parents inviting guests to the wedding

My parents paid for our wedding in full (DH and I paid for the honeymoon and our rings. My in-laws paid for the RD only). I can't stand my MIL but to her credit, she definitely understood the concept "no pay, no say!". I invited about 8 couples that are my parents friends, but I feel like it's a little different from most people because these are my parents' friends since college... they have known me since I was born... I was raised with their kids like they're my cousins, I actually see them more often than my out-of-state cousins haha... I couldn't imagine my wedding without them there to celebrate with us! There were only 3 people my mom insisted we invite that I could've done without - a couple (long time friends of hers) and her cousin (she's divorced and didn't bring a date). I've met all of them before but do not have a relationship with them. Her cousin came, which I know meant a lot to my mom. Her friend and her husband didn't come, which we didn't really expect them to because he was still recovering from a stroke, but it meant a lot to my mom to make sure they were invited.

We're paying for our wedding and my FMIL requested we invite 10 couples. We're trying to keep our guest list to 100, so that was too many, but we did think about it and there are reasons to let parents have guests. It's a bittersweet day for them, regardless of your age they probably feel like their kids are all grown up and slipping away from them. Why not let them have some of their close friends they love available to help them celebrate? We decided to give up 6 spots on our guest list so my FMIL could have a table full of her friends. Your parents are contributing, it makes sense they have friends there, but it may not be the best start to your new relationship as daughter in law to deny your in laws having 6 friends.

Both my parents and FH's parents (his mom and stepdad) are contributing financially. My parents are each inviting 2 families that I have known my whole life (4 families total). FH's mom and stepdad are each inviting 1 family that FH has known his whole life (2 families total).

Our parents gave a list with the understanding that because we were paying for the wedding, the final decision of that list is our decision. So far, they haven't invited anyone we didn't approve of.

We want to see a room full of people we know at our wedding, oppose to a room full of strangers.

We are paying for our own wedding and the guest list is small and intimate(33).

Yes all the way around. But, I've known most of parents' friend most of my life, so I'm not bothered by it at all.

My parents are helping to pay however decided not to invite friends. FMIL asked about inviting her friends and I turned that idea down. One because it would be a snowball effect, give her an inch she will take a mile and two because she isn't contributing financially

Both sets of parents contributed; my parents requested two couples be invited, however I would have invited them anyway as they are my godparents. DH's parents didn't have any requests except that all of DH's aunts and uncles be invited, which they would have been anyway. We were lucky I think!

We told our parents that they can have 1 table each to invite their close friends. (people we know) we were clear that we don't want strangers at our wedding. FIL's offered to pay for their table of friends but that felt awkward to me so I politely turned them down.

My mom is paying 60%, and she's inviting 13 people.

Future in-laws are hosting the welcome cocktails the night before. FH already has 4 family friends on the list, and we've offered a few times for them to invite more people, but they are good with 4.

My Mom is inviting some of her friends who are also my Godparents and like Aunts/Uncles to me. Some of their kids and their SOs too. She is helping pay, but these people would have received an invite regardless really.

FILs haven't even asked about the guest list. The few times I've brought it up to ask about certain family members (there are some that tend to be ostracized so I wanted a better feel of the situation) they have only mentioned family, never friends. I know my FMIL has some work friends but I don't think she wants to invite them, and they aren't contributing financially and our guest list is already to capacity. I'm pretty sure FFIL doesn't have any friends lol, may sound harsh but he doesn't handle social situations very well at all.

General rule of thumb, if they're contributing financially to things the guest list affects (i.e. catering) then they get *some* say in the guest list, I think it's run on a percentage. If they're contributing to something like the rehearsal dinner then I think it'd be a courtesy for you to include their friends.

Mine are not paying for the wedding but it's customary back home to give your parents a few invites to send to who they wish

My parents are paying most of the bill and their close friends were invited. I actually put them on the list myself because I am close with them as well..my FMIL did ask how many people she could invite since my parents are paying. I let her know how many people are on the list and the max we would like to invite. I have more than half of the people on my side of the guest list because I have a big family and a lot of friends. I'm not asking her to pay for her friends and I gave her that range of invites so she doesn't go overboard. Hope this helps! :-)

My parents are footing the bill and both of our parents have people on the guest list. I know about 90% of the people on our guest list. I do find it odd that my mom wants to invite people from work that I've never met before, but don't find it odd that FH has family in his parent's list that I've never met.

My mom is paying so I let her invite who she wanted, so she added about 10 of her friends to the guest list.

FMIL isn't contributing anything but I was feeling nice and asked her if there was anyone she wanted to invite. She gave me 5 people and I told her to give me their addresses. She never gave me the addresses or said anything about it again so I'm just not inviting them.

ETA: Would also like to add that the people my mom is inviting are people that I know very well and have been around since I was born, not a bunch of randoms lol

I literally don't understand this at all. My parents are not paying so no we aren't inviting their friends. But they also haven't asked? Even if a parent is paying why in the hell do these parents want to invite their friends to their child's wedding? And what friend wants to go to their friends kids wedding?! Weird.

My dad is paying and he only requested invites be sent to 4 people total including guests who likely will not come since they live in TX and we are

Getting married in PA

My mom requested one or two people which I already had on the list. We are paying for the wedding ourselves.

My mom is inviting some friends, yes. However, I know them all and she's paying for the reception. So that's her call and I am okay with it

When I walk down the aisle I want to be surrounded by people I know and love, that is one reason I am having an intimate wedding. If my mom had her say I would be inviting all 10 of her siblings, their spouses, their kids, grandkids, her cousins... It would be 150 people that I only see one a year and try not to talk to. My parents aren't helping pay but even if they were it's my wedding not a family reunion.