Parents Meeting?

Or dinner or something? Sigh, I hate not having money haha.

I think it would be little odd that they haven't met at all before the wedding. Why don't you host a little dinner party before at your house? It doesn't have to be fancy. You could even make it potluck. Or one set of parents could host? Do they live far from you?

Our parents haven't all meet yet either and won't until the wedding. They live too far apart and all have busy lives. My dad has met fh dad,step-mom and sister, and my mom and sister have met fh sister and neice.

I think you are close enough to the wedding that you shouldn't worry about putting something together unless the parents are willing to help.

I feel it is important that they meet before hand. I tried to set up dinner parties for our parents two years ago so they could meet! It didn't happen until this last October, however.

Are both sets of parents nearby so you can have just a small get together--maybe a potluck or something so it's not so spendy for you and FH. Can you set up a Valentines celebration at your place?

I also feel it would be uncomfortable to meet at the wedding. I wonder... if they meet beforehand and get to know each other, they may be more relaxed and find conversation a bit easier at your wedding.

good luck to you!

Oh Ana, I was writing the same time you were, it seems!

We're all not too far from each other, but I literally have no extra time or money, I mean we could do a pot luck but I know that none of them would really care to do it. None of the parents have even mentioned meeting the others. I'm not sure what to do. I mean we can't host a dinner at our apt, we live with a roommate, and he's disgusting. I wouldn't want to do it at my apt anyway. FH dad doesn't own a kitchen table... sigh it's just weird. Why can't we just have normal parents lol.

That's true Unique, I guess they wont really hang out or anything after the wedding anyway... I think we'll just have them meet at the wedding, and if either sets of parents bring up a get together, I'll worry about it then.

Our parents only met once when we moved in together. I was freaking out big time over that, and luckily it turned out allright, but if you are nervious about it, I would make them meet at least once before the wedding even if it's just for coffee at your house or something. The nerves I had the morning of their meet is not something I would want at my wedding.

My FH family lives in GA and NC... my family is all in south Florida.... they have not met yet and will not meet until the wedding. In a perfect world they would meet and hang out and talk about us as babies, etc. But it's just not in the cards. I'm not worried about it at all ; )

My mom met FH's parents only once and it was for a brief time. We all met together when we looked at the reception hall. There was not a whole lot of time that they actually talked to each other. They will not meet my dad until the wedding weekend. Personally I am not worried about it. They live 4 hours away and they are not going to see each other all too often. I think that if they wanted to meet, they would have said something. I would not stress over planning something before the wedding.

Personally I think its really important for them to meet. Not because they should be friends but either way it just sounds strange for parents to not meet. Imagine....these are people that will be in your lives forever. When/If ya decide to have kids, these will be the grandparents. My FIL's & my own parents have only hung out about 3-4 times so they aren't really friends, but it's nice that they know eachother. I couldn't imagine marrying someone w/out my parents meeting my future in laws, but thats just me.

@ Gigi, I too think it's a bit strange but honestly I have a lot of stress about all other things, I just don't want to have to worry about this too. Ya know?

I mean neither of our parents have a car, his dad is partially blind and my parents have a scooter...lol So I would have to drive across town pick up FFIL then drive to the other side of town to pick up my parents then reverse. It's just too much work lol. I think maybe after we get settled after the move, then we can take our parent's out to meet each other. But neither side seems to really want to. I guess that really strikes me as weird too.

I'm nervous about this as well. My parents don't live in the country any more, moved back to India awhile back. My FH's parents live in Florida. There's already going to be a problem w/communication. Both sets have heavy accents. I'm so nervous about them meeting. But my parents are coming back before the wedding to help out, so hopefully we can fly in FH's parents from Florida around that time too.

Mine and FH's parents won't meet until the wedding- but it's a distance issue as well.

When I got married before, the in-laws met about a month before the wedding. We did a simple dinner out for everyone.

This time, we're going to take them all out for lunch the day before- just us, and the parents so they have a chance to meet. Then, that evening will be a casual party at my FSIL's home- I'll cook appetizer type stuff and just get everyone together so they can meet.