October brides-postpone or holding on

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I'm starting to think and feel that same way.

10/24/20 Massachusetts bride here! This whole thing has been so stressful And I have had MANY breakdowns. But we are going forward with the wedding whether it has to be downsized or not. With so much uncertainty who’s to say next year will be better we don’t want to put a pause on the rest of our life if next year could also have restrictions. We wanted to start a family as soon as we were married and we don’t want to put that off another year either. Additionally each of our grandparents are in their late 80s, so we don’t want to push it off for that reason as well. We’d rather them see us get married with zoom if need be then to risk not having them present at all. Going through with it regardless just is the better decision for us. Good luck to everyone with your decisions! It’ll be an amazing day however it works out.

View Quoted Comment Date twin! I have the same thoughts. Vaccine rolls out maybe early next year, takes time to distribute, and there’s still uncertainty if it would really be effective eradicating the virus. I don’t want to wait another year or two. We will be downsizing but at least the main important people will be with us!

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I'm so sorry your venue is charging you something that is totally out of your control. Nobody expected a pandemic. Have they provided you with any information on how many people would be allowed to attend the reception in order for you to cut down your guest list if needed?

View Quoted Comment Thank god. Me too. This thread was making me nervous that not a single person would be having theirs! I’m 10/11

We will have been engaged for over two years come our 10/11 wedding. I’ll wait until August/September to see what my venue’s guidance is and we will either have a wedding or we won’t. I’m not willing to wait around anymore— I feel married and old already lol covid has taken away a lot of the excitement that I had for having everything all planned early since last year.

I said I would wait till the end of July to decide. I keep holding on but I think I know we’re gonna have to reschedule

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I feel the exact same way!

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We will be exactly two years by our 10/10 date as well. I think we are going to move forward with getting married on our October date and have something big next year.

View Quoted Comment Omg girl right! And today I started freaking out because we never got a call from our venue to make our 6 month before the wedding date deposit...so he calls this morning and the lady was like " yeah we have all the September and October weddings on a list and haven't given anyone a call to collect money yet, just in case we can't have the wedding here." So that almost put me in a panic and tears,but I guess they just have to say that because they don't know. All we an do Bailey is try and make it a day at a time, breath and try not to freak out I really hope your day works out for you both, and even if it isn't the big wedding we have dreamed of, we will still look gorgeous and have our special day. It will all work out how it is meant to work out is what my sister in law to be said to me today and she is 100% right.

We postponed from 10/3/20 to 10/16/21 in Northern California. The uncertainties were causing us a lot of anxiety, especially as we have a lot of guests who would be traveling from all over the country.

All of our vendors except for one were willing to move deposits to our new date, which made the decision to postpone pretty easy for us. In the end, we lost an $1800 deposit with our photographer which in our opinion was worth knowing that we could gather and celebrate safely at a later date.

I think a wedding this October is possible if you are okay with something very small. Trust your instinct! At first after postponing, I was super sad but the more time has passed (and the more news on new covid cases we see) I feel confident that we made the right choice.

Best of luck with your decision.

I'm glad that work had been distracting you a little! I hope you are staying safe!! With people who are coming out of town that is where I would be really thinking about but that's just me!! I am at the VERY end of October 31st to be exact. Let me tell you LOL I have gone through the rollercoaster ride with this choice!! My FH and I are like "should we? or should we not?" Most of the people who would be coming are out of town and it honestly is really hard for me to make a decision about this. So I told FH lets to wait until the very end of July and make a choice then. If we don't then we are going to still get married but will do a chapel intimate wedding of just our parents that is it. I originally have 110 coming for the big one but if that does not happen I am doing the chapel one!! LOL Just want to be married already!! LOL

We are in California and have a ton of cases down here and only going up. With a 200 person wedding and majority of our guest high risk and another 1/3 coming from other states we decided to postpone to next October this past weekend. We were also going to wait until August but decided that 4 weeks wouldn’t make enough of a difference just with out counties requirements. Other states might be different. Good luck!

Our original date was September 5 this year but we just made the decision yesterday that we’re postponing to September 2021. We’re in NC where the cases are all rising and are considered a “hot spot” we’re inviting 160 people and we’re 10 weeks out with still only 10 people allowed indoors and 25 outdoors until at least mid July which was cutting it way too close! We decided that even if we are somehow able to have that amount of people by September it’s still too risky and the stress of not knowing what was gonna happen was killing me lol. I think waiting until August is a good idea, good luck!!

View Quoted Comment This is my exact response. My Fiancé said 10/10 is our day and as long as I’m there and he’s there we’re having a wedding. We just may have to decrease the guest count and that’s okay with me.

10.02.20 We are doing a private ceremony and a very large reception. Originally we had 300 coming. Due to Covid our family in Ireland will not be able to make it (that takes it about 40). And we cut back to 200. The venue can hold 500 and we already had plans for distancing as we are not serving a proper meal (7:30pm start).


We, and our venue, are still planning to go ahead unless the city tells us otherwise. All but 12 live in the city that we are having the wedding at. Many are firemen who already live together 1/3 of the time. We’ve waited long enough, now we just pray!
On the upside, decreasing our numbers from 300 to 200 meant that we had more money in the budget to do a full open bar!

View Quoted Comment Yes that is awesome lol. My bright side is mainly the people who really care will be there and my venue allowing us for add ons and upgrades to make up the price difference!!

Same for us. We are getting married in PA but we live in NYC and half our guests are coming from Europe. I don’t know when we should wait until before we decide to postpone

I am October 18th, we are holding out. We aren't having a super large wedding but we will wait and only cancel if our venue has to cancel it so we get our money back. If it is canceled we will just get married in my moms backyard. The state we are getting married in isn't considered a hotspot

View Quoted Comment I’m also in central California and I’m in the same boat. I’m so stressed about what to do! This sucks, it’s taking the joy out of what should be such a special time for so many