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JaimeLeigh
Super November 2016

NWR: Adult birthday party

JaimeLeigh, on December 5, 2016 at 10:07 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 43

Let me start by saying that I don't expect gifts for my birthday as an adult, except from H We were invited to a self hosted, 29th birthday at the couples home this weekend. It was a FB invite, very casual... Singlet and thongs kind of event. Yesterday, I get a post notification from the birthday...

Let me start by saying that I don't expect gifts for my birthday as an adult, except from H Smiley winking

We were invited to a self hosted, 29th birthday at the couples home this weekend. It was a FB invite, very casual... Singlet and thongs kind of event.

Yesterday, I get a post notification from the birthday boys fiance saying: "Can you please bring cash as gifts, to help us finish our car modifications. Please dont bring alcohol as gifts as it will not get used. Thanks".

Ummm... WHAT?! Firstly, you're an adult. Do not expect gifts from anyone. Secondly, do not TELL me what I can bring, if I happen to choose to bring a gift!

Today, I get another post notification in the event.... "Remember guys, it's BYO alcohol and please bring money for pizza!"

What would you do? Would you bring "cash" as they so bluntly put it? I was going to get a nice bottle of wine and a card, now I'm considering skipping the gift all together!

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  • Kira
    Super March 2017
    Kira ·
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    @la grosera, I like the way you think. Lol

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  • OGJessieJV
    Master July 1867
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    Decline. By 29 your friends should know how to properly host a party.

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  • MNA
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    MNA ·
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    I would change my acceptance to a decline and tell them exactly why. I can get better pizza and the beverage of my choice at home just fine, thanks. Plus I won't be asked to fund someone else's project car. >_>;;;

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  • givemetheD
    Expert October 2017
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    I wouldn't even go! It's bad enough they told you what's acceptable for a gift but you really lost me at byob and bring money for pizza. C'Mon now this isn't a high school party, they need to be providing food and drinks for the guests. If not you might as well stay home and get takeout with fh or go on a date night together. That'd be money better spent

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  • JaKLyn
    Master November 2015
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    I probably wouldn't go unless it was my best friend, but she has more sense and wouldn't host so poorly. I'd just rather have a pizza and BYO wine night on my couch with DH.

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  • Jessica
    Expert December 2016
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    I wouldn't go - but if I did I'd get a 99¢ card.

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  • The Trap Selena
    Master March 2016
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    @Kari you just out-pettied my petty. That's hilarious!

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  • Stephanie
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    Stephanie ·
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    I wouldn't be going honestly.

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  • Stacy
    Super September 2017
    Stacy ·
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    I wouldn't go.

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  • K&B 2017
    Dedicated September 2017
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    I would stay home and have my own Pizza and alcohol.

    If you really want to see your good friends go but don't take a card or present for the birthday boy. He can get a verbal happy birthday acknowledgement and then go hang out with the other friends.

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  • Celia Milton
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    I wouldn't go. That is about as crass as it gets.

    And I would be wondering why I was friends with people like this.

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  • CJ
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    Is the birthday boy's wedding also BYOB and only monetary contributions?

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  • SuYa
    Master April 2017
    SuYa ·
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    @FutureMrsBowen Happy Birthday fellow Sagittarius!! My bday is tomorrow Smiley smile

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  • SuYa
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    SuYa ·
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    I would go ONLY if you really wanted to see some friends that you hardly get to see. But no gift, I may contribute to pizza if I feel like eating their pizza choice and I would bring my choice of whiskey. Absolutely no gift, maybe a card..

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  • sanders4ever
    Super May 2017
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    I think I would be skipping the party altogether. What a joke.

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  • M
    Master June 2017
    Mrs ·
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    That'd be a hard pass from me. What kind of adult even expects gifts at a birthday party anymore?

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
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    I'd go, so I can call my mama after to talk shit about her. Don't care.


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  • Laura
    Master July 2017
    Laura ·
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    WTF. You couldn't pay me to attend this party... but you'd actually be paying TO attend. Smiley smile Don't go!

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  • OG Dianna
    Master March 2017
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    What. That is so tacky. No, I wouldn't gift cash... I don't know if I would even attend, tbh.

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  • Amberini22
    Expert September 2017
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    I'd sit this out.

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