Online vs. Paper Invites

I had traditional invitations but for anyone under 40, in lieu of an RSVP card and prestamped envelope, I had a card asking them to RSVP at the website (also TheKnot). Older folks I just did through the mail. Saved me a lot of money on stamps and time collecting RSVPs, I'd recommend it.

Im doing all my RSVPs online, but I did send formal invites out.

You still have to send nice invites even if you do online rsvps... otherwise how will people know to rsvp

ETA: don't email invites. Unless your only inviting like 5 people... in which case... call them at least... don't email. Please omg please

I was under the impression that guests would be emailed an invitation and a link to my site to RSVP. I love the idea of sending the traditional letter and have them RSVP online.

You can send paper invites and then have online RSVPs which is what I am planning. It makes it slightly cheaper/easier as you don't need as much paper.

You can send out invites and then give your guests the option of RSVP online or mailing it

I was kinda wondering about this too. I was interested in it because I know I hate to have to mail things and that more people might rsvp if they only had to go online to do so. Also, I'm all about saving money if I can and it still look good!

We're doing paper invites (because online ones are honestly so incredibly tacky) but doing all of our rsvps online or by text or call. It saves us money and the hassle of trying to keep track of cards

Definitely do paper invites. I'm not stamping the RSVP cards for my younger guests who are more likely to go online (website listed on the RSVP card) than take something to the mailbox. And at least on the Knot (my website host) I can go in and input responses from any guests who do return the card.

I'm sending out formal invites via mail but I'm doing RSVP's on my wedding website!

You'll get mixed responses here. While we are doing paper invitations, I don't really care about the formality about the whole RSVP card, do we are doing online RSVP. However, We are checking in with families about who would need a paper RSVP. We have a "larger" guest list, and I would like to cut down on paper and stamp usage.

@Mary So any one who's over 40 is one of the "older folks" and incapable of responding online?

Hmmm.... My 91 year old grandmother is on the internet, on a daily basis. If she received a mail-in response card, she would be insulted (and let you know about it).

We had a very formal wedding and sent very formal (boxed) invitations. We requested responses through our wedding website. It wasn't because of budget reasons, we're just not into wasting. 248 of 250 invited guests responded - 10 days before our due date.

Email invites are not easy. People forget to rsvp and then you will be chasing them to respond. My friend did this and hardly anyone responded.

You could send paper invitations and refer guests to an online RSVP system. That's what we did. We're having an intimate wedding so this was perfect.

I have only one friend who did online RSVP, and her response rate was super low. In wondering if that was because they were online (have to remember to go to the site when you have the address in front of you) or whether her guests would have had a low rate anyway.

Just got my first online RSVP for a friend's wedding a few weeks ago. It was still a paper invite, but an online RSVP. I wasn't a fan; I felt like I was saying we'd go to her shower or a birthday party instead of a formal wedding. She also ended up calling a lot of people who didn't respond online.

Please do not email the invitation though. People may miss it or it may go directly to spam.

I'm doing a combination of both. I'm sending paper invites with the pre stamped envelopes for RSVPs but I'm also telling our guests that they can use our wedding website to RSVP. I know that most of my family and friends will RSVP online. The other ones will send the RSVP back.

I am sending out paper invites with the ability to rsvp online for those that want to and people can call/text me.

You can go with regular invites and have online RSVPs Wedding Paper Divas offers that for free.

I cannot stand the idea of only online invites... I wouldn't do that.

We did paper invitations with online RSVPs. It was awesome. Everyone responded. Even people who RSVP'd no responded because it's so much easier than mailing back a card. It wasn't a money thing for us, it was more of a convenience thing and I think it worked smashingly.

Also anyone who thinks it is tacky must be like, a grumpy old lady.