Let me start by saying that I don't expect gifts for my birthday as an adult, except from H 
We were invited to a self hosted, 29th birthday at the couples home this weekend. It was a FB invite, very casual... Singlet and thongs kind of event.
Yesterday, I get a post notification from the birthday boys fiance saying: "Can you please bring cash as gifts, to help us finish our car modifications. Please dont bring alcohol as gifts as it will not get used. Thanks".
Ummm... WHAT?! Firstly, you're an adult. Do not expect gifts from anyone. Secondly, do not TELL me what I can bring, if I happen to choose to bring a gift!
Today, I get another post notification in the event.... "Remember guys, it's BYO alcohol and please bring money for pizza!"
What would you do? Would you bring "cash" as they so bluntly put it? I was going to get a nice bottle of wine and a card, now I'm considering skipping the gift all together!
