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Expert October 2020

October brides-postpone or holding on

Ti'Anna, on June 28, 2020 at 7:38 PM Posted in Community Conversations 8 121
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Hey fellow October brides, how are you guys holding up?? I’ve been pretty good throughout the pandemic but I think that’s because work has kept me busy but as of late, postponement thoughts have been on the horizon. In the state I reside the case have soared and we are now considered a hot spot. Beyond that, even with cutting the guest list and thinking about issuing mask, I’m still thinking about my family members and not wanting to put them at risk. I’m thinking of holding out till August to make my final decision on postponing till next year and my fiancé and I drafted up a few dates we would like for next year.


How are you guys holding up? Still holding strong or going the postponing route?

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  • Mercy
    Savvy October 2020
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    Our date is supposed to be 10/24/20 and I wasn’t really considering postponing until this week. Seeing all the cases and other people post about how they’re postponing there fall weddings has made me concerned and feeling anxious. We have no plans to postpone but it’s now in the back of my mind, and like some others have said it just takes a lot of excitement out of it. Planning just isn’t as fun as it was before all of this and now it’s just stressful and sometimes saddening. I’m hoping things work out well for all of us brides though.
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  • Ti'Anna
    Expert October 2020
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    I totally agree. I almost had my first break down about it yesterday and my fiancé is so optimistic. He believes well if October doesn’t happen, it will be okay, we can just do next year. I just really sat in my feelings of I just wouldn’t want to risk my fiancé’s father who is diabetic and my grandparents who are in their 70s. It would break my heart if something happened
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  • Sexypoodle
    VIP October 2021
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    Former date twins.... but we postponed to October 2021. Feeling good about the decision more and more each week. I stayed hopeful throughout quarantine but the reality of the pandemic outweighed our destination wedding plans right now. I kinda knew that reopening would have this outcome. So it’s been nice not worrying about the wedding.
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  • Ti'Anna
    Expert October 2020
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    I understand! We’re giving it till August and I’m just going to pray and give it to God. I already work in the mental health field so I try to keep my nerves at bay as much as I can
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  • Kimberly
    Devoted October 2020
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    October 23rd here. We are giving it until August too to make any decisions on changing anything. If we have to cut back to just family we are prepared to do that and arrange for live streaming for everyone else. If we can’t even do that because the situation gets worse, we will address that together if it comes to it.
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  • Ti'Anna
    Expert October 2020
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    Yeah we are holding out till August as well. My fiancé thinks we should still get married on our October date and have the celebration next year. I’m just thinking of the safety because our cases are rising and being a hot spot is not what’s up
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  • Kimberly
    Devoted October 2020
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    Mine too! Are you in Texas like me? I am concerned that even if we cut back to just family my fiancé’s two siblings in Detroit wouldn’t even be able to drive down because Texas just can’t seem to follow directions. Frustrating and nerve wracking that everything is so up in the air. We hold onto hope and really it is out of our hands.
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  • M
    Dedicated October 2021
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    We were originally scheduled for Oct. 31 of this year. We finally made the decision to postpone for a year. Most of our guests are traveling in from out of town and we have several people (including FH) who are high risk. I’d rather have my guests be able to come and feel comfortable. We’ll do a small ceremony this year and have the full shindig next year. My anxiety level is so much lower now that we made this decision. Good luck!
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  • Ti'Anna
    Expert October 2020
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    I’m in Alabama
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  • Lauren
    Dedicated October 2020
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    I am a 10/17 Bride and our venue just gave us our new COVID guidelines. After many emotional breakdowns, we are now heavily considering having a small intimate wedding in September and postponing the big thing until next year. We will be making the finally call by the end of July. This has been so overwhelming and I struggle to really enjoy every moment like I was dreaming. I feel like once we make a decision I'll be able to breathe again.

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  • Ti'Anna
    Expert October 2020
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    Yeah my grandparents are in their 70s and my fiancé’s father is a diabetic and I worry about their health. It’s my primary concern plus cases are on the rise where I am and I just don’t think I want to be in this waiting game again. My state has been doing things so backwards
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  • Ti'Anna
    Expert October 2020
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    I agree. I’m waiting till the end of July/early August to make our final decision. I’m planning on reaching out vendors this weekend to weigh our options. At the end of the day, being safe health wise is my primary concern at this point. Plus I could really benefit from a peace of mind and not wondering what these next few months will look like.
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  • Sharon
    Expert September 2021
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    We're in NYC and were supposed to be 10/10. I wanted to wait to make a decision to see how it was as it got closer. The more we thought about the more we realized it's not worth the risk. Our parents are elderly with health issues along with some other family members. How could we really enjoy ourselves if we were worrying about anyone getting sick?


    As we're telling people that we postponed until next year we're hearing a lot of relief from our guests which leads me to wonder how many people wouldn't have attended. I guess we made the right decision.
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  • Michael
    Just Said Yes December 2021
    Michael ·
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    I’m ok nervous
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  • M
    Dedicated October 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Totally get it, I’m very much in the same boat and in a state that’s not being very smart about all of this. Best of luck to you ❤️
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  • Michael
    Just Said Yes December 2021
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    I’m ok I guess
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  • S
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Shayla ·
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    I have the same date.. Im in southern cali and are cases are insane right now! I have no idea what to do I am so bummed! Smiley sad

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  • Lauren
    Dedicated October 2020
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    My wedding is also in California but NorCal.

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  • Sw1943
    Beginner October 2020
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    10/24/20 Southern California bride - postponed from 3/28/20. We are getting married no matter what. Orange County is open and our venue which is a hotel has been open since June 1st. Fingers crossed we can at least serve food and have somewhat of a reception. Stomach is still in knots over it every day! But 7 years together and looking to have kids soon. We just want all this behind us!!
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  • Jyl
    Savvy October 2020
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    Holding up so-so with mixed thoughts as well. Our date is 10/16 and I agree 100% the planning has not been enjoyable at all with this covid thing. We have been thinking about it long and hard and even with seeing a lot of others postponing...we are going to continue with our plans and just expect lower guest counts. I have a lot of mixed feelings about this whole epidemic anyways, we aren't going to continue letting it control our lives. Good luck to you all, and I hope your plans work out, whatever it may be! ❤
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