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Ti'Anna
Expert May 2021

October brides-postpone or holding on

Ti'Anna, on June 28, 2020 at 7:38 PM

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Hey fellow October brides, how are you guys holding up?? I’ve been pretty good throughout the pandemic but I think that’s because work has kept me busy but as of late, postponement thoughts have been on the horizon. In the state I reside the case have soared and we are now considered a hot spot....
Hey fellow October brides, how are you guys holding up?? I’ve been pretty good throughout the pandemic but I think that’s because work has kept me busy but as of late, postponement thoughts have been on the horizon. In the state I reside the case have soared and we are now considered a hot spot. Beyond that, even with cutting the guest list and thinking about issuing mask, I’m still thinking about my family members and not wanting to put them at risk. I’m thinking of holding out till August to make my final decision on postponing till next year and my fiancé and I drafted up a few dates we would like for next year.


How are you guys holding up? Still holding strong or going the postponing route?

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    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Erika ·
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    I’m an October bride as well, I knew that panning a wedding would be stressful but I never imagined it to be this way. There have been many tears shed these past few weeks as I try to cut down our list because we do not want to risk anyone getting sick. It makes me anxious even thinking about someone possibly getting sick after attending our wedding. We have officially postponed our big reception to next year, but getting together a small list has been a challenge. My poor mom feels so bad because it’s going to be much smaller and not what she had envisioned for her little girl. I’m okay with a small group and I am trying to get my mom to be okay with it too, because I know she feels sad for me.
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  • Liz
    Savvy September 2020
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    Hi Lauren, I'm also in NorCal! What are your venue's COVID guidelines if you don't mind me asking? Our venue still has not given us any restrictions/guidelines which is frustrating...

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    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Dawn ·
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    I’m in NJ..10/2/20 is our date and I just reached out to my venue today about my postponement options. My anxiety is through the roof! I have many out of town guests (from FL) and my dream dress still has not shipped!!!! This was supposed to be a fairytale and it’s a legit Covid nightmare!!!! I’m curious if brides who chose to postpone, did the venue charge a fee? Did you lose any deposits? My venue is still closed indefinitely so I will be meeting via zoom tomorrow to discuss my options 😩😩😩
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  • Taylor
    Beginner October 2023
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    We were really excited to have our wedding on Halloween this year but with everything going on we decided not to push. A lot of our family lives out of town and its hard enough to get everyone together we don't want to put anyone at risk. On top of that my fiance and I just had gallbladder surgery.. no joke two weeks apart so we virtually have no immune system right now. Here's to 2021🤵👰
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  • Lauren
    Dedicated September 2020
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    Hi Liz! So we are getting married on a Ranch and this was what was sent to us via the owners:

    Chairs for the ceremony should be spaced out to ensure physical distancingGuests should be encouraged to wear masks when not eating/drinking or seated at their tables (us and our staff will wear masks)Tables should be outside and spaced 6’ apart – in front of the barn, on the grass, or bothThe buffet should be outside. If inside, barns doors will be open to ensure air flow. Servers will serve guests (from the buffet, snacks and appetizers) The bar should be outside. A Bartender is recommended to minimize touching of bottles, etc.We will have a handwashing station and hand sanitizer availableSurface cleaning around the bar, restrooms and serving areas will be done throughout the event.Total guest count should be less than 100 (the smaller the better – 50 is the current thinking in the industry). This one is tricky, we know. What are your current thoughts on this? (Our current count is almost 90 confirmed)Guests should be encouraged to self-check before attending the event. Anyone not feeling well should not attend.
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  • Shaylyn
    Savvy October 2020
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    Hi! We were supposed to get married 10/2/20 and just decided to postpone to 10/17/21. What did it for us was learning our guests would have to wear masks the entire wedding. I know masks are important but don’t want to wear a mask while dancing and certainly don’t want to look back at all my pictures and remember this awful pandemic. My bridesmaids also made a good point that if I didn’t postpone, I’d be stressing up until the day of the wedding about whether or not it was going to happen. I feel so relieved now knowing that I don’t have to stress about it. We are going to get married on 10/2/20 and have our close family and wedding party to our house for a nice catered backyard dinner afterwards.
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  • Michelle
    Savvy September 2021
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    Made the decision today to postpone the reception. We still will get married on Halloween with just parents, grandparents, and siblings. Big reception will be May 15th. I live in the Northeast, and we've been really dropping our cases but the rest of the country has ruined the progress for us (I blame state governors for not being as proactive about the severity of COVID spreading).... It took us four months to get this far - all of the other states are starting at square one. Wasn't worth the risk for us. Would rather start planning for the new one. I wish you luck with your decision - it was not an easy one for us to make.

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  • Michelle
    Savvy September 2021
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    My venue has been super accommodating as well as my vendors. All of our deposits have been moved to next year's date - DJ will still come for our intimate ceremony to play music during it without extra fee. The venue has said they will be accommodating to let us still have a small ceremony there on Halloween. Photographer is only going to charge by the hour for photos of our ceremony and move our deposit for next year's reception. It's a lot of steps, but so many brides are in the same boat. I hope you have the same experience!

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  • Liz
    Savvy September 2020
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    Those restrictions actually don't seem too bad! I'm expecting social distancing restrictions like chairs and tables being spaced 6 ft apart, and the fact that masks are encouraged but not required is great! Ideally it'd be best for guests to decide what makes them feel most comfortable. As for the guest count, I think 100 is doable. 50 may be preferred but if they are giving you room to go to 100 I'd take advantage of that and move forward with your 90 person guest list. Did they mention anything about no dancing?
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  • Danielle
    Savvy October 2021
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    October 31st in Georgia. I’m so glad you posted this question since it is making me feel better to see where everyone else is. I just sent out a note to our groomsmen and bridesmaid that we are going to cut our guest list from 80 to 40 it we got through with our original date. We are not in a hot spot but we have a lot of people from out of town so we are going to give it til Augusta 15th (date I was going to mail invitations) to see if we go through with it or postpone.


    It’s pretty devastating. With halloween being a full moon and a Saturday we really lived the date. We have been engaged since feb 2019. Most everything was planned and these last months were going to be the fun things like registry setting, dance lessons, showers, and hen parties. I feel like all that has been sucked away.
    In the end, we will chose the health of our family. It’s said if we postpone it will probably be a year from now.
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    Savvy April 2021
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    Former 10/10/2020 bride here. We pushed ours until April 10, 2021. Same reasons for a lot of other brides who posted. With family and friends traveling from all over the US, especially from Florida, and family traveling internationally, we don’t know what that will look like in the fall. And I’m immunocompromised anyway, so it would be a risk for me to attend my own wedding even with a mask. Here’s to 2021!
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  • Kelly
    Beginner October 2020
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    California brides, no receptions are allowed at this time 😫 is anyone else freaking out that they don’t want to postpone unless they absolutely have too (will decide mid August). I’m all for cutting my guest list but NO reception?!?
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  • Natalia
    Just Said Yes February 2021
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    I live in Texas. We had a massive outbreak. My wedding was supposed to be in November we basically stalled on wedding planning. Idk to postpone or not. I’m freaking out.
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  • Brittany
    Just Said Yes October 2021
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    10/24 here. In the same boat. Giving it a little more time before I make a decision which is hard when I’m trying to book a DJ but also not trying to lose a deposit at the same time.
    My state currently has the highest number of cases in the US I believe and we just went back into a shutdown today. Future MIL keeps sayin “oh everyone will still be coming no matter what” which kinda makes me feel guilty if I postpone until 2021.
    I haven’t stressed about anything until this last week or so.
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  • Nevona
    Savvy July 2020
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    Our wedding renewal is October 4th but were legally getting married on the 6th of July. As of right now no plans of postponing is happening but its is in Texas and if they're numbers keep climbing then I will postpone it.
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    Super October 2020
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    Ours Is Oct. 17th And We're Still Planning As Normal.

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  • Taylor
    Dedicated October 2020
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    Considering just having my wedding and canceling my reception altogether. I don't want a reception later, to me, it just won't feel right having anything later after already being married. But that is just me. I cut my guest list to 67 but it still is risky to have the reception because 95% of my guests are over 50. UGH

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  • Ti'Anna
    Expert May 2021
    Ti'Anna ·
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    I actually just heard back from my venue yesterday evening and they said they would charge us $500 to move our date, which I kinda think is ridiculous for the simple fact that we are now a hot spot and its not a definite decision that the county will not put a hold on events again.

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  • Ti'Anna
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    Same here, I'm in Alabama and our cases are raising rapidly daily.

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  • Ti'Anna
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    Yeah my stress didn't hit its highest till this weekend.

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