Out-of-Obligation Invites

Pretty much FH's entire side - I could care less if any of them come but I know it would really hurt him. They are awful to him but he is one of those people that lets family get away with anything simply because they're family.

Oh and a worthless cousin of mine and her three kids. I would have loved to leave her off the list but it would have seriously damaged my close relationship with her mom (my aunt).

Half of the people on the list are out of obligation.. its irritating, but you gotta do what you gotta do.. Planning is stressful enough with my FH crazy family but pissing them off would not be a good thing. I just pray most of them don't come.

I don't really have this problem... but FH does. His paternal family isn't really supportive of his life other than to brag that he's a first generation college goer. He didn't really want to invite them, but has to in order to make things even since he wants his maternal side there

For some reason my FH thinks we need to invite his extended family and a bunch of his coworkers. The extended family are people he has not seen or spoken to in years and people I have certainly never met. When it comes down to it - whoever is going to end up footing the bill for the food will decide who gets invited. I personally will probably end up paying for all the food myself. If that is the case, 50 people are going to get chopped from the list, that is without debate. If his parents want these distant relatives there, then they can pay for the meal and invite them. So far my mother and I have been paying all the deposits and purchasing decor. FH set up an account to put back money for final payments on some things. But honestly, I am kind of hoping I will get stuck paying for the meal because then I can dictate who gets cut from the list. I am really not keen on throwing a party and having to ask my FILs "who is that" the whole night.

Half of my guests are people we are not close to, but they are family. I feel obligated to invite all relatives and not just the one's we're close to because we all live close by (within a 30 min drive). I don't want an uncomfortable moment when I run into them at the store and they ask why they didn't get invited but so and so did. We have the room and it's not worth trying to save a buck or two by cutting them out. I would of been much happier with around 10 guests, but it's looking like around 60-70 now.

To be honest I'm not close to much of my extended family...so all of them ha. Also a family friend of FH who doesn't like me. I don't think she likes many people to be honest.

Yep. All of our out of town guests, about 33 people. Plus my boss. Oh well, the more the merrier.

My cousin's wife. She's getting better lately, but over the years she has made many comments anti gay marriage, or saying my relationship isn't the same as others because we are gay. And I want you at my wedding why? But I can't ignore one cousin, it would be a total faux pas, so I had to do it. I totally expected them NOT to come, especially since it's 2 states away. But then, his brother and sister and law, who live where the wedding is taking place, go and have a baby, and they of course want to see him. Crap.

Uhhhh yeah lol. If it were up to me, my FH's immediate family would be completely uninvited. They have been nothing but horrible to us and my FH for the past 2 years. BUT he keeps insisting this will bring us all together, having them be in and a part of the wedding. Yeah right! Nothing but drama.

Nope. We both come from small families and thank goodness!! We're also paying for it all, so we don't have to listen to mom say "You really need to invite great Aunt Gertrude..."

My mom's first cousins, and two great aunts and a great uncle....they aren't my cousins! One of them I can't even stand. The other three are okay. And my great aunts and great uncle...yeah I guess I should invite them. Oh and FH's uncle that NO ONE LIKES, but everyone else in the family is getting an invite..so yeah.

I have a lot of obligated family. That I see only on occasions but there my moms siblings. Cause they love to about people. And I don'tu mother to be the topic

My dads brother and his wife! I love my uncle, however his wife is nuts! At the last family weddinf, which was the first time my grandma had all three of her boys together in 15 years, my aunt freaked out because she didnt think my 17 year old cousin could watch her 13 year old daughter in the hotel room! My aunt caused a huge scene and made my uncle leave with in the fist 30 min. Luckily my uncle will be coming alone!

Our entire family. Fh has over 30 cousins. I have dated him for 4 years, and other than seeing a few of them at Christmas, no one has even bothered with him. I think its total BS that we are expected to invite people who we never see, at the sacrifice of those firends and coworkers who are a daily party of our life. I am really hoping a lot wont come because it is a 2-3 hour drive, on a holiday weekend, and we are not allowing children.

And then there is the issue of his parents 4 friends, which we have not reached a decision on yet. For anyone who remembers my post, FMIL has not called Fh back and its been a week. FFIL dis try to call last night, and Fh will try to get him tonight.

Some of my parents' friends and in-law's friends.

FH's mother...... She's never been a part of his life and just pops in when she needs something (his grandmother raised him)... and I'm convinced that she's directly related to the wicked witch of the West.

We're inviting her because we're inviting his other family members and to avoid awkwardness.

FH's extended family and a few of my extended relatives. Mine are all OOT, though, so I didn't have to worry about them coming (most have never even been down here), but all of FH's extended family is local. He doesn't really like many of them, but they all would have been legit pissed if we hadn't invited them and it would be terribly awkward at family functions.

FH's Stepmother's coworkers. It makes it sticky, because she and my mother work together (which is how FH and I met ). I would rather invite more of our friends than her co-workers. I'm dreading finalizing our guest list!

Our venue requires a 100 person minimum for the ballroom (as opposed to the ugly smaller room that I just hate) so we are inviting a lot of extended family that we probably would have cut in a smaller venue. I would have been happy with a small crowd but I would be unhappy in the smaller room.