Not Inviting Parents

I can't relate, but I can say I support your decision. I hope you have a wonderful, magical day.

Not inviting my father. He has no place in my life and no place at my wedding. I will skip the father/daughter dance.. and no one is walking me down the aisle. I think I am ok with that.

This is a very personal decision for you. Just take the time to really think which decision you can live with.

I'm debating inviting my dad. He's not in my life and we haven't spoken in years. I'm definitely not doing a father daughter dance or having him walk me down the aisle, so I think he would feel awkward being there and not doing those things.

You are definitely right to not invite them. It'll be a fantastic day with the people that mean the most to you!

I have a great relationship with my parents but am not inviting a good portion of my biological family. We have no relationship at all. Whatever decision YOU make will be okay and people who love you should support you in it.

My mother is not invited. I made a huge long post about her previously. But I haven't seen her in 7 years. I told her I got engaged and she told me to stay out of her life.

I support your decision, anyone that abuses you shouldn't be allowed in your life.

I'm not in the same boat but it's definitely the right decision. It's great that your FH has a great relationship with his parents. It means you're marrying into a great family. Wish you the best.

I am not inviting my step-dad (who raised me & adopted me when I was 14). I have only seen my biological dad once that I remember in my life (I'm 46). Needless to say, he is not invited either.

Same here. My family is not coming. I have spoken to my FH and his family, they all understand and support me 100%. At the end of the day, their faults are not your faults. You deserve to be happy and live your life. You did not choose you parents, but you can still love them....from afar. Don't put that pressure on yourself, enjoy your day and enjoy starting your new life. Use that as motivation and a lesson of what not to be.

You deserve to be happy! Congrats and I wish you all the best!

Me and my father don't really have a relationship due to him not being present in my life.. he will be invited but my uncle (who is more of a father to me) will walk me down the aisle and I'll do my first dance with him as well.. However the decision is solely up to you.. If they abused you... And continued to do so I think that if you choose to not invite them no one would fault you

FH wants his father there but we decided he isn't invited. He is a child molester and we will have a lot of kids there... And we decided he wouldn't be in our kids lives. I know FH is in a lot of pain over the decision too. Hugs to you

Neither one of my parents were at my wedding years ago and no big deal. They are both deceased now so they obviously won't be at this one. Honestly, my mother would have just found fault in how I looked or how the wedding/reception went so no loss.

I am thinking the same way you are about my father. Do I invite him or not. I haven't talked to him or seen him in about 5 years, rough times growing up.

I think I have made up my mind to not invite him but I am still having a mother son dance for my MIL.

I know things can change from now until our June weddings but stick to your heart and you'll do the right thing. And remember you soon will have a husband by your side and that will be what matters most!

I'm inviting mine, but purposely am having a destination wedding so they won't come. I love my dad, but my mom was extremely abusive toward us and left my grandma to raise us after she moved in.

I don't want her there for any reason, and as much as I hate my dad not being there, but it isn't worth my sanity to have her there.

I cannot relate. But I definitely support your decisions.

I didn't invite my biological mother. I don't talk to her and when I have in the past she infuriates and hurts me. It is a very personal decision. Just decide and stick to your guns. You don't have to do any of those traditions.

I am inviting my parents and sister, but I am stressing about how things will play out. I talk to and see my family about 2 times a year, and its best that way. My mother and sister suffer from mental illness and after 30+ years, I had to walk away from the constant drama and emotional abuse. I am happier and healthier for it. (To be clear, I love them, that hasn't changed. And I do not 'blame' them for having an illness- I just couldn't continue to spend my life picking them up from every disaster and being the punching bag for them.)

That being said, I just couldn't bring myself not to invite them. But I do have close family/friends who are very aware of the situation and have dealt with them before- so without me even asking, there are 5 people who have promised to take turns wrangling them on the day of and ensuring that they are happy and calm. It definitely feels like I am jumping through hoops for them, but I feel it was the right decision for me.

That being said, it took months of soul searching to get there, and I think that if you have really sat down and envisioned your day with them vs without them and the fallout that may occur either way- then your decision is what is best for you. **And only you can really tell if you made the right decision for yourself.**

Not my dad. but my fiance step dad is absolutely not invited! ive been guilt-ed into inviting other family members that id rather not be there. but this is one i wont budge on! hes an absolutely awful person. among other insane and ignorant things hes done, he most recently threatened to shoot my fiance.... HES NOT COMING!

My father had very little to do with my up bringing but in recent years has made an effort to be in my life. However, sometimes I'm on the fence with our relationship. Some days I'm glad he's in my life, other times I can't come to forgive him for his absence.

I decided to invite him to my wedding and have him, along with my older brother, walk me down the aisle. But, I am not having a father-daughter dance. There just doesn't seem to be an appropriate song to dance to, so I'm opting out.

I think this is a very personal decision and I believe your husband to be would be more than understanding with however you decide. Good luck and listen to your heart.

My father isn't invited because he is/was (to put it nicely) a deadbeat dad....my stepdad and grandpa will be walking me down the aisle and I'm doing the father/daughter dance with my grandpa......it's a very hard, personal choice so you have to do what will make you happiest on your special day <3