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Okay to wear a long black dress to a wedding?

Juna, on June 5, 2014 at 2:57 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 23

Hi everyone, new to the forums! I'm attending an evening wedding this month with ceremony starting at 5:30pm, reception to follow. I'm planning to wear a long, black chiffon dress with halter neckline but have read loads of conflicting opinions about whether this is okay. When I bought the dress, I did hesitate for a moment knowing that I might be committing some kind of faux pas with a long dress/black dress but decided to go for it. Personally, I think the dress is elegant and stylish without being loud bc of the color, but I'd love to know what you all think.

To give you some context, the wedding will be at a nice country club in the Los Angeles area. Thanks, ladies!!

23 Comments

Latest activity by DeniseD, on June 5, 2014 at 11:47 PM
  • Ashley
    VIP April 2015
    Ashley ·
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    I don't think it's an issue BUT if you have to ask, don't do it.

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  • Pentecost
    Expert August 2015
    Pentecost ·
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    It depends on your crowd. In my circles, black is for mourning and it would be offensive to wear it to a wedding. Other people don't bat an eye at wearing black to a wedding. If you aren't sure, please don't do it.

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  • Barbara
    Master September 2014
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    Traditionally, wearing black to a wedding means you don't approve of the union. Is there any way to add some color to it?? Maybe a brighter belt or colored jewelry?

    Personally, I always try to stick to jewel tones and pastels for weddings, but I will say an elegant black dress is at least better than wearing white!

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  • Brady
    Expert May 2014
    Brady ·
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    I think half of the people at my wedding had black on. Well, and my bridesmaids were wearing long black dresses. I think they were all happy for me! hahah!

    Is the bride young and non-traditional? If so, I wouldnt worry about it. You could always ask her or her parents.

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  • LadyMonk
    Master September 2014
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    It sounds like a funeral dress to me. I personally wouldn't care, but I know if it were me, my grandmothers etc would be rolling their eyes.

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  • Emily
    Master May 2014
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    Black is not the same as it used to be. It is NOT only for funerals or mourning anymore otherwise the "little black dress" wouldn't be worn by so many women to cocktail parties and events all the time. Black is absolutely fine for an evening wedding! It is not a faux pas.

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  • Laura
    Master November 2013
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    It sounds like a bridesmaid dress to me. Do you know what the wedding colors are?

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  • Samantha
    Master May 2013
    Samantha ·
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    My bridesmaids wore black Smiley smile

    Our wedding was at a country club and there were people in little black dresses. I think it's appropriate, though it may be a little formal. Is it black tie?

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  • Maltese
    Master June 2015
    Maltese ·
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    I think if you brighten it up with jewelry and shoes (maybe even a bright cardigan) it should be fine.

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  • Elisabeth
    Devoted November 2014
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    I've done the "little black dress" to a wedding before and didn't feel awkward at all (nice evening wedding at the Art Institute in Chicago) I just also wore a bright red/orange silk shawl as well to add some colorSmiley smile

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  • Eleanor
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    Eleanor ·
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    I think it's fine!

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  • F
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    FutureMrsS ·
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    I think black is only a no no if you are in the immediate family.

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  • JustMarried'14
    Master September 2014
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    I have been to MANY weddings where most of the guests were in black. Maybe it's not such a big deal here in the NorthEast.

    If it is a Saturday evening/night wedding, I think it would be just fine.

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  • Z
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    Zoe ·
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    I love reading Miss Manners, and have to agree-- in my mind, black is a color of mourning, and a long black dress especially so.

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  • Gamecock Mrs.
    Master October 2014
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    Black is fine in my opinion, but I would check with the bride regarding the length.

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  • Elle
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    Honestly: I would ask the bride. Its her opinion that matters! When I was choosing a gown for my cousin's wedding I called and asked her if there were any specific colors that were off limits, or any dress code for the church. I wore black to her wedding (it looks best on me) but I added a splash of color with a pink belt and shoes!

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  • ItsGoodToBeKing
    Master February 2014
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    Brides are bitches.

    you can't wear anything from the white palette, anything that resembles their bridesmaid dresses, and now you can't wear black?!

    i would have gone biserk if everyone had to get an "ok" on what they're wedding to my wedding.

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  • DC Julie
    Super October 2014
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    I hate short dresses and have worn long black maxi type dresses to at least two weddings recently and received tons of compliments. I always add color with shoes, jewelry, and/or pashminas.

    If it's a halter dress, I doubt it will resemble anything you'd wear to a funeral.

    Whatever you decide to wear, own it and no one will say a negative word!

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  • Future Mrs. Burt
    Super July 2015
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    I just wore a black dress but it was short and the bottom was sequence to my friend's. I don't see a problem with yours.

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
    OMW ·
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    Picture?

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