Parents don't like destination wedding idea!

How about Florida? Palm trees, beaches, and parents can drive.

Florida is great, and not that expensive. You can also do an intimate affair there. Or maybe try having your wedding in the offseason to save money

I'm sure Florida is a good compromise. I just fell in LOVE with the Virgin Islands. I totally want to go all bridezilla on their asses (even though I've never been close to that moment before) but I won't.

Who is footing the bill? If it's not your parents.... Florida is a nice compromise.

Where in the islands are you thinking? We are getting married in St Thomas at Magens Bay. Our parents didn't like the idea at all initially either but now they are looking forward to the vacation. We looked into FL keys but the prices for airfare, hotel, etc were the same if not more than St Thomas and we just loved the tropical island destination better.

FILS dont agree with our destination wedding either. but next year we are planning the BIG shabang with our vow renewal and recetption with everyone. If they cant come then they cant come, we would like them to be there but this might just be one of those things that will be better if it is just us and we can all celebrate next year-- everyone has their own opinion, just do what you and FS want its your day no one else's

I'm liking the Florida compromise. I always preferred flying over ocean than land, like at 40,000 feet you would just land with a splash if something happened ...lol

Consider this,

1. Florida is the best location

2. It has easy access to the Caribbean.

3. It is sunny all the time.

4. It has beautiful beaches.

5. It is warm and comfortable

What else can ask for?

Why not do the VI for your honeymoon?

And there is still planning to do when you have a destination wedding.

If you want to keep it in town - Have you considered getting a wedding planner? You can go all "bridezilla" on her if you are still having the urges. You can give the planner your budget, tell her what kind of even you want to have, give her your guest count, and she can either plan the whole thing, give you options to pick from, or help you pick what you want and just take some of the stress off.

Either way, I hope you the best.

I know, I know... Florida's great. But it's not an island! Haha I know I'm being somewhat ridiculous, but I'm so totally in love with the islands.

And I just talked to my sister and she told me that my mom was talking to her recently about a trip to Mexico with another couple that she's going to take. Soooo- I think she could make it to the Virgin Islands. My sister also said that my dad's just being difficult and that he would definitely go.

Cyndi- I've been checking out St. John but I haven't settled on anything yet!

Sharon- I'm not sure that's how it works... but I like the way you think!

FH and I are footing most (if not all) of the bill, but my mom is buying my dress for me. LOVE her!

I wrote you a PM

Some people like to b*tch and moan before they're on board with a plan. These types eventually fall into line, but they just want you to know, in detail, how much of a hassle you're being. If your parents are taking other trips, then they can probably manage this one.

Is it possible they're hurt and they're throwing up objections because they're too afraid to say, "We always dreamed of a big hometown-type wedding for you"? Sometimes parents have their own vision of your wedding day, and they have a hard time letting go of that.

St John is gorgeous, that's where we are staying for our honeymoon. I'm liking the idea of the wedding in FL then heading to the islands for your honeymoon like Hayley suggested as an alternative. Good luck with your decision! I've done a ton of research about the islands so feel free to PM me if you go that route and need any info. I've got a great planner who does weddings on both islands.

I co-sign with Unique although I might be biased since I'm also having a DW in the Dominican Republic... I love Islands too!!!

Best of luck

I say find a compromise. You want an island- what about a connected island? Maybe Key West, or one of the islands off the coast of California.

It's your wedding, and it's really important your parents be there. I'd make an accomodation for them. I don't think your mother's agoraphobia is something to take lightly.

What about honeymooning in the Virgin Islands as your compromise?

@Meghan, her mom is traveling to Mexico and flies domestic also :/

tough desicion.... I would say go with what makes you and your FH happy, your sis already said your dad will go regardless.

Okay, I talked to my mom for awhile and she said she'll go despite her nerves. I recommended Xanax! Also, I reassured her by reminding her that it's still the United States, so she doesn't have to be worried about language barriers or anything. Also, with the rest of the family there, I think she'll do fine. So hooray- one parent down, one to go! My dad's in the middle of some health issues so I may wait to nag him until he's healthier.

SO FREAKING EXCITED! Dream wedding, here I come!

Congrats Jenn!! I know it's hard trying to please everyone especially (more importantly) your beloved parents.. I'm glad it's working out in your Favor, keep us posted! woo hoooo.... sand and sun awesome!

"Some people like to b*tch and moan before they're on board with a plan. These types eventually fall into line, but they just want you to know, in detail, how much of a hassle you're being."

This. This exactly. Most of my family has not made this easy for me either but I know they will suck it up and come and they'll probably even have a good time. Having said that, have you been to the USVI? I went a couple years ago and was not impressed. Give it a couple weeks before you decide. You've got plenty of time.

Whoops. Double post.