Out-of-Obligation Invites

Oh yes! My FH is Mexican and apparently who have to invite everyone you've ever known. It's a cultural thing that I just don't get. Why should we pay for there people that I've never met and that he hasn't seen in years. It makes no sense to me at all!

Well, we had to invite FH's Grammy obv... and she is over 80 and won't fly so had to invite the Aunt who is driving her. And since we invited one aunt we had to invite ALL of FH's 10 aunts and uncles! Oh brother. They are all out of state, so it's doubtful all of them will come, but the thought is still daunting.

I almost did. It was my best friend's MIL, who is also my mom's friend. She has never been particularly nice to me and when she got married a couple years ago, she caused some serious drama between my bff and myself in an attempt to stop me from coming to her wedding. Then when I did come, she put me to work.

My mom was encouraging me to invite her but she was so blatantly unfriendly with me at her grandson's (my best friend's son's) birthday that I put my foot down

My FH has a good friend with an awful girlfriend that no one likes. Obviously, though, since we're inviting him she gets an invite too. I am NOT HAPPY since we are only having 30 people and there are so many other people I'd rather gave there than her I really want to "and guest" her on the invite so she gets offended and doesn't come but I know that will cause too much drama. Blah. She's a giant see you next Tuesday.

FH told his mum the wrong price per head for the reception - just the food as opposed to food and beverage. So she included not only her good friend and her husband, but also their two adult daughters that we've never met. Goodbye $600.... But I love FMIL and she's been through a rough time with the unexpected death of her husband so if she wants them there then they're invited.

I honestly feel like half of my guest list are "out of obligation" invites, because they are to please other people and not myself. I gave 10 invites for my parents to use, 10 invites for FH's parents to use, and FH invited at least 40 people that he feels need to be invited even though I do not care one ounce if they are there or not. although it is extremely annoying because the guest list is much larger and more expensive than I had wanted it to be, this wedding is a family celebration and I am ok with people being there to make the people I love happy...especially given that they are contributing a bit financially and they respected my numerical limits.

I have a couple out of obligation ppl because of my mom and other reasons no biggie.

Definitely. I gave this crazy aunt that only gets crazier when she's drunk and I really feel like its a waste of damn near $200, hell $400 if I include her boyfriend. I'm hoping she can't get a baby sitter cause her bad ass son definitely ain't coming.

My FH's cousin that I've never met before. He attended her wedding when he was a teenager.

I have some obligations... My dad's oldest sister and her husband and their kids and kids' kids. DAMN THAT'S A MOUTHFUL!!!! But I'm inviting the rest of my dad's siblings and their children. I just don't care for that particular aunt and uncle and I'm only somewhat close to one of their children. But they were very supportive thru my first divorce and they like FH. FH refuses to invite any of his aunts and uncles. FMIL is okay with her sisters not being invited but asked that her brother get invited. He brother actually asked if he could be invited. He lives somewhere out of state. He has also offered to help us financially with the wedding. We graciously declined, but he's getting invited.

I'm actually excited about a few of my obligation invites. My mom insisted I invite her brothers and a cousin of hers that I've started getting to know thru FB and they're actually really excited to come and I can't wait to FINALLY meet them!!!!!!

My cousin got an invite so my mom would stop crying about a family fight

My FBIL's wife, ohhh boy she's just awful, has a big mouth and not comfort to be around her, she already send me the dress that she will wear, it's like a night club dress but whatever, we all know her so, we are ready to suck it up.....

Yes, my "grandfather". We are only related through marriage but when my grandmother passed away two years ago, he treated my mother like absolute shit. I'm extending an invite at my mother's insistence of taking the high road.

I will not invite his children though, (my step aunt and uncle and their families), the drama and disrespect they caused at my grandmothers funeral is unforgivable.

Yes, I have to invite the wicked witch aka my stepmother although she rubs me and FH the wrong way. I am still wrestling with this one in my spirit. We almost got into an altercation back in October and haven't spoken to each other since. I could care less about inviting her but I've been told its the right thing to do.

So many people I won't even bother to mention them all. And we're paying for the wedding ourselves. Yeah, no one ever thinks about that, do they???