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Savvy June 2021

Oh boy oh boy...need advice

on February 6, 2021 at 10:21 AM Posted in Planning 0 7
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Long story short. My husband and I got married this past August in our backyard! Our 6/13 wedding got postponed so we decided to get hitched on our 6 year anniversary with our parents Smiley smile Fast forward to this year on 6/12 where we postponed too. Going to try to make it as safe as possible and my heart goes out to any bride who has postponed or dealt with any drama or loss during this pandemic. Now, I'm second-guessing a few things.. Definitely want to do it again this time around like it was planned because we shelled out a decent amount of $ to have it. It would be hell trying to get it back. Also, a lot of advice needed on our wedding party. There are a few people in it that we hardly ever talk to anymore. For example, I have not talked to a bridesmaid of mine since Thanksgiving. Weird I know. I'm going to have to tell her how I feel because it's just eating me up. At the same time, my husband said he doesn't want to change anything because he doesn't want to deal with the drama... men.. haha


Any advice would be great.

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Latest activity by Megan, on February 6, 2021 at 9:32 PM
  • Alyssa
    Super October 2023
    Alyssa ·
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    Is there any particular reason you two stopped talking? Is everyone aware of the date change? Are you communicating with the other bridesmaids still? I'd say try and talk to her, and all your wedding party, to see if everyone is still okay to continue. A lot can change in a year. It wouldn't cause any drama if you give them an option to drop and they take it...we it shouldn't cause drama. Also wedding party's don't have to have an equal number. My friend had an extra bridesmaid because one of her brides maids was having complications in pregnancy and didn't think she'd make it, she did make it so there were 5 BM to 4 GM and the last GM to walk got two lovey ladies on his arms.
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
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    Did you 2 have a falling out? Why’d you stop talking? You definitely need to reach out to all the original wedding party to see if everyone’s on board.
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2022
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    Maybe the holidays/covid/other issue on her end caused her to not reach out to anyone and now it’s just kept going through inertia. This last year things are just so weird I’d give the benefit of the doubt.
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
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    If you guys just drifted apart I’d try to rekindle the friendship. It happens. If you ask her to step down it will most likely close that door on your friendship permanently. I would just keep it the same. Less drama , less stress and it’s not like you guys stop talking for any particular reason, this just happens in friendship sometimes.
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  • Savvy June 2021
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    Thank you all for commenting. I’ve reached out to her a few times and only got a few word response. I’m not sure why we don’t talk anymore but I’m the one that usually reaches out and I stopped it to see if she would. I talk to the other bridesmaids on a daily basis also. Everyone knows the wedding got postponed until this year so I won’t be sending out save the dates because the venue might only have a certain amount of capacity.

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  • Nicole
    Master September 2020
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    To play devil’s advocate, I’m terrible about reaching out to people, especially in the pandemic. After long days at work, the last thing I want to do is talk to people. I haven’t talked to one of my bridesmaids since right after Christmas, and even that was a short text conversation. It’s very common to go weeks without me reaching out for a conversation, even with my own family. I’m just not one for chit chat all the time. She may be similar. I wouldn’t hold it against her and would reach out to check on her to see how she’s doing.
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  • Megan
    Devoted May 2023
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    Did something happen or just lose touch? Without set in stone wedding plans, I would probably not focus much on the wedding either as a BM.

    I wouldn't cut her out unless a falling out happened vs life. Between the holidays and pandemic, there's a lot of stress on people right now.

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