No thank you notes?

Not going overboard. Handwrite your thank yous!!

That's really the lack of basic manners. How long has it been since the wedding?

Two months... I seriously doubt we are getting them. But nbd I just thought maybe I didn't have to do all the work I was planning

Absolutely not! I think in the age of technology the rules of ettiquette or being forgotten or misinterpreted, imho. A hand written thank you card is a must, imho. If someone wants to send a post card, they should at least write a personal note on the post card.

I finally got mine out after a little over a month. All handwritten - thank you very much.

Not sending a note is very rude, in my opinion. I don't see a problem with sending a postcard, but not writing anything on it screams of laziness. :-/

You may still get the note.

But haha, you're not off the hook :-)

The wedding we recently went to we never received any thank you's for the bridal shower gift or the wedding gift.

It kind of makes me feel old fashioned that I expect hand written notes for thank you's. M wants to start writing them now so we can just send them out the day after the wedding but I told him we have to personalize every single one of them. It may be quite the undertaking but it's the way my grandparents raised me.

Seems to be the new trend...I have been hearing this alot.

I will however send a handwritten note to all my guests : )

Unfortunately, some people don't follow proper etiquette, but thank you notes are still a must.

Of the 5 weddings we sent gifts for, we received 4 thank you notes...1 couple has sent neither a thank you note for wedding gift or shower gift. The idea that you have a year is pretty ridiculous as well. 3 months should be ample time for anyone. This couple's shower was 6 months ago and the wedding was 5 months ago. It is really rude.

It's not a trend. It's rude. If this is a current trend, then the next one should be not giving gifts.

I don't think people are being taught basic manners these days. It's a sense of entitlement for the younger generations. Some only converse via text messages and facebook.

My friend got married in early July and we didn't receive a thank you card until October. It basically only said thank you for attending, nothing about my gift at all. I contacted her to make sure she had received my gift, because I would feel like a POS if she thought we didn't bring one. She said she got the gift, but didn't know who it came from (supposedly the card detached).

I think either A) she didn't know that you're supposed to write down the gift and who you received it from when you start opening them, not just tear into them. or B) she didn't know to include a little personal message about the gift.

My parents have yet to receive a thank you note AT ALL for the wine cooler they got her and she absolutely loves wine! I even told her it was from them. I can't say I'm surprised though.

Our wedding was almost 4 months ago and we are still writing thank you notes. I know we are way behind by most people standards and hope to get the notes out by the end of next week.

So perhaps the thank yous are still coming?

We received a thank you from my cousin's wedding a year after the event.

I havn't recieved a ty card for the wedding we attended in August.

We have all but about 7 of ours out, which I need to get on... One is a family member who has moved since the wedding and DH parents don't have the adress so we're gonna have to call an aunt. The others are a few people who wern't invited to the wedding but gave us gifts after, and our reverend and photographer.

That said the date under my name is wrong we got married end of Sept, and The rest of my ty's were all hand made, I just ran out cause I only made enough for all the guests and shower guests, so I've been dreading making more cards cause Im currently making Christmas cards. Our family and friends cards were out within 3 weeks of the wedding (with exception of the one cousin of DH)

Those who do not hand write their thank you notes do so because they do not know better. I have received pre-printed thank you cards which I still think is rude unless you print them yourself individually for each person.

A thank you card should address the person by name and also note the gift with a personal comment.

I'm a faithful reader of Miss Manners (I'm such an advice column addict!) so I can say it's both-- it's a trend AND incredibly rude.

Definitely not overboard. My FH was just in a wedding and the same thank you post card/picture arrived with no personal note. I think the time I spent picking out your gift means you can take a little time out to acknowledge it and send me a personal note. For every thing that we've gotten one of us has personally written a note back about how much we appreciate it. I went to a wedding last May as a friend's date and even though she said she had taken care of the gift for both of us I still bought my own separate, nice gift. Still haven't gotten a thank you card, post card, or even note on FB. If its a trend, its a very rude one!

Post card sounds ok. The no thank you note, trend or not is wrong. My niece's wedding coordinator told her not to order thank you. She's SSY it's wrong too also. What happened to us, that not saying ty is okay? Bad enough we have crazy folks heading up the country..Lets keep it real--nice and grateful ))????

Sorry my comment came out funny.thats whst I get for using the speaker haha. Sending a thank you is always in order, period. My niece's send me Ty's for gifts also. I trained them well haha ????????

Damn, using spell check is bad also. I really can write )) haha ????