Not enough bridesmaids!

I need this advice too lol

I wouldn't worry about being even - I have 3 bridesmaids and my FH has 5 groomsmen... that's just the way it is! I considered adding 2 to my side to even it out but then realized that there is no one who I want other than the 3 gals I've picked to stand up with me on my big day so 3 and 5 it is!

The sides don't need to be even, and you should have girls that you truly love and that truly support you standing with you on your day. Not to mention, you have a year and a half until your wedding -- nothing will really need to be done before this summer, so perhaps you'll be closer to someone by then. Give it time, don't rush to pick girls and then have issues arise, as I've seen many other ladies on these boards go through.

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Definitely don't pick attendants just to balance the numbers. That's likely to create way more drama than it's worth! If you have male friends, you could invite them to be bridesmen. But otherwise, I'd suggest just sticking with the two, and letting the sides be uneven.

We was kinda that way, I don't have any close friends for the last few years (long story) and I wanted my sisters but which one, FH told me to ask them both, so I did, then it snow balled, they both accepted, then my one sisters daughter was kidding around about being in the wedding, I said something to FH about it and again he ask why I didn't ask her daughters, so I did then other sister felt like her daughter got slighted so I ended up with 5 bridesmaids, I don't mind and I'm gonna have my family there with me and have fun that day, I have not had my sisters together since August 2006, so I know it's gonna be great.

Advice #1: Don't ask anyone for the sake of even numbers! There's always a way to arrange the processional/recessional and photos to make any uneven WP look great. It's better to focus on the people you want standing with you. Asking someone you're not really close to just for the sake of evening things out is a recipe for awkwardness and/or disaster.

Advice #2: Do open your mind to ALL the people close to you. Not just the girls. My brother was my "man of honor." He was awesome.

Advice #3: Don't ask anyone until Thanksgiving. Seriously - relationships can and do change. And your wedding plans can and will likely change, at least a little. Maybe in 5 months, you guys decide you want to downsize your plans, or you have to downsize your budget - if you've asked people, you've asked them. They're in. It's better to wait until you're 8-10 months out, NO earlier, b/c this isn't a request you can take back without hurting feelings and causing drahma.

That's my .02.

FH Response: I don't have any long term friends (it's a military thing). Many family members on my side will not travel that far to the to wedding destination.

Resolution: Invited FB immediate family :-) They are more than willing and we are very close! They all consider it a honor. You don't have to invite friends only.

~J~

Don't worry about the numbers, I'm having 2 BM ( my BF & daughter) & FH is having 4 GM (his only brother, & my 3 boys)

I have four bridesmaids and four groomsmen, my soon to be sister-in-law had six of each I think. It's your day - do what you want and have fun doing it!

I had that same issue. But i don't want anyone standing up next to me 'just to make it even'.

My FH is having 6 groomsmen PLUS his best man who will also officiate the wedding.

I only have 4 bridesmaids. So i am also having my mom stand up with me as an "honor attendant" since I consider her and my sister my best friends.

Our numbers will still be off, but i could care less. its my day darnit! :o)

We each could have had several on each side...but we opted for only one on each...1 MOH and 1 Best Man

Thanks everyone for your advice!

My advice is its best to pick the people who will really be there for you and support you in planning your wedding. I chose a second person because FH has two and it turned out to be a disaster and I had to put her out of the wedding (after 18 years of friendship). Please don't pick someone just to reach a number. Choose based on your heart so you won't look back one day with regrets.