Overdone and over it?

@Letti your wedding sounds gorgeous! and I love the unique theme! if I had it my way we would have a really intimate ceremony in this gorgeous glass chapel during the evenings so you could see all of the stars and candles and flowers everywhere!

Burlap *barf*, mason jars, wine bottles... I'm not a rustic person. But we are using some wood and doing a forestry/flower type wedding. That's just who we are as a couple and how our house is decorated, but barns and that type of rustic no thanks. We are using blush as an accent color because we are using pastel accents for our spring wedding. But I agree it's a hard color to wear!

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Mismatched bridesmaid dresses just aren't my thing especially when they are very contrasted colors.

And I totally am with everyone on the weird, "I'm still single" signs

Oh my...I'm a lifelong horsewoman, and FH was raised on a farm and spent his childhood on the back of a horse, so we're getting married in a barn. And it's rustic as fuck, because that's who we are. We live in cabin in Vermont with our ancient cat and our two miniature donkeys in the back yard. FH is good with his hands and dabbles in making wood furniture as a hobby. And I canned with my mom and grandma before mason jars were en vogue, so I give no fucks if someone doesn't like that we're using mason jars for our drink-ware.

That said, we're blending the Mexican/Spanish elements in so it's unapologetically us.

I don't really see the point in a thread to rip apart other people's wedding choices. If it's you and it makes you happy, do it up. I mean, seriously, does anyone really walk into a wedding and their first thought is, "Ugh, how tacky and overdone, mason jars and wood planks? PUH-LEAZE"...

@O&S I feel you on the flower crowns. I can't stand them! Unless you're going to Coachella, leave the flower crowns at home.....coming from the girl that doesn't understand the Coachella vibe in the first place.

@PrettyWitty&Gay: I was a little surprise that some of the officiants I was contacting to have some options for couples if they needed referrals refused to do anything but straight couples in this day and age. I ended up with 4 I am really happy with that do all including a married priest who is the best out of all of them.

But if someone wants to be trendy for the sake of being trendy why does it matter? I agree that things about dragging the groom to the alter and such are gross but stylistic things, like burlap, are just a difference of vision. ETA for example, I had a flower crown yet I agree that some flower crown are wayyy too big for my tastes. But that's just my taste, if someone else likes that, go for it.

@letti uuuugggghhhhh thanks for doing a great job at your venue!

@Enchanted is right. its not about ripping stuff apart. I'm pretty young, very inexperienced at planning events, and haven't attended too many weddings. I know this community is a great resource for cutting through the crap that you see all over the internet and letting brides know what guests will really be thinking at their wedding. The internet will tell you that honeyfunds are ok, sitting on hay stacks are ok, and telling your bridal party what to do/look like etc., is ok. Its helpful to see what a broad group of people really think about wedding trends/ideas.

I'm personally over long drawn out speeches at the reception. Some speeches are great and can make people laugh/cry. but I don't want to sit there for an hour while 10 different people talk. We actually aren't doing any speeches at all. And the cake in the face!! cant stand it and don't know why anyone wants to do that!

That cursive font that is on every. single. premade wedding sign. Where did it even come from?

@Abbi I have a very, very light blush dress and I didn't blow up on @BMG because she doesn't like them. We all have our own vision. I wouldn't say it is ripping apart, just saying what we don't enjoy. You can make a thread of what you do enjoy and ask people to state what they enjoy.

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Who knew so many would have such strong opinions on décor? LOL

Just as long as guests don't get snotty at the wedding about how it's not their style or how overdone something else...

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Our wedding was all about barn, rustic/shabby chic, burlap, lace, wood, antique blue mason jars, etc. DH didn't really have a preference when it came to the decor and that style is very much my personality. I did try to keep things very simple and not overdone. Our venue was gorgeous as it is so I did not need to do much. We have a few venues here that are old buildings that have been converted into event spaces. They are very much concrete, glass and some artsy chandeliers. I am not a fan of the industrial look but that's just me.

Burlap, wood slabs, anything rustic. That's all I see posted in the area I live in.

My sister wants a camo wedding dress (yuck).

Lol at Jami P

@O&S Thanks lady, I loved it and that's all that really matters lol

Look I'm def not offended, I had a fucking gorgeous ass wedding. I'm just saying a lot of these things are stylistic choices, not things OP mentioned in her follow up comment, like long speeches (and goodness is that a trend? Thank God not at weddings I've been to lol)

So done with chalkboards

I personally think hotel ballrooms are way overdone, but logistically I understand why they're an appealing option.

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Definitely over barn weddings as well.

Even though I'm having a barn wedding. There will be zero mason jars, burlap, wood slabs, cutesy signs or even lace really (besides my dress).

I guess I'm just annoyed by it because way before barn weddings were a thing I wanted to get married in a barn since I grew up riding horses. I thought it was so cool on Runaway Bride how she rode a horse down the aisle. We've got people around here booking all these barn venues and they've never stepped foot outside the suburbs but whatever, to each their own I guess.

Blush is my bridesmaid color too. Guess I'm basic lol