parents inviting guests to the wedding

My parents are footing nearly all of the bill. I invited all of their old friends. Eta: I've kept up a positive relationship with their old friends. They're all like aunts and uncles to me.

Absolutely fine if you want a room full of people you don't know.

My parents are paying for a good chunk of it, so they are inviting a considerable amount of guests. To be "accommodating" (as my mother put it), they allowed FILs to do the same. I was a little miffed at how many people FMIL wanted to add especially because FH and I don't fucking know them and FILs aren't paying at all, but my mom peeled me off the ceiling and was like "it's their son's wedding, it's fine".

My dad asked if he could invite two of his longtime friends and I said yes. He's not contributing financially, and having these two men and their plus 1s attend doesn't hurt my budget. FMIL asked if she could invite 3 friends with their spouses and we said yes. Same deal, she is not contributing financially, but it doesn't hurt our budget to include these people.

My parents are contributing and they are inviting long time friends that have known me most of my life. My FH mom and step dad are not contributing and they each have their best friend on the list and that's fine. FMIL wanted to invite some of her other friends and FH told her no

Our parents provided a bit for the wedding. Even if they hadn't I wanted them to celebrate with those they were close with. Each parent received a table that they could fill with their friends that weren't on our list.

We are paying for pretty much everything. FILs payed for the down payment on my dress which we were very thankful for. They are adding guests but we have final say. They are very considerate and haven't invited anyone that we don't know. We got lucky!

Yes, no, yes, no. We're paying, but gave FH's parents and my mom 20 guests each.

Nope. They are not paying. So they have no say. Their friends are not our friends. I refuse.

Yea, they've invited quite a few - only friends who also knew at least one of us, though. They're paying for all the per person costs (food, alcohol, venue costs, seating, etc), so we pretty much gave them free reign to invite who they liked so long as our original guest list could still be accommodated.

My in-laws contributed and I let MIL give me a list of names other than her family (it was 6 of her friends).

That's a NO! Because or parents aren't paying for the wedding. However if they pay the full price (and stay within venue occupancy limits) they are welcome to invite whoever.

Just remember- if you wouldn't take them out for a regular dinner, why are you paying $100 for them to eat??? Can't invite everyone sadly.

My parents are paying for almost half, so they're basically hosting the reception rental, food, and bar. They've been pretty good about the guest list- only a few (like 10) I wouldn't have invited.

As for FILs, they're covering the rehearsal dinner and about 1/6th of the wedding cost. They added a few people, but not a ton either.

I guess I'm lucky!

The friends of my mother's that are invited are people I have known my entire life. I drew the line at her co-workers....long story short, they all turned a blind eye when my mother was wrongly terminated (violation of the family medical leave act) and I told her even the ones she is friends with are not welcome.

My mom is helping out some. Neither side has asked to invite anyone and I haven't offered.

No to all.

FH and I are paying, and our parents haven't asked us to invite anyone. In fact, both sides have told us they will handle any family having issues with not being invited(extended family)

I love the table idea for your parents!

They contributing towards OUR wedding. Only OUR family and friends will be invited.

My fmil handed me a list of 20 people and she is NOT contributing ...don't get me started.

I don't understand the idea of having strangers at your wedding. Like why do the parents want it and why would the parents friends even want to come. I don't understand. That being said, we are getting some help from both sides so I did ask if there was anyone the parents wanted to invite and the only people they mentioned were people I planned to invite anyways. I'm very thankful I have understand parents.