October brides-postpone or holding on

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Honestly, I feel like most guests look forward to the reception more... not the actual wedding ceremony and union. I also do not think the normal thought process on deciding whether to attend would be applicable here, as everyone knows what is going on. If anything, I would think people would want to attend a gathering next year (if things are better) since most families and friends have not seen each other in quite sometime!

Our wedding was December 26th of this year, we decided to postpone. Our new date is August 5th 2021! We’re so relieved, our vendors and guests have been very supportive. Especially our venue! Good luck with whatever you decide on❤️

View Quoted Comment The thing is, they expect maybe the vaccine to roll out early next year but it would still take time to get to everyone or distribution...even then scientists don’t know how effective it’ll be according to articles I’ve read. It’s a guessing game and assumption things would be better next year. Part of my thought process, if I rescheduled...and things aren’t better next year, do I just postpone for another year? It’s a very personal decision.

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Thank you lots!!

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I agree, I think that's why I'm riding the fence.

October 10th wedding located in North Texas here... we just officially cancelled this weekend. I can't guarantee the safety of my family and guests for a 180ish person wedding with lots of people coming from out of state. The stress of trying to figure out unknowns was really wearing me down, so the best decision for us was to cancel and postpone at least a year down the road.

We will, however, be doing a small ceremony on the 10th likely at our house. We are committed to making it safe and special for us and our immediate families.

Good luck!

My best friend was supposed to get married in June and had to postpone her wedding until October. Since I am her MOH it’s been kinda stressful for us too! I keep telling her that it’s her wedding. If you want to stick to the original date and get married that day and have your reception later, that’s become a pretty popular thing. You do what you feel is best! It’s your wedding 😉

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Thank you! I am actually thinking the same thing and it doesn't matter how much I decrease my guest list. We are actually planning on doing something intimate on our 10/10 date and big celebration next year some time.

Our date is 10/10 and I am in Central Valley, California and we are currently a hotspot. I am contacting my church and venue this week to see what their guidelines are and what we should do. I am hoping to wait until end of July to see how things look and then make a decision.

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We are in the same boat. I reside in Alabama and we are now considered a hot spot. I'm thinking about giving our final decision to late July, early August.

10/3/2020 MN bride! Just made the decision this weekend that we will be getting married with just our immediate family and wedding party and I have cancelled my bachelorette party to make my wedding party girls more comfortable. It was tough, but we have elderly grandparents to worry about and want them to feel comfortable attending. Also, our church won't allow more than 75 people and same goes for our venue. We decided on a private dinner following the service. My biggest concern now is one of my friends moved their wedding a couple weeks before mine and I'm supposed to be a bridesmaid, but she has 400 people invited and SD has no restrictions. How do I tell her I don't feel comfortable being in her wedding anymore? 😔

10/25 here. We are moving ours. My entire family is in the NE and we are in how hotspot Florida and my mother has informed everyone up north for us that we are moving it. And my fiancé’s family has health issues we are concerned about. I’m at peace with our decision. It’s such a tough call, but moving it made us feel better.

We already postponed our June 20 wedding to October 16, 2020, and we will be moving forward with that new date regardless. I'm in Los Angeles, but our wedding venue is in Simi Valley (Ventura County). So far, it seems like most of our family and friends will be attending. In fact, I have friends attending wedding in August here in CA, and I will be attending a wedding this November. I feel perfectly safe doing so.

We are still moving forward as planned! We had to have some of those hard discussions back in April on our “Plan B” (and Plan C😂) but as of right now we are trying to stay as positive as possible and keep moving forward and not let COVID control everything. We are still being responsible of course (please no hate) and are taking more honeymoon options into consideration since we are now only planning to stay in the USA but as of right now we are planning still and hoping for the best! We just need to keep thinking positive thoughts, it’s such an exciting time!

I'm holding on strong to our October 10th date. Trying to stay in close contact with out vendors.

I just spoke to my church and they are limiting the guest to 95 people socially distanced and everyone must wear a mask. We will also have to have a list of everyone who attends. Now these are the current guidelines and things change so quickly. My guest list is currently 150 but I have not sent out invitations so I am sure it will shrink. Our venue is a ballroom that holds 500 so there will be plenty of space to socially distance so I am not concerned. I think we will still go ahead with everything unless things take a drastic turn and California shuts down again. We will see.

We were going to hold out until August as well but since we have family flying in we decided to postpone to next year. The health and safety of our family, friends and vendors are a number 1 priority. Our original date was October 24th now we are rescheduling to October 30th, 2021. Good luck to you 💜

Okay, we're not October, but close! Our wedding was scheduled for September 26 in Philadelphia and we just made the hard decision to postpone today. We agreed to give it until the end of June, and we took every minute of that time to make sure it was the right decision. Philadelphia is just this week entering the next phase of reopening, allowing socially distanced gatherings of up to 25 people, which doesn't work with our 120 person guest list. However, I thought I'd share some of the details from a contract addendum our venue shared in case anyone finds them useful. The changes included: Tables must be divided by household (don't live together? can't sit together - this means no head table for the bridal party, guests who come alone will sit alone, and family that doesn't see each other frequently will continue to mostly not see each other.). All venue staff will be in masks and gloves (okay, if it was just this we could live with it, but combined with other changes, it's starting to feel like less of a good time). No dancing, because dance floors are not socially distant. No buffets (including the beautiful stations I had picked out for cocktail hour - because again, buffets are not socially distant). That photo booth? Only for groups who already live together. and again masks are required. The kicker, though, was a clause that said even if the government kept the 25 person limit on gatherings, couples would be liable for full venue rental costs + 70% of the anticipated catering cost based on total guest list (in our case, this would mean several thousand dollars for venue rental plus the catering cost for 84 people (70% of 120 guests), despite only hosting 25, bride and groom included). Then tack on the other fixed costs like the photographer, DJ, hair and makeup, officiant, suits for the manfolk, florals, staff meals, etc. and the whole thing starts to feel like a gigantic bill for potentially a tiny, socially distanced gathering. Even if we could get over all of that, it would still mean risking the health and well being of our closest friends and family. Just a bad deal overall.

Hi there, just postponed for October actually from our August date. Our wedding is overseas and we paid it off last July (well before this pandemic) our contract is non-refundable, just postponable, but seeing the guest list grow smaller and the possibility of not being able to have it if borders are still closed makes it hard to be excited anymore. We can’t really postpone much into next year as it’s their hurricane season from the end of this year to spring next year, and don’t want to risk the safety of everyone, and after that they’re pretty booked for weddings already. Feeling really bummed about the wedding actually. Hope your October date happens!

Our date is 10-17-2020. We made the difficult decision to cancel our “dream” wedding and reception. Instead we are doing just immediate family. We will have an outdoor ceremony in the grove of our church (hopefully the weather agrees). It was just too stressful for us to try and plan the wedding with all the unknown. I am in NC so we are a new “hotspot” as well and the governor hasn’t lifted restrictions. Unfortunately I do not see this virus going away anytime soon. Postponing our wedding was never really an option that my fiancé or I were considering... more than anything we want to be married and continue our lives together (not wait another 6 months or year). We have family from all over the country as well who would be unable to safely travel etc. Our venue was extremely understanding and accommodating and gave us our full deposit back with no questions. Luckily we had not booked anything else yet (we were holding off bc of covid). Definitely a difficult time to plan a wedding. Just do what feels right for you and your fiancé, but remember #covidcantstoplove