Hey everyone ❤️ For anybody who had to accept they couldn’t have the wedding they always wanted, can I ask how you got through that and if you have any advice on what you did? And what you did to make a little ceremony feel special?
It is for financial reasons that we can’t do the traditional kind of wedding, we also tried to figure out a smaller one with 30-50 people. But it’s probably going to just be a ceremony with parents, siblings etc., which of course I’m incredibly grateful for to even have that.
I’ve always loved parties because I love to dance and celebrate that way, and I always pictured getting do that for our wedding and celebrating with all the people we love. Hosting parties was never really a part of my life growing up but I guess it was something I always wanted to do since it’s the one big event most people get to throw. I’m also an artist and love the idea of putting together an event that tells a story, and really fell in love with planning the theme and details and all those silly things. I wrote a song for my fiancé that I was hoping I’d get to sing it for him during our vows (I’m hoping it would still be appropriate to do that even with a handful of people?)
We also have a story surrounding what would have been our first dance song (we grew up together as friends and I shared what song I would want as my first dance, he insisted that HE wanted it, I told him he couldn’t copy me, so he said we’d just have to get married then 😅). So I’ve visualized what that would be like for a really long time. I was just so looking forward to getting to do all of that, and I think I underestimated just how much I had put my heart into that dream.
I’m incredibly grateful to have a partner who completes me in such a way that this could even be a problem, and to get the opportunity to celebrate through a ceremony with our closest loved ones that will be ours and I’m sure will feel beautiful and special to us. But it’s disappointing all the same to move on from something you’ve always wanted and thought you’d get to do.
For anyone here who wound up eloping and doing a very small ceremony, what were your favorite parts? What did you do after- go to a restaurant, etc? Did you somehow incorporate a first dance in another aspect (since we have a special connection with ours)?
I really, really appreciate you reading and for any tips you can share ❤️
