No thank you cards (vent)

My best friend (I was the moh) actually brought hers on her honeymoon to fill them out! She hand wrote almost 100 thank you cards! So i would feel the same way that you do!

That is completely rude. I write TY's for everything too, lol....There is nothing as thoughtful as a hand written note.

I know how you feel. My FH and I went to a wedding in January that was very disappointing. Gave the couple a nice gift, and nothing from them. Disappointment all around.

I wonder if it's starting to be seen as dated to write them. I have been to 5 weddings over the last couple of years, and didn't receive a thank you card from 3 of the couples. That said, I agree--a card to say thank you is the least one can do to show appreciation.

Oh my goodness! Hell I wrote thank you notes for my son's birthday gifts from friends that attended his party!

Maybe we're all just super polite? Lol

I never got a thank you note from a very good friends wedding (now my MOH) and of course never said anything. I thought it was odd but assumed she was very busy. At one point she mentioned her thank you cards and I said I didn't get it to which she burst into tears. She said she sent it and can't believe we didn't get it. She was mortified and worried about how many other people didn't get theirs. Don't let it get to you too much. It could be a post office error.

Totally get it, we went to a wedding once and they sent a generic thank you that was printed on the card.

Oh no! @PerfectlyPolin that's a good point. I definitely wouldn't ask her, but I'll look at it that way, hopefully that is what happened!

Maybe ask if they received the gift -- giving them the benefit of the doubt and a prod.

I have a related question - if someone sends a wedding gift (not wrapped) are you supposed to wait for the wedding to send a thank you note, or can I go ahead and send it?

When Brides and new Mothers don't write thank you notes, I blame their mothers who failed to impress upon them the importance of doing so. All gifts were hidden until a note was written when I was growing up.

I'm with you,@Dr James. I was wondering if some people are trying to phase them out too! 3/4 weddings I attended or sent gifts to did not write a thank you note. I did get a thank you text from one though? Regardless, I am not into this trend. Handwritten note for sure!

So people (not ALL) wait for their photographers to get the pictures in order. A year is way to long but I've known some where it was a good couple of months for that reason alone.

ETA : spelling

This drives me crazy!! FH and I have been to I think 5 or 6 weddings over the past 3 years and not a single one of them sent us a thank you card!! I find it terribly rude and especially we ordered a couple of the gifts online and had them sent to the couple so I hate not knowing if they received them or not! I will be sending thank you cards as soon as I get the gifts! I understand they may need a few months or something if they are waiting for a picture or something but a year is way too long and not sending one at all is rude!

FH's cousin got married last august and we got a thank you note in June. I was shocked we even got one

I completely understand. Some very good friends of ours got married 2 and 1/2 years ago and we never received a thank you note. To this day, and more so since we started planning, it still bothers me a little. We try to give them the benefit of the doubt and perhaps our card was missing from the gift and they didn't know it was from us. However, if that's the case, then they think we got them nothing! Oh well, it's not worth mentioning and we are all still great friends despite the lack of thank you card for their wedding gift.

One wedding I went to, the thank you note came almost a year later.

Yea....IMO, TU cards really need to be handwritten & in the mail within 2-3 months. I'm totally using address labels, though : )

We sent thank you's a month and a half after the wedding ( we did a 2 and half week honeymoon and I ordered thanks yous from vistaprint when we got back) and felt like shit cause it took us so long. I can't image not sending thank you at all! Although, I'm still waiting for a thank you for a wedding we went to last October. Haha

Understand completely! I'm waiting on a thank you card from a shower that happened a month before a wedding from this past May. As well as a thank you for the wedding gift.

If you get a gift in the mail there is no reason why a thank you can't be sent.