Not excited about getting a wedding dress

Hi Devon, if you'd rather put your budget towards something else, then by all means do that. I don't think you're weird, but I also don't think you know for sure how you're going to feel until you try on a wedding dress. Have you tried on any at all?

You may feel different after you try some on, but no- I don't think that's weird. I've seen some posts here recently with other ladies feeling the same way. A few actually chose a gorgeous bridesmaid dress and just ordered it in white or ivory. That may be a good option for you if you aren't finding anything else you like. Also, check out Davids Bridal sales. You can get dresses for $99+

Eh, I wasn't too excited to go shopping for mine, either. I know a lot of women grew up dreaming of their wedding dress/wedding day, but I didn't.

However, once I started trying on the dresses, I got really into it and enjoyed the process more than I ever thought I would.

That's totally ok. I got my dress online and never tried one on in a store. I was 100% happy. This is a "do what works for you" scenario.

Thanks ladies. I guess that I just needed a little reinforcement. I have not tried any dresses on yet and I also was not one of those little girls that dreamed about their wedding. Part of it is also that I hate clothes shopping and trying things on. I have always been that way lol

It wasn't a huge deal for me either.. The $99 sale at David's Bridal worked out perfect. You still may very well be weird, but not because of this ;-)

Honestly I am/was the same way. My wedding is not something I've dreamt of since I was 5 years old (like many women) and I didn't have any expectations of even finding a dress when I went last month. I tried on 11 dresses and went with the one that I looked the best in and liked the best. However, I never had that "this is THE dress" moment that women talk about. I think it really depends on what your priorities are. My moment will be when I go to walk and everyone turns around to look at me.

Everyone has different things they are excited or not excited about. Don't feel bad. (:

We all put priorities on different items through the wedding planning process. For some, flowers are a big deal but for me, I want to spend very minimal on this. For you it's the dress, and that's perfectly normal! As others said, you may get more excited about it once you start shopping and trying them on. I'm also going to start my dress shopping in January. Keeping my fingers crossed for both of us!

Everyone is different. I am more excited about the look on my FH's face when I walk down the aisle, followed by the food and decor than I am about my dresses. Being a bride is a personal experience that can vary greatly. Don't buy into the hype that the wedding industry and society say it's supposed to be.

Totally fine! I was exactly like @Jessi - wasn't excited beforehand but got really excited after trying them on.

I avoided it for a while. Mostly due to self-esteem.

Everyone has different priorities and interests in their wedding. Some people love going after their look. Some love going after their centerpieces and decor. Some love organizing favors and dessert tables. It's fine to feel that way!

I agree with @Caremn (Not Sandiego) I think that how you feel is completely normal and ok. You may start looking a dresses and really get into it, or you may still feel like its no big deal. Everyone is different and whatever moment or experience you love best about this whole planning, is yours to keep and cherish. Happy shopping !

I'm the same way. Haven't started shopping yet, other than online. I've always hated shopping and trying on clothes, so I'm not looking forward to dress shopping. Everyone around me is, of course.

I am planning on setting up appts to try on dresses (soon!), solely for my mom to have that experience. But as far as what I actually buy? It' will most likely be something online. And cheap.

Everyone's different. To me the dress was the most important part. What I had been dreaming of my whole life. So I was over the moon to try on dresses and find my perfect dress. Every fitting even I was super excited because I got to wear my dress for a little while. But I can see other people being more concerned with other aspects. I feel that it's all about balance. Since the dress was what was important to me, I spent a larger percent of my budget on it. If it's not such a big deal to you but there is another part of the day that matters more to you, then spend more of your money on that.

I felt the same way. I'm not one for fashion in my everyday life so I didn't feel that my wedding day should be much different. Try checking out some consignment shops in your area. That's where I just found my (second, oops) dress for $400. There was also a thread on here yesterday I think where a bride was asking about wearing a white dress that wasn't actually a bridal gown. You could search for bridesmaid or prom dresses for a fraction of the cost of a bridal gown, and you may find that they are more your style.

There are nice gowns that look bridal at department stores, as well as all of the other suggestions that PPs gave. good luck ;-) i don't think anyone would blame you for not wanting to spend alot of money on your self, that's your choice.

you can also look for sample sales too.

As crazy as this sounds I've been saving for a wedding dress even before I got engaged! I was obsessed with the say yes to dress show and felt horrible for these ladies who couldn't get the dress they loved because they couldn't afford it. But here I am only 8 months away and can't seem to go out and try gowns on. that whole build up of excitement just faded, don't worry you're not alone! Hopefully it will change for us.

It doesn't have to be expensive. I found lots of affordable dresses when I was looking for my elopement dress. You can go to sample stores, buy evening dresses, or buy second hand. I can even send you some links to dresses I was looking at if you let me know your size and budget

Buying my dress was not a big deal. I bought it while out shopping for something else at a department store. Less then $100.