't even met the guy.

ETA: @Shannon- My example is sounds similar to what you we're trying to avoid. We are going for super intimate. It might sound rude, but I'd rather that we didn't have strangers at our tiny wedding.

If a person has not been invited to many weddings, I am going to say this is pretty common. People just do not get it unless they are well versed in what goes into a modern wedding.

I know that when the first of my friends started getting married (when I was 20-21 years old) there was all kinds of weird stuff that went on. Invitees were bringing their uninvited PARENTS, showing up with their squealing infants, adding plus ones, twos, or even threes (they came in groups with their uninvited friends like it was prom), groups of people showing up just for the reception.

I went to probably 3-4 weddings that were really haphazard with the guests like that and I know it was because no one had a clue what was "proper" or expected of them. They also did not understand that there are MANY issues that can come up when uninvited people start showing up (lack of food, lack of seating, capacity issues, etc).

I had 1 person ask me even before invites went out. In the end we did add the 1 extra person, but sheeeesh.

Let me rephrase my statement.. if I'm invited to a wedding (without a plus one) and I won't know many people there/I know other couples will be there, then I'm not going. Even if I know these couples, no one wants to be have or be the third wheel at a wedding. I look at weddings like "date nights," so I wouldn't go by myself.

I have a lot of people on my guest list that are plus one, but some that are single (most of those are family). Fortunately, since they are family, I'm putting the singles mixed in with other family (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc) so there is no weirdness. Also, this works for some families/friend mixes and not others.

I went to a wedding that I knew people, however they were in the wedding party so at the dinner thankfully I had another person to talk to. It got really akward for me. Also I think a lot of people don't know the "etiquette" rule for weddings especially depending on the area you are from.

If you don't love me enough to give me a plus one, I don't love you enough to attend. Sorrynotsorry.

I had a bunch of my guy friends [who arent in relationships] assume they are getting a plus one...um no sorry dude not happening. then i have co workers who i barely talk to, or just started working there, ask and assume since we work together they will be invited. um no. i had one co worker who was brand new to my store and he overheard a conversation with me and someone else about my wedding and he butts in and says "oh a wedding? when you sending out invitations? you need my address??" i almost hit the floor. first thing out of my mouth "uh, youre not invited........". needless to say he didnt talk to me for a few days. tool.

I have not only had people ask to bring a plus one, but most just assumed it and put their plus ones on the RSVPs. Then someone said to me, "Your RSVPs have enough space to write down the names of more than one person"...uh, yea...because I printed one template for everyone including those who have families that are coming.

So now, our guest list is 190...thank you everyone because it's not like we have to pay per head or anything!

FutureMrsZottola that is exactly what mine said and your answer is NO they don't lol

I guess its not enough for some people to be invited but they can always decline if they don't want to come alone. I actually have one person who actually attended weddings in our same circle alone and suddenly wants a plus one smh. I guess my invitation was just that nice. IDK

Everyone is different. I gave one of my cousins a plus one. She always attends family get togethers by herself but I figured I'd give her the option in case she wanted to bring someone. She responded that 1 of 2 guests would attend and only put her name on the line. And she's booked a room at the hotel. She doesn't have a problem with coming solo even though she was given a plus one.

Nay, I'm not saying I wouldn't attend a wedding alone, just that if someone didn't give me the option, I wouldn't go. I went to my cousin's wedding last year without Lee, because we had two weddings two weekends in a row, one in Virginia Beach and one in Columbia, SC, and he went to the one in Va Beach with me since that was just a long weekend vs. the entire next week that I took off for my cousin's wedding/my aunt's 60th birthday.

But I sat out every slow song (and there were a lot) at that one because I had no one to dance with.

I will die on this sword if I have to: attending a wedding solo is the pits.

Ugh I feel ya, I think it's a little rude but at least they asked. For my cousins wedding neither my sister nor I got a plus one and my sister was so angry about it and was so adamant about asking for one. I didn't care because I was going to be with family anyway! I thought it was so awkward and rude for my sister to ask but she did anyway. My cousin said no too lol. But you have a right to say no it's your darn wedding!

I understand where you are coming from Porsha. Its a budget thing, and you are trying to get as many important ppl to come as possible. But it is, and will be an issue the whole way through lol.

You cant have a bunch of single people coming. They will not have a good time, you want ppl to enjoy themselves as well and not be bored.

My fiance and I went to a wedding (where I was a bridesmaid), he was alone most of the day because I was apart of the party, he said he had a horrible time (even though I was with him during the reception). He said cocktail hour was horrible and boring, and so was the beginning part of the reception; he was alone.

If you want people to walk away thinking "wow, that was fun", dont invite people without a plus one. (especially if they arent family)

Good luck! :-)

We only have 3 close friends in attendance.... since everyone else is family they will know each other.

Niecy summed it up for me as well. If you want people to leave saying they had a lovely time, they'll usually say that if they had someone with them. Weddings are about unity and love and stuff. If you show up alone, it's like, "Mer, I'm alone"