Ordering two last names (no hyphen) or taking husband's name as middle name?

She isnt lol .

No she's taking what Nikki said earlier and changing it to job/career to show how ridiculous that argument is

Of course I'm not serious. I'm drawing a parallel argument to a totally ignorant comment from someone else.

Ahhh gotta love this debate. For everyone that says that they don't see the point in getting married if you don't share a last name, please think about that before you're so rude and judgemental about other women's decisions. So I assume when anyone asks why you're getting married, you reply that "It's basically about changing my name." I mean, how about to show commitment to each other in front of our family and friends, to make bank accounts/medical insurance/taxes/etc easier, to have a family? It's really all pointless if you don't share a name? I'll have to let my guests know that they're coming to a pointless wedding.

As usual...

Emily- Thank goodness. I haven't read all the comments, but saw that and my jaw was on the floor.

Exactly Kendra

I cant wait to change my name. Isn't that the best part of marriage? Or do we all just really love wedding planning that much?

But, to answer the question OP, I always say the last name I see. Hyphen or no hyphen.

@Emily, nice.

Really though, the more I look into this the less it seems worth the hassle of changing my name at all. Thanks again for all the input everyone!

I grew up as a 4 name having kid. I had my first name, a middle name, and then 2 last names not hyphenated and I love it. It means you can use them both or just one if you want. Worked really well.

Yes there are people that will only use one of the names or ask you stupid questions about. Or you will find that when you go to check in at the gym they used your 2nd last name first or other things like that but I think it has always been worth the few hiccups. (the running out of spaces thing doesn't happen unless you have 2 really long last names) and yes some people will add hyphens and things but really it doesn't matter.

When I got married I just added his to the end of my 2 non hyphenated last names. This sorta was a big deal for a lot of people..who all had a lot of opinions about it. But for me it really hasn't changed anything. In my personal life I mostly just go by 1 of the last names. In my work life I still go by the 2 last names I had before getting married. If someone wants to call my Mrs my husbands last name that is ok too. And when we have kids the kids will be hyphen of 1 of my last names and my husbands last name. It really wasn't that hard....

Edit:

If you encourage people to use both your last names the more they will use both last names. If you don't then people will possibly default to just calling you by one of them. In my case those people defaulted to just using my 2nd last name. But I have found most people you correct (if you want to correct them) are happy to call you both last names. However, this is the reason that when we have children we will be hyphenating...so kids don't have to make the decision about correcting people that they have 2 last names that should be used at least most of the time).

For any brides who are also looking into this, I recently dropped my middle name and now legally have a first name, no middle name, and two last names with no hyphen. For example, I am Karen (first name) Davis Sanders (two last names). So far it has been working out well, getting it changed with the banks, DMV, SSA and at work have been pretty easy. I just have to specify "no middle name, no hyphen" after I say my name for them. I have had to correct a few people to use both last names which is the one thing that not having a hyphen causes to happen but most database systems can't handle a hyphen and it creates problems. Also for kids, my husband and I have decided our kids will have my last name as their middle names. This way they have the same last name as him (which is the second part of my last name) and when you write out their names in full it will look like my name. It can be done. Just stick to what you want, just like you did for your wedding.

I combine mine. It's originally hispanic with two last Names : example Maiden named was

Daisy Gomez Ramos

Husband to be Last Name Jones

My New name

Daisy Jones Gomez

I introduce myself as Daisy Jones Gomez and when They ask my last Name I say Jones Gomez.

I combine mine. It's originally hispanic with two last Names : example Maiden named was

Daisy Gomez Ramos

Husband to be Last Name Jones

My New name

Daisy Jones Gomez

I introduce myself as Daisy Jones Gomez and when They ask my last Name I say Jones Gomez.

So what did you end up doing about the last names (Rocky)?

I got married in January and I did the same that you mentioned on your first post.

FirstName HisLastName MaidenName. Same way as Daisy Jones Gomez (the post above). I am also hispanic. I think when having two last names, the most common here in U.S. is FirstName MaidenName HisLastName. In my case that order didn't sound good, so i choose to put my maiden name last, and no hyphen in between. I am glad i found this forum, if there is similar cases, please share..

View Quoted Comment I agree, but my husband would not be offended if I had a career. On the other hand I would be offended if he wanted to be a stay at home dad.

View Quoted Comment Hi Lorena!!


I’m curious to know what your experience has been with your husbands last name as your middle name? Do people just revert to calling you by first name maiden name?