People really ask for a plus one????!!!!!

We've had 2 people ask if they could bring the person they were dating, we didn't realize either were in relationships. FH's brother asked if he could bring a friend in addition to his fiancé.

WOW!!! Do people not realize someone has to pay for their guest.

Be happy they're actually asking! I'm sure you've read the RSVP horror stories of people just adding them on.

Or in one my guest case, just assuming she could bring a guest and it wasn't even a date, it was a cousin!

At least they ask! We just had RSVPs sent back with plus ones added lol.

It worked out fine though, since some couldn't make it while others added extras.

No joke, my pastor asked me yesterday if he could bring his girlfriend. I didnt have a clue that he had one. Needless to say, that was a +1 I added with out trouble!

Yea at least they are asking I guess. I feel either way its still kinda rude. I just asked for them to give us sometime to see if we can accommodate the plus ones.

I've had people ask as well, for the most part I gave everyone a plus one. Except co workers. They are lucky they are even invited and I'm sitting them all at a table together. They understand and gladly excepted.

I had one card sent back with the number of seats we reserved for them CROSSED OUT and they put the number they wanted ANDDDDDDDDDDD added the extra names!!!! so yes.... PEOPLE GOT SOME NERVES BELIEVE ME!!! but thats when you have to pick your battles. wishing you well. maybe you get enough denials that can offset with those adding their own plus ones but you do have to draw the line at some point.

I mean, I wouldnt want to go to a wedding alone, and sit by myself all day. I'm not much of a talker so I wouldnt mingle either.

Gotta put yourself in their shoes too.

Well we are from a small area and everybody knows everyone that is not the case LOL

Who wants to attend a wedding alone? I wouldn't.

Unfortunately, yes. Or people can just be ratchet and add a plus one to the invite or better yet just show up to the wedding with a plus one.

My wedding venue coordinator told us you usually lose 10% of your guest list the day of the wedding for various reasons so you MIGHT be able to accommodate the ratchetness.

I personally wouldn't go to a wedding alone, so I'm not surprised that some people have a hard time accepting the fact that they can't bring a date with them. That's just an alternate opinion. We cut down on the amount of people and went with only the close family/friends and gave those people a plus one.

Not surprising. I've already had 2 of my ushers ask if they could bring a plus one, and that was months ago. I haven't even mailed out my invites yet!

It's better than what I used to do... Just show up to a wedding with a plus one unannounced. I had no idea it was a huge no-no. My bad.

I fear the etiquette karma is gonna come back and bite me in the ass.

I agree that at least they asked. Most of our guest list is made up of married couples and the few cousins that are single, I gave them plus ones. Our RSVPs have it pre-printed that 2 seats are reserved. I'll see if anyone is bold enough to cross out the 2 and add more.

And I have to disagree about not going to a wedding solo. Depending on who was getting married, if I know a lot of people there, I wouldn't have a problem going by myself

We had two people who we didn't know were in relationships ask for a plus one. I denied both of the requests. They both didn't show up. Losers.

But then you're alone during slow songs, smexy songs.... let me tell you how much it sucks to watch other people dance because you don't have a partner and everyone else has a date: A LOT.

Honestly, I completely disagree. I think as a host you are being rude for not giving a plus one to begin with. I know I'll get a lot of replies of "I have to pay for these people or I only want people I know" but honestly, I gave everyone a plus one. I don't care if they're dating, not dating or anything like that, I'm paying for them to bring someone if they choose.

Unless you were my close family....I would not attend your wedding without someone. Sorry.

I gave most of my guests a plus one, but there were a few where the guest was invited as part of their family unit (mom, dad, brother, sister, etc), and so we left off the plus one. We did have one guest RSVP yes, and added +guest. I thought that was weird, but we've had enough declines where we decided not to get riled up about it.

I gave all my guests a plus one as well; I'd rather plan and budget for it than the other way around.

I did not know a thing about weddings until I went to 11 of them a few summers back; until then I didn't spend much on a gift, forgot to do RSVPs, etc. And I'm an insanely organized person! I didn't understand how much there is to a wedding and that there are so many expectations.