Out-of-Obligation Invites

My Great Uncle and his nasty wife, who never showers or brushes her teeth.

I'm inviting them because if I didn't, it would upset my Great-Grandfather (Who is 84 and has heart problems), and would make my Great-Grandma (if she hadn't been cremated) roll over in her grave.

No one! We only invited people we wanted there.

Dad's boss and FH's parents (they are terrible people but it would upset his grandparents if he didn't invite them)

I've got an extra 30 guests of family that my grandmother says I have to give an invitation to because they are family. Even though we both know they won't come(some are old and don't like big crowds). I'm giving into my grandma and giving them an invitation but I'm not giving them an RSVP because I know they'd never fill it out.

I had to invite one person who I haven't seen or spoken to in 15 years as my step dad threatened not to come to the wedding if I didn't. Wouldn't you know it, they declined...

Several of my parents friends in their neighborhood got invited - people I've only met a handful of times but feel like they know us because my parents talk about us! My parents are paying for our wedding so a few couples I don't know well really didn't bother me much.

I invited several girls I'm close with at work (not out of obligation) but included one girl who drives me a little crazy because she helped me with my invitations and I felt bad excluding her. She has since left the company for another job but will still be coming to the wedding.

My aunt and her daughter who I haven't seen since I was 13

Some cousins (they said no thankfully)

Erin I am in the same position! My side of the wedding is almost 100 people, all of which FH knows and loves. We spend holidays together, vacation together, and visit each other on a regular basis.

When FH made his list, he named under 40 people from his family he wanted there. His mom added on another 40 who FH has NO idea who they are! FMIL said "oh you remember your aunt so and so, she sent you guys Christmas gifts when you were younger." THAT'S AN ACTUAL QUOTE.

Crazy stuff. End rant.

Some people on my FH's side. Maybe a couple or two who my Step Mom is obsessed with... and we're just "eh" about.

Cousins on my FH's Mom's side. I've seen them a total of 4/5 times in the 5 years we'eve been dating ( They only live two hours away). They don't come to the same family functions we have - but FH mom insisted we had to invite them. Thankfully one already declined via RSVP.

This is also the same set of cousins that just last year (when we were already engaged) said to me at a family get together " Are you the same girlfriend?"...ummmm

Just my slightly nutty cousins. I never see them, and wouldn't have thought they'd want to come (we live clear across the country, and I don't think of attending a stranger's wedding as 'fun'), but then my mom got seriously ill in the months before the wedding, and my cousins came out with my aunt one time, and one cousin said, "Can't wait to see you at your wedding!" "Um, OK.. guess I'll add you to the list...." Luckily, I had to pay for X many spots and we were way under that, so I didn't have to bump anyone I really wanted to invite her.

Not really.... a few people we had on our "maybe" list before we finalized that we were told by our parents it would be appreciated if we invited them... it was only a handful of people so it wasn't a big deal especially since we were considering inviting them anyways....

My mom has said my Grandma has asked to invite some of her friends... luckily my mom deflected that situation for me... Grandma hasn't said anything to me about said people so I'm hoping I'm good lol... If she does I will have my bridal balls ready anyways lol

My vagrant crazy aunt, my white trash cousins, my great aunt who lives on the east coast and is like 90. My mom insisted we invite so many family members that I couldn't even come close to recognizing in a room.

I am going to have to do the 'Devil Wears Prada' thing and have my mom whisper who these people are as they come through the receiving line!!! LOL

All of my out ot town guests (50 people) are obligation invites. Mainly because they are aunts and uncles who I would eventually see one Christmas or easter. Im just trying to avoid the awkard questions as to why they weren't invited. I really dont care if they show up or not!

Nope. We're not inviting many people so we're keeping it to those we genuinely want to be there.

I have a couple family members I am inviting that if my wedding were smaller I might now. However I don't really except them to attend and if they did they would still be welcome Just not all that close to them! It will make my mom happy though to have them invited and that alone is worth it.

I work in a small office of about 15 people, have been here for 13 years, so they all feel like they've watched me "grow up". If it was up to me, I wouldn't invite half of them (and their wives and kids) but it's one of those situations that if I invite Tom and not Bob, well Bob would get his feelings hurt. and when you deal with these people 8 hours a day, 5 days a week... well, it was easier to invite them. Same with my FH's work people... so there's 30 people (plus spouses/kids) that we had to invite..

I resisted inviting my uncle (mom's brother) and aunt. We really have no relationship with them and only see them once a year, generally. It's always been this way. They were invited to my first wedding, and my uncle said grace (he's was an obvious choice at the time, long story).

Anyway, that marriage ended, and they totally judged without asking me the story or for any details so I've written them off.

My mom insisted I should invite them for my grandma's sake. Eventually, I said, fine. I mailed the invite, and while they did RSVP on time, they didn't send us so much as a CARD. It kind of hurt my feelings, but then again it didn't because I know what they're about. However, I could have saved myself that twinge and just not sent the invitation. My mom did apologize later for guilting me into that, and I basically just said it was their loss. We had SO many people who did come and we heard over and over how much fun it was.

Yes. My mother's brother and his wife. Haven't seen them in 12 years. Also, FH's cousin and his partner. FH's not close to him nor do we ever see/talk to him.

My little sister. I can't stand her but if I want my nieces there I have to invite her.hopefully she will say no but still let the kids come.